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| se7en |
| 05/23/01 at 19:07:51 |
As salaamu alaykum wa rahmatAllahi wa barakatuh, How much do you think your relationship with your father has affected who/what/how you are? If your father is not exactly the ideal dad, do you think this would mess you up for the rest of your life? Do you think it would have serious effects on your children, on how you interact with your spouse? If your parents relationship was not exactly ideal, do you think that this will have seriously detrimental effects on your own relationship? Is there any way to break out of that cycle? gimme what ya got.. |
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| Laboogie |
| 05/24/01 at 16:05:59 |
| [slm] I have to say that this topic is very senstivte to me...when i read your post i felt a sudden blow to my stomach- i dont know why but it just happen..my eyes are watery but i cant cry b/c im at work, :) Anyways, I have to say that your relationship with your parents is very important it can affect u in so many ways. Many times we find that we deny this...we say "oh no, im never going to be like my dad, mom...im not affected by our relationship...its not b/c of them that im like this..etc" I remember before when i would see my father in the street and we wouldnt say anything to one another...my friends use to be like "yo, isnt that your father?" I would be like "yeah, hey what can I say" I had a better relationship with a stranger then with my father. For awhile a blamed my father for many things...actually both my parents...even to this day I blame my parents for certain things but I understand now....my father was...actually is the type that believes that "bring home the bacon is his only job" {being a provider}, yes, that is one of his roles but he also has to be a father be there for us, talk to us, tell us why this and why that...not leave up to mami to explain it to us. I came to realize that my father was only doing what he knew how to do...he wanted to raise us better then he was raised (with every thing, with every opportunitys,etc.) he forgot that the values that they (his parents) instilled in him he need to instill in us as well. We would only speak to my dad when we needed something-money, clothes, radios,etc... Not until I meant one of my dear friends of mine did I begin to have a relationship with my father. I thank my friend soooooooo much for helping establishing a relationship with my father (may allah reward them for their efforts). I have to say that the relationship with my father at this moment in my life is better then it was before, alhumdulliah....actually after I became Muslim, the relationship with my parents has been way better-mashallah. [quote] If your parents relationship was not exactly ideal, do you think that this will have seriously detrimental effects on your own relationship? Is there any way to break out of that cycle?[/quote] my question is what is ideal?-what we see in the tv...what susie has with her parents? our relationship with your parents is unique-you make it the ideal relationship. on another note, i think that our relationship with our parents can have serious detrimental effects on us...I see my lil brother who is just 17 and say if only he had that parential support he could be doing a little bit better BUT I pray for him that what ever he is going through is just a PHASE...all I can do is be there for him since my parents arent really there for him. Also before we begin to blame our parents for bring us up "the wrong why"...we need to look at how they were brought up. Even though I would have liked to have had a better relationship with my parents (my father in particular)when I was younger- I am thankful for how they did raise me b/c I wouldnt have been the person I am and that is the BIG LABOOGIE 8-) |
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| Adi28 |
| 05/25/01 at 00:10:14 |
Salaam, Yes i very deeply believe that the relationship with your father affects who you become in the future and i think that if you go for your whole life not getting to know your father then it could mess you up for life maybe not directly but it will eventually show up in other areas of your life. for me personally i have a really good realtionship with my father i mean yeah sometimes he can be really annoying, but on the whole most of good childhood memories are with my father. over the years i have gotten the abilty to talk my father into practically anything *almost* i also believe the realtionship you have with your father alomost directlly ties in with the realtionship with your husband..i know that going to be true i know when i look for a prospective husband one of the qualities i wan't him to have is be a good father thats i think thats almost has imprortant as being a good husband. and i strongly uge people who don't have a realtionship with their father to get to know him..because you only have one. |
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| kiwi25 |
| 05/25/01 at 18:14:12 |
