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| What is the Deal Sisters?! |
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| Kiwaku |
| 04/10/01 at 17:39:49 |
| Asalam Alaikum Brothers and Sisters I have a question. Most of the neighbors of my parents are Muslim. I visit my parents quite a bit because I live in the same town, which means that I drive down the road of all of my Brothers and sisters from the masjid. I know all of the brothers and only their wives because they tell me they are married. Okay, on to the questions. When I drive down the road on a nice day and I notice the families outside enjoying themselves, the women dive into the bushes, sprint into the houses, or fall to the ground in a ditch to hide from view.... They are all wearing hijab. When they go anywhere in the cars, the men drive (no problems there) but the women sit hunched over in the seats so that you cannot see them from the road. This means that they do not get to see either. When I do see a muslimah driving she sits so low in the seat that she has to peek through the steering wheel to see the road.... this is not safe. Now, if they are all wearing hijab, are with their husbands... and they ALL know that I am a brother and am engaged, why would they go to such lengths to hide? It is almost as if it is a sin for some man to see them at all. When I know that it states in the Qur'an that women should dress that way so they are noticed as being Muslim. I just dont understand why they cant be seen playing with their families outside, doing yard work, going to the grocery store for food, or any other activity in daily life. Please help me to understand this. When I get my fiance here we have talked about her being in public, I dont mind because she will be known as a good, pious, Muslimah. These wives will end up being her friends, as they are the only Muslims in town (about 4 families). I dont want them filling her head with a bunch of nonsense. Please help me understand May Allah bless you all Sincerely Usamah |
| Re: What is the Deal Sisters?! |
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| Hanan |
| 04/14/01 at 16:28:30 |
| As salaamu alaikum The Muslimahs in this neighborhood must be in excellent physical shape, what with all the diving, sprinting, throwing themselves into ditches, etc. Are these rather athletically-inclined ladies all from a particular culture or geographic area? Perhaps this sort of odd behavior is the standard in their land of origin. It sounds as though they are taking the concepts of haya and hijab to an extreme. But then, if they don't want to be seen from the road, why don't they stay in the backyard or stay inside? And if they don't want to be "looked over" when they are in the car, why not show some dignity, sit up straight and wear a niqaab? Insha'allah, your future wife knows how to conduct herself and will not be persuaded to start leaping into ditches or hiding behind trees everytime someone drives by the house. Hanan |
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| Saleema |
| 04/15/01 at 00:48:04 |
| Assalam ualykum, Kiwakum, I don't do that nor do people around me do that. I have never heard of such a thing. You might have to ask their husbands. :) wassalam |
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| proudtobemuslim |
| 04/15/01 at 08:16:57 |
| Assalam-u-Alaikum, With all due respect, it seems to me that these women are just doing their best to do what they think is right. I don't think calling them odd would be justified. No, I'm not saying that what they are doing is absolutely correct, but does show their love for Islam that they have the ability to what they are doing. What I suggest is that we get some dalail (proofs) from somewhere and present it to the husbands to infrom them that what their wives are doing is not necessary. Wassalam-u-Alaikum, Uzer |
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| Kiwaku |
| 04/15/01 at 14:44:01 |
| Asalam Alaikum Brothers and Sisters "With all due respect, it seems to me that these women are just doing their best to do what they think is right. I don't think calling them odd would be justified." - Uzer Sher Dil Khan Okay, Perhaps my word usage was inappropriate, I am sorry. I meant no disrespect at all. As far as asking their husbands, *chuckles* that is a good idea, however, I am just going to let things be for now. These are probably behaviors that are meant to protect them from being stared at in public. I respect that they do not wish to attract attention to themselves. It would, however, make going shopping quite difficult. As a matter of fact not once have I ever seen any of them shopping here in town, but with all the racial and religious predjuice in this town I am not surprised. Welcome to a Mid-Missouri town. Having grown up in this culture, and in most cases a much more predjudice culture than is displayed even here, I can fully understand why keeping hidden might be a good thing. When candidates for public office campaign on saying just how strong of a christian they are, and promising to increase the christian based politics in the area (and that is from both republican and democrat candidates) it is not hard to see why the brothers and sisters here do not want to attract attention to themselves. Thank you all for your continuously wonderful advice, Al-hamdu lillah! Sincerely Usamah |
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