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| my mother wants to become Muslim |
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| Anonymous |
| 02/24/01 at 20:18:51 |
| Assalam Alaikum I converted to Islam 8 years ago now. My mother over the years has asked questions about Islam, and I have told her alot here and there. Now she is at the point she would like to become muslim now, but there's one problem my father, which I love dearly. My mother is wondering if she became muslim what happens to their marriage. Is it considered a divorce if she changes.My father knows some about Islam, but at the moment has no intention to change. I love both of my parents and I wouldn't want them to separate for any reason, also my mother, as she loves him very much.Please is any one knows what I could do about this situation feel free to responsed.Assalam Alaikum. |
| NS |
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| Kashif |
| 02/25/01 at 13:58:04 |
| assalaamu alaikum Dear anonymous, this is a *very* tricky situation and really the best thing that i can suggest is to sit and get the advice of a local imam/scholar. However, i think your mother should take the shahadah without delay. Every moment living out of Islam is a moment of barakah that is lost for her, and no one knows when his/her time in this life is up. Please keep us updated. Kashif Wa Salaam |
| NS |
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| Arsalan |
| 02/25/01 at 14:47:45 |
| [slm] Anonymous, I agree with Kashif. This is the difference between hukm (ruling) and fiqh. The general ruling is, as you said, that a Muslim lady cannot stay married to a kaafir. But various situations demand various solutions. That's the job of a true faqeeh. Please consult your imam ASAP. Also, as Kashif said, your mother should take the shahadah without delay, if she is assured that this is the Truth. Like Hamza Yusuf said, a drunk Muslim is better than a sober kafir. That is, even if we suppose that your mother will be living in sin if she accepts Islam and doesn't separate from your father, it's still better than her living (and God forbid, dying) in the state of disbelief. Allah knows best. Wassalamu alaikum. |
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| Zahra |
| 02/26/01 at 16:04:46 |
| slm Wow anonymous, this is a tough situation. I also think that the best person to talk to is an imam/scholar-one who you have come to trust and know. This person can work with your entire family and insha'Allah, a solution can be reached. This can be very hard on you as these are your parents-your mom ready to accept Islam, your dad, not-so-sure. I pray that Allah guides your father to Islam so that your family will be complete and successful, insha'Allah. Remember to pray hard and read your Quran and remember that we are slaves of Allah-and not the doonya. |
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| Anonymous |
| 02/26/01 at 19:20:11 |
| Assalam Alaikum sisters thank you for all your help on this matter.I was thinking of doing what you have sugested before.Thank you again may Allah reward you. In a couple of weeks I will go and see my mother, she lives in the country about 4 hours drive.Insallah everything will work out for us. Pray for all of us. Assalam Alaikum. |
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| Safiya |
| 02/27/01 at 14:23:32 |
| [slm] i told of your situation to th ISLAM ONLINE FATWA COMMITTE and this was thier response -: As-salamu alaikum, If your mother believes in Islam and is ready for it then she should not wait even ONE minute, for any reason. What is more important, the Truth or people? She should aim to please God and not worry about others, even her husband. As for the situation with your father, some scholars say that they have three months to decide about thier marrige until they have to separate, unless he becomes a Muslim. I would recommend that you NOT tell your mother about these things. Rather, just tell her to become Muslim and not to worry about the "What's next?" Allah will help you all and guide you. Teach her how to pray and let her take her time on everything, especially the Hijab etc. Don't emphasise the "Do's" and the "Don't's" in the beginning. Emphasise the prayer and reading the Qur'an and visiting the Mosque when possible. All the rest will fall into place in due time, in sha Allah. May Allah guide your father's heart to OPEN to the Faith. Take care. |
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| Arsalan |
| 02/27/01 at 17:19:11 |
| [slm] Where is this Islam Online Fatwa Committee? Can you give me a URL? |
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| Safiya |
| 03/02/01 at 19:42:52 |
| [wlm] [url]www.islam-online.net[/url] guess u go to 'contact us' for queries |
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| humble_muslim |
| 03/04/01 at 3:16:56 PM |
| AA Wonderful advice! It makes a change to hear a fatwa with real hikmat in it, |
| NS |
| Back in '94, this happened... |
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| SuperHiMY |
| 03/05/01 at 04:42:40 |
AsalamAlay.com Peace and e-Greetings be upon you, I remember hearing about the 'First' muslim who reverted due to the internet. A woman had just kept on chatting and chatting and chatting and chatting in an online muslim chat room. She did not tell her hubby what she was spending all her time online with. By the Grace of the Almighty, she took shahada. hmmm...but hubby was still Christian. She...ahem...'cut him off'. So...after learning HOW his wife became muslim, he comes barging back into the same chat room, Typing all sorts of messages saying how MAD he is that since his wife became a muslim, she won't have sex with him, since he's NOT a muslim. The sisters' mostly did not know what to say. The brothers in the muslim chat room, they had a lot of patience and just kept on answering and answering and answering pretty much EVERY one of his Questions. When he ran out of questions...he became muslim. InshAllah, History will repeat itself. I dunno if this was the 'First' muslim reverted online, but it was the first online revert story 'I' had ever heard of. ~ HiMY! ~ |
| NS |
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| Arsalan |
| 03/05/01 at 12:50:50 |
| [slm] HiMY, interesting!!!! How long ago did this happen? The situation, nowadays, in Islamic chat rooms is much, MUCH different - unfortunately! If anything like this were to happen, the Muslims would answer back with even worse language and attitude, forgetting all Muslim adaab and throwing 'wisdom' and 'patience' into the bin! [sigh] At least the chat rooms that I have visited ... Wassalam. P.S. Ok, not everyone is like that. But most people are. |
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