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| Anonymous |
| 03/19/01 at 13:16:44 |
| assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu I would like some advice from brothers out there about a personal issue that disturbs me. I think I try my best to be a good Muslim. Allah of course knows better. I read a lot about Islam and I try to do a lot of the supreregotary things, not just the fard things. Maybe I am fooling myself, but I feel peace in my heart and I fear Allah. I make dhikr a lot of the time, and I feel very safe and content by myself just thinking about Allah. I know there are a lot of things to improve on, and that one can never be satisfied. I think I am working hard to improve my Iman but I do feel that I have had good aqeedah. Of course I will keep on trying to keep it strong and improve. What disturbs me is that I don't seem to have much emotion with Allah. I mean, I smile to myself sometimes when I am reflecting on Allah and I feel happy. But when I make dua, I am serious, and I really mean what I'm asking our Lord for, but I don't exhibit much emotion. I guess to say it straight out, I never cry. Since i have been "grown-up" I have cried once in my life, and that was after a dunya incident concerning my wife. I make salah, and dua, and never a tear. I feel peace and I feel dependent on Allah, but no tears. During Ramadan, everyone is emotional, especially during the qunoot. My eyes have never watered though, while everyone else's does. Even when I made umrah in ramadan, my eyes did not water. This is really disturbing for me. Especially since someone once told me that if you have never been moved to tears in dua or contemplation of Allah than your belief is not strong. What is wrong with me? if anyone has some advice, I would like it. shukran. wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullahi barakatahu. |
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| shadow493 |
| 03/19/01 at 16:05:37 |
| Assalamulaikum it happens to me too... im a no cryer... and i hate it... i dont know what to say... id love to hear some advice from others too :) |
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| Kashif |
| 03/19/01 at 18:06:47 |
| My advice would be: 1> learn the translation to what you recite of the Qur'an in salaah, so that you know what you're reciting. 2> Get used to making tahajjud prayer. Kashif Wa Salaam |
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| meraj |
| 03/19/01 at 18:40:40 |
| slm, here a good article from soundvision during this past ramadan :) http://soundvision.com/ramadan/10.cry.shtml ma'salaam |
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| Asim |
| 03/19/01 at 22:33:25 |
| Assalaamu alaikum, To add to what others have said, I think it is very important that the person is alone, isolated, and away from all distractions for him/her to really connect with Allah swt. To cry is something personal and will happen when there are no distractions (or fear of distractions) in the communication. Tahajjud is a good time as Kashif mentioned. Once the level of imaan has increased then such emotions tend to flow more easily (although in public it may still be difficult for some but I think that is okay). Wasalaam. |
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| Hanifa |
| 03/20/01 at 06:58:39 |
| Asalamualaikum wa Rahmatullahi... I'm not much of a poster, but I had to reply to this, because so much of me is in it, or was in it, Allahu Aalim. Used to have the very same problem, no tears! I used to cry, because I couldn't cry when reading Qur'an, or when thinking about Qiyaamah. And I used to wonder....Why am I so hard hearted? When did this happen to me? And so insha Allah I'm just going to mention somethings which helped to cry...I hope they help! - Firstly, leave behind all those things which occupy your heart..er...Like TV, Music, Gossiping, the heart cannot contain to opposites... - Take time to reflect upon yourself. As in your sins...Realise how many there are! [The sins of a believer are like a mountain towering over him ready to fall...] - To read the seerah...What really did it for me was the year of grief followed by the Incident in Taif, makes me cry evertime. To think that they would throw stones at the Prophet (saw)!!!! And the companions and there trials...Then to think of there Eeman, and compare to ours...Did I think we were realy going to the same jannah? Subhan Allah... - When you make Du'a, before you ask for anything [This isn't part of any sunnah or anything, just something I heard someone doing.] Belittle yourself. Remember what you were born from? Inferior substance, then bring to mind who you are calling upon...say it to yourself. I once heard a sister making du'a, and it brought me to tears....Are opening words were something like this: "O Allah, I am sinner, and I am nothing, every action I have done, I don't know wheather it has been accepted, and I don't know how corrupt they are with riyaa and pride...How will I stand before you with these broken, bits of so called "Eebadah"."....She used to incite herself to be humble. Subhan Allah if you were to meet this sister...You wouldnt believe that she would say these words! - There was once this article on the net, about a girl who enters a room full of filing cabnits and folders, and so she begins to sift thru them, and then begins to realise that this is the room of her Amal...So she begins to panic, and tries to tear apart the files and destroy them...And she can't! So she begins to cry on the realisation that EVERYTHING was recorded...Shortly after this article I came across this Ayah : Surah Kahf: <And the book [Ones record] will be placed, and you will see the Mujrimum, fearful, of that which is recorded therein. They will say 'Woe to us! What sort of Book is this that it leaves neither a small thing nor a big thing, but has recorded in it with numbers!' And they will find all that did, placed before them, and your Lord treats no one with injustice.'> And I think, that was the first time I cried, and realised I have so much to do. - Make du'a to Allah, that he gives you the ability to cry!! crying is a blessing....The fact that we realise we need to cry is a blessing in itself...Imagine if we didn't know? And then we wouldn't strive for it...? Subhan Allah.. Anyways...These were just things I did, and I don't know if they'll be of benefit, thought I'd share it anyway. May Allah give us all Tawfiq to cry! And soften our hearts. Ameen. Wassalaam wa Rahmatullah. |
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