| salaam, nice posts girls!! i also noticed so far its only us albanians posting on this thread, but yea i LOVE my parents so much i dont noe how many times i would have been still in the hole if it wasnt for them. you see my parents got a divorce but i thank Allah(SWT) that im better than many divorced children because i still get too see my dad whenever i want ( he still lives in the same city) whereas others , even in muslim families the father goes off marrying another woman and forgets his own children from his previous marriage, but like i said alhumdulilah my "daddy is home" (remember that song se7en;) as you all have seen (se7en, laboogie, adi28) me and my dad have a crazy relationship, crazy doesnt mean bad it means well crazy hehe, sometimes i laff sooooooooo hard at his jokes i start to cry and all, one thing i especially love about my dad is he gives me good advice and he gives it to me all the time, like at first ill be like 'oh great another speech' but then in the long run ill use that advice in his speech to help me out in something so yea se7en what my father did say has had an effect of who i am. so may Allah(SWT) bless my father for all that he has done, *sniff* and give him the best in the hereafter inshallah ameen wasalam nouha:) |
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| Magableh |
| 05/25/01 at 18:37:41 |
| Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu. You girls make me sad! :( My father was *never* in my life. My mom and dad were divorced when I was only 2 weeks old. I wish that I had a father, or a fatherly influence. You all are lucky...cherish what you have. Wa'assalam, Serena |
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| dhikr |
| 05/25/01 at 23:50:57 |
| How do you have a better relationship with your father? Im guessing heres the part where everyone brings up all this stuff abt deen and everything, but what if ur father aint hte best muslim in the first place. what if you cant connect when it comes to that, how do u then move towards trying to make that relationship better (whats reely scaarry is that he just walked in now, almost had a heartattack) but what if you feel that not only do you not have a good relationship with ur father, but u feel that he tries to limit you when it comes to furthering yourself in ur iman. what do u do then, i mean my dads muslim and all, and i should be thankful for that, but its hard... sometimes it seems like my dad doesnt want me to try to be a good muslim (he wont come out and say it, but he mmaad hints sometimes) it seems like everytime i get a little better in my deen, its as if he feels threatened, sometimes it seems like he tries to condition me into being the typical desi girl who has no opinion abt anything, who just tries to please her parents and is outgoing what not, sometimes i feel like he would prefer it if i went the half and half dupatta style, andf i guess its even more intense being the first hijabi in my whole family. i love my freinds so much, my sisters are so awesome. but this is something that they dont expereince, and its sometimes like they cant understand it, so its hard... i mean i want to be a good muslim and better myself and all, and i still want to have a good relationship with my father. this has been a conflict within me for years now, and i just keep brushing it off, telling myself that whenever they conflict in situations, just try to some how appease daddy but still go to the conference or whatever it is, and its also so difficult sometimes when you cant attend some kind of event because you just went thru this whole tension deal with dadddy, and hten it doesnt end bec you have to explain to the whole world why you couldnt go, and when u say it was b/c of daddy, the reactions you get arent too appealing. sometimes it just takes alot out of u .its soo hard... on a side note, im realizing that i do alot more venting than advising here...but it helps i guess. jazakallahu khair, (everyone please make dua that the retreat goes well with dadddy:) sighhhh :) hehe se7en, inshallah i pray that both of us will some where in our future have good relationships with our fathers, bec you kno, we do love them.im praying htat this is just a phase, and it better pass real soon;) |
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| Seeker |
| 05/26/01 at 00:55:14 |
| [slm] You know, you guys are making me cry! From your posts, I've realized a lot... Mainly, I thought that I was the strange one, that I was all alone because I also have a hard time with my parents. They didn't particularly have the best childhood considering they were born in the 50's and are Afro-American. When looking at my freinds, I thought they didn't have to struggle at all with their parents. That I was the only one, and I've realized that I'm not. It's weird realizing that other people (this may sound weird) are human...and do share the same problems, and don't have ideal parents. Although they are tough, and I sometimes fail to realize it, I am very grateful to have my parents. Allah gave us our parents for a reason, and He's not going to make it a walk in the park. I've also realized that our relationship with our parents is very sacred. If we just sat down and had the patience to listen to them, you'd actually realized they've been through the same experiences we have..(I know! amazing!) My relationship with my father has affected me grately, that is..in a good way. I am very bless to have my father because he gives the best advice, and is a lot like me, very logical (unlike my mother who is rather completely right brained) he's a really good listener and appoaches issues rationally for the most part. He may be difficult sometimes (like I am...hey, we have our ups and downs) but I think he knows me best and it's weird saying this, but is my favorite one in my family. (I know...how cute...not really) alright, that's enough gushy stuff... PS. pray that I am among those on the day of judgment who had sabr in this life. salaam ~Tauhirah |
