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| Kashif |
| 01/22/01 at 12:17:08 |
| assalaamu alaikum This is directed to two groups of people: (a) Those who have helped a person take the shahadah. After the shahadah was taken, what sort of support was given to the new muslim? What are the important things to keep in mind when teaching a new Muslim, and what kinda activities should you involve him/her in? (b) Revert Muslims Having taken the shahadah, when you look back what do you consider to have been the most important and practical pieces of advice/help that were given to you when you reverted? What do you wish was done better or what do you wish you were also told which you found out later? Is there anything that you wish you were not told? Kashif Wa Salaam |
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| Malika |
| 01/22/01 at 16:29:36 |
[quote] (b) Revert Muslims Having taken the shahadah, when you look back what do you consider to have been the most important and practical pieces of advice/help that were given to you when you reverted? [/quote] Sister Zinab told me that whatever good comes from a person is from Allah. The evil/everything else that comes from them is from themselves. This helps me alot in dealing with people. [quote]What do you wish was done better or what do you wish you were also told which you found out later?[/quote] I wish I were told that new muslims lead a very lonely life until someone allows them to be a part of the "group". Unless you are fortunate to meet some sisters who have grown beyond that. As far as something being done better - nothing could ever be better that Allah forgiving you and bestowing his mercy on you for ALL your past sins and allowing you a new start in life. Also knowing that Allah is oft-forgiving. [quote] Is there anything that you wish you were not told?[/quote] I wish I wasn't told that Muslim men know how to treat their women. it should have been more like "The muslim brothers that are serious about their deen and gaining Allah's favor know how to treat their women" (Ok there might be a little bite here but this takes awhile to recover from) But...Wallahu A'Lam |
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| haaris |
| 01/23/01 at 09:51:53 |
| The best thing was the immediate friendliness with which I was greeted, although it bordered on overwhelming. So many people were trying to give me books and literature, it was incredible. The best thing I received was a tape from a brother at the London Central Mosque who runs a circle. The tape was a repeat-after-me kind of thing and just had the main parts of salat: tashahud and that sort of thing and five surat of the Holy Quran (al-fatiyah, al-ikhlas, al-asr, al-falaq and an-nas). May Allah reward all of those who were involved in making and distributing that tape, it really made learning to pray easier and far more interesting. As for the difficult bits: too much too soon (a consequence of trying to run before I could walk) and the differences amongst the Muslims themselves. I know that it shouldn't be the case but it is, or at least was then. Sometimes I would ask one person about something and get a "Oh, you don't want to do it like that, do it like this" answer. It's really disheartening when you think that you've just entered into a brotherhood to find out that you haven't really because not everyone sees themselves as part of a brotherhood. On the plus side, Alhamdullilah, this board goes a long way to rectifying that. May Allah bless you all. Salaam. |
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| Ikani |
| 01/24/01 at 04:58:21 |
[quote]As for the difficult bits: too much too soon (a consequence of trying to run before I could walk) and the differences amongst the Muslims themselves. I know that it shouldn't be the case but it is, or at least was then. Sometimes I would ask one person about something and get a "Oh, you don't want to do it like that, do it like this" answer. It's really disheartening when you think that you've just entered into a brotherhood to find out that you haven't really because not everyone sees themselves as part of a brotherhood. On the plus side, Alhamdullilah, this board goes a long way to rectifying that. May Allah bless you all. Salaam.[/quote] :) Assalamu aleikum :) Yeah, things can seem confusing at times when someone gives you this opinion and then someone else says 'no, do it this way' - it was tough for me at times when I'd ask questions about things I couldn't fully understand in Islam. The search for knowledge... In my opinion, stick to the basics first (something all muslims agree on - teachings from the Qur'an and then the Hadith), then for other issues regarding scholars' opinions, I guess you just take the most convincing explanations (with the most accurate proof from the Qur'an and Hadith) to you. At times still, you may have to use your own discretion. Remember we're all human. http://www.geocities.com/iisule/inthemotionsofthewinds.html |
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| Kathy |
| 01/27/01 at 22:18:52 |
| slm After the shahadah was taken, what sort of support was given to the new muslim? Humdil Allah- a single sister took a liking to me- grabbed my hand and never let go! What are the important things to keep in mind when teaching a new Muslim, and what kinda activities should you involve him/her in? Teach 'em how to pray! Ask them to join you in everything! Some newbies may be shy and not used to religion being a way of life. They may be used to just a once a week religion. Let them decide what and when they will be comfortable in joining in. Having taken the shahadah, when you look back what do you consider to have been the most important and practical pieces of advice/help that were given to you when you reverted? I really needed someone to take me by the hand. I was the type that liked to peek out from behind to see what was going on. I am a white female, and at that time I had never been exposed to other cultures. In fact I had only met one African American. So it was quite a shock to see all of those "foreigners"! I would have loved a lesson in "cultural manners.", as I realize that it has nothing to do with Islam- yet I was so nervous of doing anything wrong. One of the best pieces of advice was regarding the scarf. It was real hard for me to do. I felt like such a hypocrite. I think that piece of cloth was such a barrier for me. - One day a sister said 'When you are ready you will wear it' It was so comforting and I stopped focusing the entire religion on it. She was right- one day I just did it!- and have never taken it off since! What do you wish was done better or what do you wish you were also told which you found out later? Clarify this for me. Is there anything that you wish you were not told? I was given alot of advice that in later years, I found not to be true- Also, my heart was really pure and niave. I assumed that all Muslims were good and had honorable intentions. One thing I found very interesting was the behaviour of the men. Before becoming Muslim they were all so outgoing teaching me and with their advice. The moment I became Muslim- purdue went into full effect- and I felt ousted! Now I understand- but at the time it surely was perplexing! |
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