Madinat al-Muslimeen Islamic Message Board
| Brothas: Beards, Thobes, Kiffeyehs, Kufis... |
|---|
| UmmZaid |
| 03/16/01 at 20:30:43 |
| Salaam 'Alaikum I am posting this here, because I do not go into the Ikhwan Health Center, but I want to ask the brothers something... Please, share your "beard" story with me, and everyone else. We always hear "hijab" stories and "niqab" stories. I would like to hear from some brothers how they came to the decision to wear a beard, or wear more trad'l clothing, especially if you are living in a society where being bearded means you can lose your job or be branded a "terrorist." :) |
| Re: Brothas: Beards, Thobes, Kiffeyehs, Kufis... |
|---|
| momineqbal |
| 03/16/01 at 21:11:02 |
| Assalam Aleikum sister Saraji! Well my beard story isn't all that interesting. I have recently started wearing a beard and someone told me I look much older for my age! But inshaAllah my beard isn't to please anyone here but to please Allah (swt) inshaAllah. It all began a year back really, when I came to know of the hadith in which someone from Yemen who came to our Prophet (saw) and he (saw) turned away from him. I was disturbed on that thought, thinking if our Prophet was in our midst today he would turn his face away from me. I asked at a discussion forum like this and some brother tried to give me an answer which really went over my head! I kept a beard during these times but it wasn't really to please Allah. I was sad for some events in my life and thought maybe I will not shave. But well I shaved after a few days (astaghfirullah). But still I had this disturbing feeling of Rasool Allah turning his face away from me. One day while discussing something with a friend of mine, he told me certain things in our religion are outdated and we need not follow *everything*. Well I can't go into details, but when I said to him we have to obey Prophet's commands and I myself told him that I intend to keep a beard inshaAllah soon to which he said "we will see". That was few months ago. Another thing I noticed, while going to mosques, meeting with muslims with and without beard (I can't really say what I am going to say is true, but maybe thats how Allah chose to make my heart reconciled towards growing a beard): I noticed that middle aged people who had been shaving their beards for a long time usually had facial skin which looked older than their age (I can't seem to think of a word for it!). While even people older than them and who had been leaving their beards had some kind of freshness in their face's skin or some "Noor" coming out from their faces, if I may put it that way. Something else which made me strenghten my intention towards it is my new roommate. He keeps a beard and seeing him I have finally started keeping a beard myself now, Alhamdulillah. Some of the thoughts that used to keep me away from keeping a beard were, what will people say at my workplace, what will my friends say, me being branded a "mulla" in my country, being rejected by someone if I wanted to marry (one of my uncle I know had a proposal rejected due to his beard!, but Alhamdulillah he got a very good auntie in marriage after that!) etc. etc. I have been keeping a beard for about a month now and now I need to buy a trimmer so I can trim my mouschtache!!! I don't know how long I will grow my beard yet, but inshaAllah its there to stay :) Wassalam Eqbal |
| Re: Brothas: Beards, Thobes, Kiffeyehs, Kufis... |
|---|
| jannah |
| 03/16/01 at 21:53:28 |
| saraji sisters may post in the ikhwan area and brothers may post in akhwat.. the forums are just named that way because the issues discussed sort of relate to those topics. i'll move this down to ikhwan in a bit inshallah |
| Re: Brothas: Beards, Thobes, Kiffeyehs, Kufis... |
|---|
| UmmZaid |
| 03/17/01 at 02:13:44 |
| Salaam 'Alaikum Jannah: I know that, but I didn't feel entirely comfortable posting in Ikhwan Club. |
| Re: Brothas: Beards, Thobes, Kiffeyehs, Kufis... |
|---|
| BrKhalid |
| 03/17/01 at 14:34:00 |
| Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) I actually didn’t finally get round to growing my beard until I went to Hajj!!! I think part of my problem was that it wasn’t obligatory so I fell into the mindset of *I’m not going to be punished for not growing it* as compared to realising the rewards for wearing it. The sort of procrastination I guess which you could liken to praying in congregation or waking up for Tahajjud. There are great rewards for both but you don’t *have* to do them. Anyway before my first job I was in this particularly mindset and it so happened that my new work involved me going out to meet clients, hence, I found myself having to shave every day to maintain a “suitable appearance”. As my knowledge grew and I realised that I should really grow my beard, it was difficult because of the appearance I was expected to keep. Yes, yes before you say it, I should have just started growing it there and then but unfortunately my level of Iman wasn’t up there then :( So it took me going to Hajj to finally resolve to let it grow and do you think anyone ever made a comment about my new (funky) look? Nope not a murmur!! What was the big deal I asked myself!!! With hindsight I wish I had gone to my interview with a beard and thus they would never been a problem to begin with! Its such a great feeling, though, that first time when a brother asks you a question in the street and you so know the only way he recognises you as being a Muslim is because of your beard. You kind of appreciate some of the wisdom behind us differentiating ourselves from the non-muslims. Anyway that’s the story of how Br :) became Br ;-) |
| Re: Brothas: Beards, Thobes, Kiffeyehs, Kufis... |
|---|
| UmmZaid |
| 03/18/01 at 01:44:57 |
| Salaam 'Alaikum Y'know... I was just thinking... maybe I want to put these stories up on my website (Cyber Muslima OR Al Shahada or both)... you know... b/c there are so many sites telling sisters why and how to wear hijab (I myself have the "How to Hijab Guide"), but n othing (it seems) for the brother who might wnat to grow a beard or wear more trad'lly modest clothing... What do you think? |
| Re: Brothas: Beards, Thobes, Kiffeyehs, Kufis... |
|---|
| BrKhalid |
| 03/18/01 at 01:51:36 |
| Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) I say go for it. Always easier to do things when you know others have trodden the same path. |
| Re: Brothas: Beards, Thobes, Kiffeyehs, Kufis... |
|---|
| Yusuf |
| 03/19/01 at 15:47:14 |
| slm I am slowly growing my beard. For some reason I can shave all the hair on my head off and its completely covered, and then some, within a month, but my beard takes forever to grow ;-) I have a thoub that I wear usually on Friday and a brother just returned from Hajj the other day, may Allah accept his Hajj, and he gave me an all white kefiya. I love it. Anytime I am wearing Islamic dress, I feel very modest and less likely to commit sin. For example, it is much easier to lower my gaze. I know people are looking at me when I wear these things in public, but it does not bother me. Perhaps it is a form of Da'wah, because it makes them at least take their mind off of all of the evil things that they face everyday and think about Islam. Whether they think I am a pious person or that I am plotting to to bomb the "Great Satan," that's not for me to decide. Allah tells us to just deliver the message, it is not up to us to decide on what their reaction will be. If enough righteous brothers and sisters, especially in the West, take up the Islamic dress, instead of wanting to dress like non-Muslims, and follow the example of the Rassul Allah sls then they may realize that Islam is not what is not the propaganda pushed in their eyes. Also, we must remember that if we dress like the disbelievers then we will be grouped with them. May Allah all give us strength to do these things. Amin. wlm |
Individual posts do not necessarily reflect the views of Jannah.org, Islam, or all Muslims. All trademarks and copyrights on this page are owned by their respective owners. Comments are owned by the poster and may not be used without consent of the author.The rest © Jannah.Org |