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| Saleema |
| 05/26/01 at 00:56:09 |
| sometimes it seems like he tries to condition me into being the typical desi girl who has no opinion abt anything, who just tries to please her parents and is outgoing what not, Typical desi girl with no opinion about anything, not even about religion-- sometimes that's what parents want especially fathers. I know some people who prefer girls from back home for their sons to girls raised here because they are more submissive in certain things, not necessarly being religious. Certain fathers want their children to be religious only in the things that they themselves practice, if you do more than them, they get angry and take it as a personal insult. I don't understand that at all. [wlm] Saleema |
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| eleanor |
| 05/26/01 at 18:20:56 |
| slm My father died when I was 8 years old. The world just crumbled. I had a sister who was 13, a brother,11, and a baby brother just one year old. He certainly had a big impact on my life. I learned respect from him. Respect for my parents and for other elder people. He knew how to have a good time too. We didn't have much money but we always went for day trips, picnics, on a hot day to the seaside... When I fell and cut my knees I always went howling to Daddy. He made tents for me in the back garden out of blankets. He put me on his shoulders and I held on tight to his thumbs. He'd always be up first on Saturday mornings. With the TV on, and we'd watch "Our Gang" together. He was a wonderful man and a great loss, not only to us but to everyone who knew him and all the girls at the school where he taught. His last words to me were "good night, Ellie, I love you". When I got up the next morning he wasn't there anymore. I'm glad to have known him for eight years. And I'm privileged to have known him for eight years. My little brother never knew him, although he insists that he does have memories of Daddy putting him to bed or walking with him in the garden. The question is, how did my brother turn out, growing up without a father? Well, when he was a kid, he was wild. Couldn't keep friends, always out doing weird things like thinking he was Zorro and scratching "Z" on things like the neighbours cars. Alhamdulillah our neighbours never once complanined about him. But he is now 17 years old and a nicer, kinder more well-adjusted and sociable boy you could never meet. Everyone is amazed at his friendliness, maturity and good manners. He plays the guitar in his own band, has gigs at the weekend and currently has 10 students (school kids) whom he gives lessons to, on the guitar. He inherited those brilliant teaching qualities from his Dad. People who knew my Dad well, remark on how similar my brother is to him...small mannerisms, gestures, turn of speech.. We're all very proud of him and love him very much. Well, to finally get to the point, I'm not sure if the father actually being there for the child is detrimental to how the child turns out in the end. They may have a different childhood because of him but each and every one of us is programmed differently and that can't be changed by anyone. Better to have an absent father than an alcoholic or abusive father, I say. Sorry for rambling on, but once I started I couldn't stop till I got it out of my system. wasalaam eleanor |
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| Khathija |
| 05/26/01 at 21:29:07 |
| [slm] b4 i talk about my relationship with my father, i think it's interesting that no guys have replied ;)..... i have incredible respect for my father because that he'll do anything for his childrens happiness. i'm not saying other parents don't, but he works two jobs, and up till recent times i didn't usually see my father till the weekend. alhamdulillah now he works till 4 on the weekdays so i can usually talk to him after he comes back from work. my father doesn't need to work two jobs, he could have the attitude well my kids don't need that, they can live with what they have, but he doesn't feel that way. he doesn't want us to feel less privledged, and never have i felt that. plus since he was usually working there wasn't enough time for me to have a bad relationship with my dad. maybe that's my father is also great with kids. i see him play with my bro, who is 5, and i just smile and make dua that my husband inshallah will have the same charisma my father has. (inshallah :) ) well i'll wirte more later. i need to make brownies :) |
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| Kashif |
| 05/26/01 at 21:27:35 |
| assalaamu alaikum Perhaps brothers didn't respond, because we all share one un-erasable memory of our fathers. And it can actually be summarised in two words: Bata slippers. LOL. Kashif Wa Salaam |
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| dhikr |
| 05/27/01 at 21:30:21 |
| you mean bata chapals:) But i really would like to hear from some brothers especially considering this post is in the ikhwan... (btw, if someone has any pointers on how to have a better relationship with your father, please post immediatley) jazaks |
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| kiwi25 |
| 05/29/01 at 14:57:10 |
