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| Anonymous |
| 01/30/01 at 08:21:39 |
| salaam, this one sister approached me, I don't really know her. But she said she liked me for her brother (for marriage). We've been communicating back and forth and I finally told her to just leave it up to the parents, that we should just tell them and let them decide what to do next. But then she said that she wants me to talk to her brother to see if we "clique". Err, I don't really feel comfortable with that at all. I think she meant she wanted me to talk to him on the phone. I don't even talk to guys online there's no way I'll talk to him on the phone, how am I supposed to talk to this guy without a mahram??? What should I tell her? Suggestions anyone? |
| NS |
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| Al-Basha |
| 01/31/01 at 09:58:37 |
| Salamu Aliakom sister, Interesting dilemma, well my recommendation is go through the parents. If your friends brother wants to marry you then tell her to tell him to go to your father. Also, do your parents know about any of this? And what does your friend mean by click? Honestly I don't recommend going for this smoke and mirrors business. Get your parents involved, and if the brother is really serious he will speak to your father about this. Wa Allahu A3laam |
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| Malika |
| 01/31/01 at 14:26:35 |
| slm Yusuf, by clique she means if there is any common ground you share. This can be accomplished with the parents involved. at some point you will have to talk to him if the interest is genuine. Does he even know about (the brother) what the sister is trying to accomplish? InshaAllah if it is meant to be it will! I think what the sister is doing is good. To have your family looking out for you like that is great. She knows him and obviously she thinks you are a great person since she wants you to become a part of her family. Like I said earlier if the thoughts are genuine them marshaAllah! Wallahu a'lam |
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| Safiya |
| 02/01/01 at 02:11:30 |
| slm sister its pretty straight forward, u know u cant speak to this guy without a mahram, or with out even being enganged,its a good thing it doesn't feel right with u as its probably not the right way to go about it....just tell your parents then theycan arrange a meeting for u too. waslaam hope it works out:) |
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| Saleema |
| 02/05/01 at 12:59:39 |
| Assalam ualykum, i have pretty much the samea advise as everyone else. :) hope it works out if it's good for both of you. the following message is for Nazia: so you getting married? me too. by next year, i think, if not, definately then the year after it. i'm already nervous! can you believe it!?! wassalam |
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| PacificBreeze |
| 02/24/01 at 03:40:24 |
| salaams sis, masha'allah pretty much the same advice everyone else is giving...ask her that you'd like your parents to be aware of him as well..and to get to know him too..and you'd appreciate it if they can be the "messenger" in btwn to find out if you two really do click..and so this way if there is some sort of common ground and compatibility then...you're on the right track and the parents definitely know how to make it more serious! (matai/halwah anyone? :P ) also, sis, masha'allah, it's cool that you posted your scenario on here for everyone to benefit from..a very good reminder for all of us on how we should behave and the whole opposite gender issue..masha'allah..jazakillahu khairan..may Allah keep all of us in hayah..ameen.. so..shall we be hearing wedding bells anytime soon? :) wa salaamu alaikum & crashing waves.. |
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