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What to do about kids who talk back?
tq
07/07/01 at 01:04:34
Assalamo elikuim

Are there any other parents on this board?

Wasalam
tq
Re: Am i the only Parent here!!
salamrae
08/15/00 at 01:32:40
Yes .
Assalamu Alaikum ,
I am a parent. I have three children. A girl seven, a girl three, a boy 9 months.

I would like to share with other parents raising thier children in Islam. Escpecially in America . It can be a task.,

I have a question and maybe some could give me some advise. My oldest is very smart, she learns her surahs, and arabic, she does well in her grade school. But she talks back alot. And this is one thing I HATE.  I have tried so many things. Please if anyone can help me I would love some new ideas.
It is very frustrateing. She talks back so much even strangers make comments to her.
Insha'Allah I will learn something here that will help.
thanks
Salam
Rae
Re: Am i the only Parent here!!
Kathy
08/15/00 at 10:00:03
As salaamu alaykum!
I am a mother of a six year old son and a babysitter of many!
Tq- I have found that action figures are great for travel, expecially an old favorite and a new one! Imaginations provide the best fun!

Rae- what kind of talking back are you asking about? "The I know it all and am going to correct you" or The disrecpectful kind?
What have you tried?
Re: Am i the only Parent here!!
tq
08/15/00 at 13:33:05
Assalamo elikuim
Thnaks Kathy! My older one is also almost 6( he will be 6 in Oct, INshallah).

Rae: Try explaining it to her that she is the perfect daughter any one can ask for expect for one thing(talk back). Usually  school going kids take ones word very seriously, think that they are very important if you talk to them like adult i.e. trying to make them see what is right and let them make decision. Tell her that when she does that (actually it depends on what she talk back ) it looks as if she is being mean which she is not, and it looks like she doesn't respect others , which is not. Tell her Allah likes people who are better in manner (akhlaq ).


Wasalam
tq


Re: Am i the only Parent here!!
salamrae
08/18/00 at 01:11:30
Assalamu Alaikum,

Thank you for your advice. I will keep praying and trying. I have spanked her(Idont like that),taken things away, grounded her...
but she talks back to me in such a way I get very angry.  Insha'Allah I will try to reenforce to her in a better tone. Perhaps she responds more to my anger.
Re: Am i the only Parent here!!
Kathy
08/18/00 at 10:13:48
As salaamu alaykum.
Have you tried ignoring her when she mouths back? Often a child finds it more painful not to have the attention of their parent. My son is devestated when I use this form of "punishment".
I just look at him in a non expressional way, tell him that his remarks have hurt his beloved mother and walk away.


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