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muslim friends?
Anonymous
03/18/01 at 18:17:56
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why is it sometimes that our non-muslim friends treat us better than
our muslim friends?
Re: muslim friends?
Al-Basha
03/20/01 at 01:31:31
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Sometimes Muslim friends can take for granted that you are Muslim.

I hate to say this, but if your Muslim "friends" aren't treating you as equal as your non muslim friends or better, than perhaps you should seek new comradeship.

Wa Allahu A3laam
Re: muslim friends?
BrKhalid
03/20/01 at 01:40:44
Asalaamu Alaikum ;-)

Maybe because as Muslims we judge fellow Muslims more closely?

They have more knowledge then non-muslims and probably don't get the same amount of leniency that we would show a non-muslim?

Re: muslim friends?
Kathy
03/22/01 at 08:31:04
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There is one irritation I notice every day when I pick up my child from school.

Many of the children will great me with hugs, smilies and "hi Kackie!"s.

Most of the Muslim children will avoid my eyes.- as if they are embarrassed- or ?
Re: muslim friends?
BrKhalid
03/22/01 at 18:11:15
Asalaamu Alaikum ;-)

[quote]Most of the Muslim children will avoid my eyes.- as if they are embarrassed- or ? [/quote]

Maybe they respect you???

Maybe the fear the way you dress???

As regards the original question, I don't think we should forget that good manners are not necessarily the preserve of the Muslims (although they should be).

You don't have to have Iman to say a kind word, but the fact that you do have Iman should make it *easier* for you to actually say that kind word.
Re: muslim friends?
ABD
03/22/01 at 22:38:28
Assalamu Alaikum we Rahmetullahi we Berekatu,

I agree with almost everyone on this matter. Sometimes I also notice that some of my non-Muslim friends treat me better than my Muslim friends.
However, we have to remember that no matter how much non-Muslims say they are your friends, they truly are not. Because Allah-u Teala said in the Qur'an that "kuffar will never be our friends" (I think it's the exact wording, I may be a little off). So, no matter how good they treat Muslims, they will never truly like us for who we are. But our Muslim brothers and sisters will, and even if they do treat us bad sometimes, we have to be patient and always keep our bond with them.
Because, in this world there is no true friend than your Muslim friend. Muslims have to be united and always stick together.
I went a little off topic but I couldn't help  myself :-))

Salam,
Re: muslim friends?
Saleema
03/26/01 at 23:36:14
Assalam ualykum,

Many times non-Muslim have been more tolerant about my opinions than non-Muslims and more accepting of how much of Islam I practice.

It has always been like this. Once a Muslim friend asked me that I had recently met, (this was in 6th grade), if I was going to wear my hijab to astroworld, (theme park). I said well of course and she begged me to not wear it since I was going with her, that made me very angry so I didn't go with her. So i went somewhere else with my non-Muslim friends and none of them asked me to leave my scarf at home and none of them seemed embarrased to be around me.

People always comment to me, (Muslims), that for someone who covers I have a lot of confidence. ??? While on the other hand my non-Muslim friends have never suggested or thought that because I cover I should somehow be less confident in public, they don't expect that.

And ABD, I think that verse that you mentioned, I don't believe that it is to be taken in that context. Or not as much as people tend to at least. I have a non-Muslim friend that that I talk to probably only once in a year or even less than that but I can rely on her in times of need. Whereas, my best friends for so many years to whom  I was very close to left me when I needed them the most. My non-Muslim friend treated me better even though I wasn't that close to her but my Muslim ex-best friends were a dissapointment.

Anyway, those are my experiences.  :)

wassalam
Re: muslim friends?
nehar
05/01/01 at 07:47:27
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i think muslim kids avoid muslim parents as they dont know the true meaning of religon, give them time and they will learn

[wlm]

nehar


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