| salaam, dhikr sweetie, youve told me your situations before and i really pray inshallah things work out with you and your father but here's some advice youve probably heard before: as hard as it is with you father how about some hard core 'open communication" where you let out ALL your feelings and even if your argueing, believe it or not your argueing will let you guys noe even more about each other, inshallah one day we'll be parents and we'll understand how things are REALLY like, this may be a bit off topic but some useful info i heard over the weekend was when you become a parent inshallah treat your parents the right way because your own children will be watching you and if you dont respect your parents then how can you blame your children or tv movies music,etc for disrespecting you. another thing my daddy inshallah is going to buy me a car real soon so im even more loving hehe :) !!!!!! wasalam nouha:) |
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| se7en |
| 05/29/01 at 23:32:58 |
as salaamu alaykum, wow this thread is awesome.. I love you all so much fisabilillah.. and dhikr a big ameen to your dua.. but where are the brothers? Maybe this is not something they want to discuss.. but it really worries me. I'd like to hear their thoughts. Br Khalid? Abdul Basir? Arsalan? Bhaloo? Asim? Humble Muslim? ProudtobeMuslim? Meraj? Zil? Kashif (a real answer man!) All the other brothers? Please give me some perspective.. |
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| abdulsamad |
| 05/30/01 at 00:50:14 |
slm, I have a very good relationship with my father. In my opinion he's the best dad in the world alhamdulillah. When I first came here to join him about four years ago, I was not sure how tk behave with him because I had not seen him for six years. But now, alhamdulillah, we are getting along fine. For me, he's the ideal dad. I find myself adopting many of his opinions and maybe some character traits too. wlm |
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| bhaloo |
| 05/30/01 at 01:14:52 |
| slm [quote] How much do you think your relationship with your father has affected who/what/how you are? If your father is not exactly the ideal dad, do you think this would mess you up for the rest of your life? Do you think it would have serious effects on your children, on how you interact with your spouse? [/quote] The Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam is reported to have said, "Obey your parents and treat them with kindness, your children will be kind and obedient to you. The Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam has said "In the good pleasure of the father lies the good pleasure of the Creator and in his displeasure, lies the displeasure of the Creator." In a hadeeth the Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam has said that the parents of a person are his Heaven or Hell When asked about the major sins, the Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam replied." To associate anyone with Allah, to disobey the parents, to kill unlawfully and to give false evidence." The above-mentioned acts have been condemned as 'Akbarul-Kabaair' ie the most serious of the major sins. The order in which the Prophet said them, shows that the disregard of parents rights is next, only, to Polytheism (Shirrk) and it is even more serious than murder. Abu Hurairah (R.A.) relates that the Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said "May he be disgraced, may,he be disgraced, may he be disgraced." "Who?" The Sahaaba enquired. "The person whose parents, or any one of them, attain old-age during his life-time and he does not earn Paradise (by being kind-hearted and dutiful to them)!" Much of the above I took from an article by Shaikh Musa Ibrahim Menk. It is important to have a good relationship with one's parents. Though it may seem difficult for some of us, we need to insha'Allah try. Yes, parents do play a major role in all of our lives. They are the people we look to for guidance and people to turn to. For many of us they were the ones that taught us about Islam. They raised us and looked after us. So yes, they do have a huge impact on our lives and that pattern carries on to the future generations. |
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| Barr |
| 05/30/01 at 11:20:40 |
| Assalamu'alaikum :-) Just to share...inshaAllah :) My ayah (father) grew up without his father for most of his life.... my paternal grandparenps were divorced, when he was very very young :( But to me, ayah is probably one of the few good men that resides in my heart... And, mashaAllah, I think he has done a great job... though he didn't receive a much needed fatherly love.... He's such a wonderful husband, subhanallah... though he comes back tired from work, he still helps mom with the housework like he washes his own dishes, and he helps round the house a lot... coz, my mom has got athritis, and she has difficulty doing everything on her own. Ayah has such a big heart, and he would even feed the stray dogs, at his workplace... He also has a big trust in me, mashaALlah, and has given me a lot of freedom.. the freedom to think, to explore, to make decisions... to be myself... to grow up. He's the one that first taught me to read the Qur'an after maghrib prayers when I was small and he'll be the one that leads the family in prayers... he's the one that helped in our art projects, he once even taught me how to cook! He is also the one, that gave me my name... and I thank Allah, for giving the thought in my father's heart to name his eldest daughter... a name, that I wish, I have the strength to live up to, inshaAllah. Dad never says "I love you" or hugs and kisses me, we don't usually talk, like REALLY talk... I guess it's that culture that we're in... but I know, that he loves me... and he doesn't have to say anything at all.... my Ayah.... :-) wassalam :) |
