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| Anonymous |
| 02/16/01 at 00:28:14 |
| Assalamu Alaikum Does anyone know of "The Muslim Marriage Guide" by RW Maqsood? I have heard a variety of things about this book, from that it is very good to that it is very bad. I would like to be the judge myself, but I have been looking around and there is all talk of an "uncensored" version which has since been changed to a "censored" version? I would like to obtain the "uncensored" version if possible? Anyone know where this version can be found, or how to tell which version the online stores are selling? Thanks wassalam. |
| NS |
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| jannah |
| 02/16/01 at 02:10:55 |
| wlm, i didn't know there was a censored version? i wonder what that means. i do have the book and have read it. hmm i think most of the controversy comes from the fact she is very frank with her opinions on certain things and it dwelves alot into the intimate relationship between husband and wife. all in all i dunno i think it's good to get alot of perspectives from married ppls :D |
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| Arsalan |
| 02/16/01 at 13:15:01 |
| Assalamu alaikum, There's an [i]excellent[/i] 3-part series out by Jibaaly on this topic. I forgot the names of the books! I think it's published by the Qur'an and Sunnah Society. I'll try to find out insha Allah. |
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| Al-Basha | 8/tr>
| 02/17/01 at 03:38:27 |
| Salamu Aliakom, Check out some of the comments on the book on Amazon.com http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/8185063257/ref%3Dsim%5Fbooks/104-7902678-1351934 I guess there are 2 versions to the book, as apparently Amazon sells the censored one? I think Astrolab sells it too, dunno if it is the uncensored one though. The thing is the whole censorship issue makes the book sound provocative, and Allahu A3laam but I don't think that is right. |
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| Nurain |
| 02/18/01 at 12:41:40 |
| Bismilah arRahman arRahiem Salaam alaykum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuhu I read the first part of the three part series that Arsalan mentioned. It's really good and also very up to date. The first part is called "The quest for Love and Mercy"(regulations for marriage and wedding in Islam, second part; "Closer than a garment"(marital intimacy according to the pure sunnah) and the third part is called "The fragile vessels"(rights and obligations between the spouses in Islam). Ma3a Salama, Nurain. |
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| Arsalan |
| 02/18/01 at 13:07:57 |
| That's it! Jazak Allahu Khairan Nurain. [slm]'w |
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| Anonymous |
| 02/19/01 at 01:32:11 |
| Who is the author of this three-part book? Assalamu Alaikum |
| NS |
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| Nurain |
| 02/19/01 at 11:09:44 |
| Bismilah arRahman arRahiem Salaam alaykum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuhu The author of this three part series is called Muhammad al-Jibaaly.(al-kitaab&as-sunnah publishing) Ma3a Salama, Nurain. |
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| Kashif |
| 02/19/01 at 18:05:23 |
| assalaamu alaikum I was in Dar al-Taqwa today and having seen this thread on the board i decided to flick thru both books. The one by Sh. Jibaali was very authentic and covered lots of issues, and looked like it dealt with alot of the dos and don'ts of marriage. It also included a section on fatawa by various scholars in the back of the book. I spent a little longer reading the book by sr. Ruqaiyah, and i liked the look of that one better. It seemed a bit more down to earth - dealing with issues like what to do when you come home and find your wife feeling down? What to do if your husband seems to not care about you? .. that is the issues that will crop up in your day-to-day lives as a married couple. My comments however maybe inaccurate since i only looked thru the books very briefly, and i would definitely recommend people to buy both of them. But before i sign off, this thread reminded me of a talk by Jamal Zarabozo in which he commented that its always the unmarried people who are most familiar with the books and hadith about marriage! hehe! Kashif Wa Salaam |
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| UmmZaid |
| 02/20/01 at 12:23:53 |
| Salaam 'Alaikum I didn't know there was a "censored" and an "uncensored" version, but I knew there was an authentic (the one she gets royalties from and gave rights to the publishers for) and a unauthentic (pirated, bootleg) version. The one with the blue cover is the pirated one, and of course, it is the most widely available one in the bookstores here. (rolling eyes) I have two of the three Jibaly books. (I didn't buy the first one, as I already have about 9 books on that topic and I'm married anyway). They were okay, but I don't think that he is really speaking on the basic, emotional level. I would highly recommend the one about intimacy for a person who is unfamilar with some things, as he goes into detail about biology, and about diseases, and things that Muslims are usually too embarassed to talk about or buy books about, YKWIM? The problem I found with the Jibaly books was that they are assuming for a certain situation, which, IMO isn't present in real life many times. He doesn't talk about what if the wife has issues with this, or what if the husband has an issue with that, or dealing with the less than ideal situations that arise in marriage. In real life, you just don't go up to a husband who's stressing from working x amont of hours and striving to pay the bills and go off about your rights to this and that or whatever. AND VICE VERSA for the men! The Maqsood book is not a book of Marriage Fiqh, and I wish people would stop criticizing it like it was supposed to be one. Her book is for the EMOTIONAL issues, the very real ones, that come up in a marriage. I mean, let's face it, many Muslims have never been that close to someone of the opposite sex, in a relationship. Her book is about telling people how it is that you talk to someone, deal with someone when it is your first time in an intimate relationship. I found the book to be straightforward, written in an engaging manner, and I felt that her book fills a gap. We don't have enough books for Muslim parents, husbands and wives, that address non fiqh issues and address emotional issues that come up in families. |
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| BrKhalid |
| 02/20/01 at 16:22:47 |
| Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) I bought the book, lent it to my brother and haven't seen it since!!!! Read into that what you may ;-) |
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