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| Lost!.....what do I do? |
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| Anonymous |
| 03/15/01 at 17:13:53 |
| slm, In the Quest-ionaire thread this answer by se7en caught my attention:- "One of my roommates at a conference I attended. She doubted Islam, Allah. Even when reasoned with, even when she understood intellectually what we were saying she couldn’t accept things. She was in serious despair and anguish, truly unhappy. She knew Islam was right but something in her wouldn’t allow her to accept it without questioning and doubting. It was frustrating, confusing, and it hurt to even look at her go through this. I still wonder what happened to that sister. May Allah grant her guidance and shifa." This is exactly how I feel. Upto now I could never find the words to express how I feel but on reading that, I could see myself. I am a brother and need to find faith again. I've always believed Islam is the right path but find so much doubt and conflict within me. I'm alone and too afraid to turn to people as no one understands me everything I do eventually backfires on me. When I pray I'm on auto-pilot and theres nothing from the heart. What do I do? Jazzakallah-khair |
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| BrKhalid |
| 03/15/01 at 18:20:13 |
| Asalaamu Alaikum Brother ;-) Would you mind telling us what you mean when you say you "find so much doubt and conflict within you"? |
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| ABD |
| 03/16/01 at 11:50:27 |
| Assalamu Alaikum, When you think about Islam, it should not be full of doubt and should not create conflict within yourself. However, I know what you mean. I try very hard to pray my prayers in the right way, try to make dhikr of Allah throughout the day, try to correspond my actions in the way of Prophet Muhammad (SAW). Sometimes no matter how hard I try to be the best Muslim that I am, there is someting that I do or something that I am involved in that messes up all of my attempts. So, I know what you're going through to a point. To fix this, you should make more dhikr of Allah and pray that he makes your Iman stronger. Perform Qiyamul-Leyl a couple times a month and read a lot of Qur'an. Then, InshaAllah Allah will erase doubt and conflict from within you. Salam |
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| Zahra |
| 03/16/01 at 16:28:05 |
| slm dear brother, I once went through exactly what your going through and I know that this doubt infects many people. It is a disease of the heart and can only be cured through an increase of iman. My first suggestion to you is-surround yourself with righteous, practicing Muslims. This truly makes a BIG difference-bigger than you may think. They will inspire you, educate you, and encourage you towards good deeds-to name the least. When you are around them, you will not hear or see things that may affect you. Being around them, you will be cautious of what you are doing and even thinking. My next suggestion is to focus on your prayers. Get them in on time. Concentrate. Learn what you are saying (if you don't already know). Learn the meaning of the surah's you say and the tahashud. Every "Allahoo Akbar" - say it as much as you can from your heart. Remember, that you are presenting yourself before Allah. Thirdly, Make DUA. When you make dua, use Allah's names, tell Allah that you believe in Him and ask Him to increase your iman. I suggest you say this very beautiful dua especially- Ya Muqallib Al Qaloob, Thabbit Qalbee Ahla deenika, which means, Oh Controller of the Hearts, make my heart adhere firmly to Your religion. Try to say this dua when you are in sujood during prayer, especially. Iman always follows good actions. One will never have high iman so long as he/she is in constant disobedience to Allah. This is one of the pillars & principles of the Shahada. So, work towards good deeds and righteous actions and abstain from what you know is displeasing to Allah. Insha'Allah, you will soon see your doubt decrease and disappear while your iman rises. May Allah fill your heart with the beauty & light of iman. I pray that you receive your book in your right hand! |
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| Arsalan |
| 03/16/01 at 17:49:06 |
| [slm] Anonymous, how old are you? |
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| JustMe |
| 03/17/01 at 03:37:08 |
>>>>>I am a brother and need to find faith again<<<< Assalaam-alaikum brother, I think faith isn't something outside. Its something that comes from within. Normally there are many opinions and views out there regarding what is right and wrong but if you don't search within yourself you'll be sorry. ..and unhappy. Try to organize your life. Maybe there are too many things which are not enabling you to concentrate on one thing in particular. Being spread out can weaken one's soul. If your lacking clarity in life then it may be due to lack of focus. Its important to make decisions based on something worthy. Unimportant things can detract from the important things and hence lose focus. Its important to know how you identify yourself: a professional, a mu'min, an athlete, a student, etc. and most importantly how you make that judgment depends on your character. More than not character determines who you are and how you identify with things and views in general. You should ask yourself about who really loves you on this earth. More than not, it is Allah(s). He is all-forgiving and a provider of abundant mercy. He will always be by your side even if no one is. He knows you better and He knows you because he has made you a thinking person with mixed emotions and feelings. I hope this was a step in the right direction. I'm hoping you can carry onwards without feeling left out. Conformity is great too but we have to be independent thinkers once in a while and there are great thinkers out there who have written a lot on this topic (maybe someone knows of some). or maybe you yourself knows but you feel inhibited by your own prejudice(s). Belief is between you and God not you and a person. The relationship between you and God is everlasting and ever and ever but with another human it is temporary I.E. SHOrtlisted!! In the end it will be for you to choose your limits in constructive thought but you can't go on forever ranting that no one understands when its you who is not willing to bear the burden on your own shoulders. No one will be tried more than what he/she can handle----This is the dose you must take for you to be free. Breathe and let it go just don't give up hoping for another day another day another day. Believe you can and you will. Masha'allah you're already half way ther just keep trying. Wa'salaam. |
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