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| BrKhalid |
| 05/30/01 at 11:45:47 |
| Asalaamu Alaikum [quote]How much do you think your relationship with your father has affected who/what/how you are?[/quote] Reflecting on this question I would say that my relationship with my father has affected *who I want to be* I look at him today and reflect on his life, his characteristics, his behaviour and I realise I can never be like him. The best I can do is try to be like him. I certainly wouldn't be the person I am today if it wasn't for all the help and experience he passed down to me. The least I can do is be a righteous son for my parents and pray to Allah that he reunites us all together in the Hereafter. |
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| bhaloo |
| 05/30/01 at 12:13:15 |
| slm [quote]The least I can do is be a righteous son for my parents and pray to Allah that he reunites us all together in the Hereafter. [/quote] AMEEN! |
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| meraj |
| 05/30/01 at 16:46:57 |
| slm, sometimes you gotta beat an answer outta me ;-D ok well basically its like this... alhamdulillah my fater and i have a good relationship. my dad's personality may not be quite what i wish it were sometimes, btu he has done so mush for me that i really have no right to complain. hes funny and intelligent and hard-working, and hes very practical-minded. ever since i hit adolescence, i started to get my own ideas in my head and this obviously lead to some arguments and me getitng grounded a lot. i didnt realize it then and i probably still dont realize it completely now, but it may be for the better. he can be very strict and seemingly uncaring at times, but i knwo that deep down he loves me and my sisters and hes just doing what he knows is best. it bugs me sometimes and i get angry, but i know that if i think that way, i may end up being mean and uncaring too... so thats somethign that ive been trying to make a point now... to have more respect for my parents. i can say for sure that ive learned from my dad that sometimes you just have to do what you have to.. stop tryin to find loopholes and easy ways out.. just do it right and work hard for it. so anyway, alahmdulillah im thankful for my father and inshallah i hope Allah will reward him for his efforts and sacrfices he has made for his family :) |
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| tq |
| 05/31/01 at 09:04:44 |
| Assalamo elikuim Alhamdullah I have great relationship with my parents. My Dad, may Allah bless him , he is the best father a child can have. Whatever I have achieved, it is because of him. He always supported me , pushed me to do whatever I wanted to do even if everybody was/is against it.(except for one thing - I wanted to study at a university which was not in my city and he refused it, wont let me go there alone!!!. At that time I was very angry but now being a parent myself I think I can understand ) I can talk to him about anything and always get good advice. I started to pray regularly,fast from a very young because of him(we used to pray in jaamat). He taught all four of us that money and material things are not important but the character, faith of a person is very very important. He never gave us lectures but showed us how to do things and behave.I have seen him how he used to be with my grandmother even when she was very sick and used to forget things he was very gentle with her, how he used to respect and help relatives who were in need - never telling anybody about it but just helping quietly and now that my mother is not well how he takes care of her Mashallah, never letting her feel that she is not OK. I have never seen anybody with so much sabr, positive thinking and trust in Allah than him even in rough times, I just wish that I can be like that and be a parent like him to my children. Wasalam tq |
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| Spring |
| 05/31/01 at 10:02:11 |
| [slm] My father is the best, masha Allah. I look at things that I have done over the years and he has influenced me so much. He has always called us towards the deen consistently. Always, through so many different ways. I thank Allah for both my parents. I have found things difficult with my Mum though at times. She has been the one who has tried to encourage me to be a 'desi' girl. Cos thats how things were for her. Its the only way that she knows how. Its what her mother did, its what her grandma did, its what her sisters do, what my cousins will do. She has always encouraged me to cook, to clean, to look after the home cos thats what my husband will expect from me. Thing is it was a cause of many rifts between us, cos I have brothers too and expectations from them were different. Anyway, I've gone totally off the subject. But one thing I wanna point out is that this view that the place of women is only in the home, and their purpose is to be a housekeeper is very prevalent amongst parents from the subcontinent. It is not helped by brothers who keep this cycle going. |
