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| youngmuslima |
| 04/22/01 at 01:06:00 |
| Assalmualikom.etc Dear Sisters, Can Anyone Help Me With My Problem?? Ok..Let Us Start!! I'm Young girl I live with My Parents and I have eight Sisters And I'm The Youngst And they all Got Married and now the state that we live in There is a girl She is from chechnya And she have no one to live with and she have a brother but his no very good he doesn't pray and stuff first when I met her she wasn't haveing hijab but now wa lhmdulilah she have niqab..and she always come over my house then one day she came up to me and said Can I come stay with you for 3 weeks I didn't know what to say..I asked my mom my mom said I have to ask my dad I asked My dad he said yes.."don't forget My dad is her wali" so she came over then a lady came to visit us she said it's very dangerous to let her live with you..Do you any thing about her???? I said YES I do she very nice and a very good muslim Then she said you're too young to know how dangerous that she lives with you ... I don't know what to do....Please Help Me..:(:(:( wa Jazakom allah **Your Young sister** |
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| jannah |
| 04/22/01 at 10:22:28 |
| Where are you living and why would it be dangerous? |
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| Saleema |
| 04/22/01 at 22:46:55 |
| Assalam ualykum, Let me take a wild guess, the lady told you not to let her stay with you because being a girl she might be a fitna to the family right? I have heard people say that many times when some women needed a roof over her head because she got recently divorced or for some other reason. *[sigh}* It's up to you what you want to do and so this is not directed at you. But in muy community I know of someone who had to stay in a shelter and of course it's for men and women and you can't have any privacy. And her own good friends wouldn't turned her down even though she only needed a place for a while until she could find an affordable apartment. If your friend has no place to stay at for three weeks then isn't it a bigger fitna to have a Muslim sister out on the streets? We really do need more women shelters just for Muslim women. wassalam, Saleema |
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| youngmuslima |
| 04/23/01 at 22:57:51 |
| Assalmualikom..etc First I'll Answer Sister Jannah's Question! I Live In Sac, California.U.S.A Sister Saleema First I don't have Any Brothers They're all Married And My Dad is a old Man"not really" And she Haven't got mirried before she is only 22Y And the women She Said It's dangerous To let her live with you..For example she dies And the police they will come to us and they will think that we killed her..Or maybe she fall down the stairs..and the people they will think we did that to her. And By the Way..The Islamic Center Has to take care Of her..But we Have a Very Bad islamic center..they Never help poor People!! So I really Want to help Her...But Allah knows Every thing!! jazakom allah khair anyway..if you have more ideas tell me PPPPLLLLEEEEAAAASSSSEEE:( |
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| Lisha |
| 04/24/01 at 20:39:17 |
| Salam sister!!! If u wanna help her n ur parents don't mind (as it is there home) then ignore what others have to say!!! And think of urself in her possition n wat u would do? I'm sure u wouldn't wanna b left alone when u had a muslim sister to turn to. If ur soo unsure y not do istakhara??? take care though!!! Allah hafiz. Ur sis in Islam |
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| Magableh |
| 04/24/01 at 20:44:33 |
| Youngmuslima, Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu. I am in Sacramento also. What Islamic Center do you attend? Wa'assalam, Serena |
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| Anonymous |
| 04/26/01 at 15:34:32 |
| assalam alaikum, imagine if you turn this sister out into the street, and she dies. imagine, she feels she is now practicing her deen correctly, and Allah has answered her prayers, and then she is told she must leave. Insha'Allah you will get so much reward for doing this, and it won't be forever. My family have done it in the past. My sister e-mailed me on feburary 14th while I was at work. It was the day after her birthday. We sent each other e-mails (she was abroad) she told me that she was having difficulty in finding accommodation, and asked me to pray for her. The next day, as she was about to go and view an apartment to rent, she was hit by a car, and died a few hours later. My other sister who lived in the same city could have taken her in, and said she would, but at the same time made her feel unwelcome (they didn’t always get along), my sister was hurt, and chose to find her own place. She had been staying with a Syrian family, and the family was willing to let her stay, but my sister did not want to be a burden. There were four of us; two brothers, and two sisters. Soumia and I were really close. I don’t really have too much in common with the others. If its really difficult, then find her somewhere else to stay, and above all else, no matter how she seems on the outside, don’t humiliate her, don’t make her feel low just because circumstances have put her in a situation where reliance on others has become a necessity. I know this was a little heavy, and I apologise. Please don’t feel like you have to help, its better to feel that you want to. If you don’t then maybe you could help find her somewhere. In any case may Allah reward you for your efforts. salam wa rahmat'Allah |
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| Mahmoodah |
| 04/26/01 at 16:58:17 |
| [slm] i think u should let her stay at ur home, sr seleema is right. i personally think tha if sum thing does happen to her, then u'll b fine, y b scared, allah is with u and he'll do wat is best!!! :-) [wlm] |
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| se7en |
| 04/28/01 at 23:47:33 |
wa alaykum as salaam wa rahmatAllah, anonymous may Allah reward and grant mercy on your sister... and may He grant you patience, strength, and so much ajr for the difficult you've been through... |
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