[MADRASA] Parenting, Child's rights, Shaving the head, Aqiqas

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[MADRASA] Parenting, Child's rights, Shaving the head, Aqiqas
widad
07/09/01 at 01:29:44
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"O ye who believe!
Betray not the trust
Of Allah and the Messenger,
Nor misappropriate knowingly
Things entrusted to you.
And know ye
That your possessions
And your progeny(children)
Are but a trial,
And that it is Allah
With whom lies
Your highest reward."
(S.8,ayas27-28 ).

Dear brothers and sisters,it is such a big thing  entrusted(as "amana) to us by Allah subhanahu watala,our children.
People just get children and just let them go without proper islamic teaching,it is a pity for the parents and for the kids.Bringing up kids is  such a big "amana",and people do not know what the result of misguidance or neglegence could do to them or their kids.
I mean these kids could be a time bomb(timed for the Day of Judgement),they might cause us to go to Hellfire.
On the other hand they could be our road to jannat al-firdaws.

Re: Parenting...
widad
09/16/00 at 11:45:53
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The Child's rights:
First:
To choose a good pious wife(she will be the future mother of your children).
Second:
When a baby is born,you must make "athan" in his right ear and "Iqama" in his left ear.
Third:
"tahneek" the baby,that is to chew the date and to rub the inside of his mouth(if not available,any aweet substance)to follow the sunnah of the prophet sala Allahu alyhi wasallam.(Al-Bukhary)
Fourth:
Giving the baby a good name(muslim),(abu dawood).
Fifth:
Breastfeeding the baby(surat Al-Baqara,aya 233).
Sixth:
Shaving the head,and giving to the poor the weight of the hair in silver.(hadeeth Al-Bukahry).
Seventh:
Al-aqiqa(a lamb for the girl and two for the  boy,on the seventh day after his birth),it is better if it is cooked and eaten from and send some to the neighbors and the poor.(al-tirmithy).
Eighth:
Circumcision.
Ninth:
Reading  this duaa as a refuge in Allah for the child from ashaytan arrajime:
"Ou'eethukuma bikalimatillahi attamah min kuli shaytanin wa hammah wa min kulli aynin lammah."(al-Bukhary).

Re: Parenting...
Kathy
09/19/00 at 08:54:58
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Widad- could you direct me to the book that talks about shaving the head in Al-Bukahry?
I looked and could not find it.
Any thoughts on how late in life this can be done?
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Re: Parenting...
bhaloo
09/19/00 at 10:50:02
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Kathy, the shaving head refers to Aqiqah which usually occurs on the 7th day a child is born.  Its not something one does when one becomes Muslim nor is it something one does much later in life.  


Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2832      Narrated by Samurah ibn Jundub
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: A boy is in pledge for his Aqiqah, Sacrifice is made for him on the seventh day, his head is shaved and he is given name.


I believe there are some articles on this at the jannah.org/sisters  location in much detail, if not let me know and I'll get the information and post it here if you want.
Re: Parenting...
bhaloo
09/19/00 at 10:50:10
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Kathy, the shaving head refers to Aqiqah which usually occurs on the 7th day a child is born.  Its not something one does when one becomes Muslim nor is it something one does much later in life.  


Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2832      Narrated by Samurah ibn Jundub
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: A boy is in pledge for his Aqiqah, Sacrifice is made for him on the seventh day, his head is shaved and he is given name.


I believe there are some articles on this at the jannah.org/sisters  location in much detail, if not let me know and I'll get the information and post it here if you want.
Re: Parenting...
widad
09/19/00 at 11:51:00
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Jazakallah khayr bhaloo.
Aqiqa is the sacrifice itself(the lamb),but the hadeeth means that (shaving and the aqiqa) are on the seventh day.People usually shave the newborn's head anytime between the seventh day and the fourtieth day after birth.
Inshallah I will get the ahadeeth and post them,I only wanted to put a summary at first of the rights of a child from the time he is born.
Re: Parenting...
widad
09/21/00 at 12:18:59
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Narrated Salman bin Amir Ad-Dabbi,
I heard Allah's Messenger(sala Allahu alyhi wasalm) say:
"Aqiqa is to be offered for a newly-born boy so slaughter an animal for him and relieve him of his suffering."(Bukhary).
{Note:it has been quoted in Fath Al-Bari that the majority of the religious scholars agree to the hadeeth,narrated in sahih al-tirmithy,that the prophet was asked about "Aqiqa" and he ordered two sheep for the boy and one for the girl and that this is his sunnah.}
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Re: Parenting...
widad
09/21/00 at 12:25:37
Narrated Abu Musa(radia Allahu anhu):
A son was born to  me and I took him to the prophet (sala Allahu alyhi wasallam)who named him Ibrahim and did 'tahneek' for him with a date,invoked Allah to bless him and returned him to me."(Bukhary).
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Re: Parenting...
widad
09/21/00 at 14:44:15
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Hadeeth pertaining to aqeeqa and shaving the head:

It was reported that Samurah ibn Jundub (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: the Messenger of Allaah  (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A boy is ransomed by his ‘aqeeqah. Sacrifice should be made for him on the seventh day, he should be given a name and his head should be shaved.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1522; al-Nasaa’i, 4220 and Abu Dawood, 2838. The hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani, may Allaah have mercy on him, in al-Irwaa’ 4/385
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Re: Parenting...
widad
09/21/00 at 14:45:49
Hadeeth pertaining to aqeeqa  and circumcision:

It was reported from Salmaan ibn ‘Aamir (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet  (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For the boy there should be an ‘aqeeqah. Slaughter (an animal) for him and remove the harmful thing [i.e., the foreskin] from him.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1515; al-Nasaa’i, 4214; Abu Dawood, 2839; Ibn Maajah, 3164. The hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani, may Allaah have mercy on him, in al-Irwaa’, 4/396).
Re: Parenting...
Kathy
09/22/00 at 08:48:49
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This seems to be an important thing to do for a new baby. Why do you think that this hadith is not in Muslim or Bukahri?
Re: Parenting...
Arsalan
09/22/00 at 10:01:40
Assalamu alaikum,
[quote]Why do you think that this hadith is not in Muslim or Bukahri?[/quote]
Most probably Imam Bukhari and Imam Muslim missed it!  That is, they were not told about it.

Bukhari and Muslim are both 100% authentic.  However, they don't contain ALL the authentic traditions/sayings of the Prophet (pbuh)

Wallahu a'lam.
Re: Parenting...
widad
09/22/00 at 13:39:34
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No,Bukhary and Muslim did not miss it,but they had a special system,if there was even one person in the chain of reporters who was known for lying even once or had a problem with his memory,they would not authenticate the hadeeth.
Now, on the other hand if the hadeeths that were not authenticated by neither Bukhary nor Muslim, but were reported by more than one chain(and proven in more than one of the other seven books such as :Abu Dawood,Altirmithy,Ibn majeh,Ahmed),then the hadeeth gets stronger seeing that they were told by many people.
WA Allahu a'alam.
NS
Re: Parenting...
widad
10/12/00 at 08:56:02
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Now that we got the primary rights of the child clear,what are their other rights?
To feed and shelter them?
To dress them properly and take them to good schools??
To have them get Masters and Phd.s??
To see then doctors and teacher and scientists??
"ahhh there goes my son the doctor(sigh!)"
Is that all??
NS


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