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| ReflexShun |
| 05/31/01 at 11:06:57 |
| I look at my dad as the best influence for me groing up and still to this day hes the ideal father when he wants to be, and mashallah is very active with the mosque communtiy so that helped me become a better muslim myself. my dad is very deep in his beliefs and constantly reminds me of the reason why we're living in the first place. he's the type of dad thatll understand if i say im goin to mosque, or if i wanna go to fajr prayer or isha, i mean he doesnt give me any problems when it comes to religion. its no problem telling him that i wanna travel half way around the world to study qur'an or anything like that, he'll be there for me. but thheeeeen theres another side to him, i mean he doesnt mean to have it, but he comprmises with my mother alot. and thats understandable because its out of love, so thats very cool, but the thing is my mom is the type of figure who doesnt understand alot of stuff sometimes, and is very close-minded to some ideas. if she hasnt experienced or done it while she was my age, then she wont agree with it at all now. so therefore shes the type who whill question why im goin to mosque so much, or why i like goin out with to chicago for isna or something, you know what i mean? and when my dad agrees with me, if my mom says no, he'll stop and take my moms side, and thats tuff sometimes. and its not even little things liek that that bug me, but like they always tnd to treat me like a kid all the time. they are very cautious and untrusting to say the least. they wont let me stay out past 11 even if its with br haroon sellars in his hotel room heh heh (im not making that up). and if i do too much stuff during the week, they get really upset, even if the reason why im doing too much stuff (being out) is because im doin stuff for the msa or whatnot. so i mean its tuff sometimes for them to udnerstand. theyre the type of parents that still think they can treat their kids like how they were raised in bangladesh... but all and all i think my parents mean well, im not here to tool on them, cuz they do soooo much for me and i love my parents so much and i know they mean well, its just im worried sometimes, especially for my sister who is starting to beocme a little close minded herself... but inshallah i hope thatll all change heh heh i feel bad talking about all this stuff when i hear some of the trials and tribulations other borhters and sisters go through, but one thing i know, from experience and hearing extreme cases from close friends, inshallah with time they lay off a little bit, and especially when you jump into college, even if they dont lay off, you can bounce clamimg that you gotta go "study" ;-) to be serious though, may Allah (swt) make it easier on you guys, and some of the stories i hear about parents limiting you when it comes to islamic matters and you hafta fend for yourself, thats like *genuine* iman right there, and inshallah Allah (swt) will mad reward you guys and make it easier on all of you (ameen), and i just gained mad respect for people who gotta deal with that! 'nuff said |
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| zia |
| 06/08/01 at 16:17:29 |
| salamz guys ya know its really odd that I am reading this now.. For the past few days there has been a little bit of tension between me and my parents mainly my dad.. But after reading through these posts Ive come to the conclusion that regardless of small things that happen from time to time that are insignificant in the long run that Allah (swt) has blessed me with the most wonderful parents in the universe :)unfortunately sometimes I dont realize it.. |
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| JustMe |
| 06/14/01 at 04:01:14 |
| Like Sylvester's (a cat) son I admire my ffather very much. But, ever since I was dismissed from Dental School for disturbing reasons my dad would never let off. My community disowned me because everytime they asked me what I was doing I answered in the negative which they became weary of. part 1 |
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| JustMe |
| 06/14/01 at 04:03:12 |
| con't. sorry my computer is being disconnected constantly |
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| JustMe |
| 06/14/01 at 04:06:00 |
| con'ting. My dad has this infallible urge to live a HARD life. I like to be his pal slap high fives talk about girls and play low tempo low impact frisbee. but he's hard-pressed about success and studies part 2 |
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| JustMe |
| 06/14/01 at 04:09:28 |
| cont'ning. He can't stop his dominant ways and his control. being emotionally nervous at the thought of son's criticism of his dad's behavior. ALways pretending to be perfect. having little leeway for persoanl mistakes part 3 |
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| JustMe |
| 06/14/01 at 04:11:42 |
| continuing. EVERYTHING HE DOES OR WANTS ME TO DO FEELS LIKE BOULDERS ON A MOUNTAIN PRESSING ON ME. |
| Re: father of mine.. |
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| meraj |
| 06/14/01 at 04:48:58 |
| slm, (JustMe: a little suggestion.. try typing your post in somehting else, like notepad or Word, and then copy and paste it all at once.. that way you wont lose it when you get disconnected :) ) |
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