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Birthdays
Laboogie
03/11/01 at 16:20:49
As-salamu alakium everyone,
  I'm not sure if this question has been mentioned before but if it did sorry for not keeping up. Anyways my quesiton is about Birthdays, what is the deal with birthdays in islam, do we celebrate them, do we recognize them but dont make a big deal about them? Can I get some authentic answer if possible and also I would like to know different opinions about the whole thing, how you have gotten around this issue. Thanks :)

salams
Re: Birthdays
Asim
03/11/01 at 19:18:05
Check http://www.islam-qa.com/ and search for birthday to find a scholarly opinion.

Wasalaam.
Re: Birthdays
Tarar
03/12/01 at 05:40:59
Try this either

www.fatwa-online.com

Tarar
Re: Birthdays
Kathy
03/12/01 at 08:50:59
slm

This is advice for all the future parents reading this topic.

I made the mistake of celebrating my son's birthday - so he could get it out of his system, and to appease aunts, uncles and grandparents.

Yikes- now he is sad that we will not do it again.
I wish I had never done it in the first place.

May Allah swt forgive me and let you all learn from my mistake.
Re: Birthdays
Kiwaku
03/13/01 at 15:11:56
This brings to mind an interesting delimma.

I have two daughters and no wife. For the past 6 years (for the eldest) and 4 years (for the youngest) their birthdays have been a big deal for them. I recently converted to Islam, and have every intention of bringing my daughters up to be good Muslimah.

What should I do?

In the area of birthdays, my parents will still try and impose their views on me and my children, this incldes christmas too. How should this be handled?

Wassalam
Steven
Re: Birthdays
BrKhalid
03/13/01 at 16:31:40
Asalaamu Alaikum ;-)

[quote]In the area of birthdays, my parents will still try and impose their views on me and my children, this incldes christmas too. How should this be handled?[/quote]

My word that's tough

Having no children myself, I have no idea! But I wonder given what Sr Kathy posted if it isn't worthwhile biting the bullet and confronting the issue now once and for all?

Sure it's going to be tough but if your intention is pure, Allah [swt] will help you overcome the hardship.

Just an opinion, interesting to see what others think.
Re: Birthdays
se7en
03/13/01 at 17:15:27
as salaamu alaykum wa rahmatAllah,

Kiwaku, Kathy, I think if you decide not to celebrate your children's birthdays, you should make Eid a *big* deal, have a party, give them gifts...

Last Eid here we took all the kids to Jeepers, a big indoor amusement park for kids, they had an awesome time :)

I think that your kids inshaAllah will have a better time adjusting if you give them an alternative to birthdays in which they can still have fun and get gifts...

wasalaam.
Re: Birthdays
jannah
03/13/01 at 22:33:02
yeah... and you can tell them they'll have TWO Eids, not just one birthday! :)
Re: Birthdays
Al-Basha
03/13/01 at 23:54:39
[slm]

I agree with the emphasis on making Eid very big. You know I remember when I was a kid, the excitement of getting presents on Eid, even if it was something small. Heh then I remember my uncles got my sister and I this huge box full of toys, it was crazy.

Now Eid's are like hmmmmmmmmm, so if you have kids masha Allah, then definatly Eid with them :)
Re: Birthdays
princess
03/16/01 at 20:44:49
as'salaamualikum :)

here's an idea..have em memorize like little sur'ahs and things like such, and celebrate THAT :) make that into like a HUGE deal :) especially if they r lil kiddies :) and of course..there's always the *EIDS* :) my 2 bits :) ma'salaam ;-D  


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