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Pregnant wife
Anonymous
06/01/01 at 10:48:02
assalamu o alaykum

Allah hu Akbar, after many years of trying, my wife is finally pregnant

can sisters give advice on how to help her, i want things to be right and
perfect as this is our first child.

wa-salam
Re: Pregnant wife
zakk
06/01/01 at 14:31:39
Asaalaamu alaikum,

Alhumdulillah, this is such nice news.

I'm not sure what you mean by help though; are you looking for ways you can help her?
I'm sure she will appreciate it if you can take over some of the household chores-especially ones that involve lifting and smelly procedures.

One thing I know I appreciated - when my husband would come in the bathroom when I was throwing up - even though I know he can't stand vomiting people :)

Your wife can track the progress of her pregnancy at www.babycenter.com
some more nice sites:
www.epregnancy.com
www.parentsplace.com


Hope this helps!
Please post any more questions!
Re: Pregnant wife
BroHanif
06/01/01 at 19:15:02
A.W.W.

Subhanallah ! May Allah make it easy for you and your partner.
Ah the joys of pregnancy :)

What sort of advice do you want bro ...???

There are some good sites on the net for example, www.babyworld.co.uk there are also some fatherhood sites as well.
If you want some Islamic advice or just help in baby matters, then drop me a message and I might be able to help you.(insha-allah).

May Allah give you a child that is the coolness of your eyes, give you warmth in the heart, make you happy that s/he is a practicing muslim or muslimah, please you, your partner, your family and friends but above all gains the pleasure of Allah and strives hard to hold Islams head high.

Salaam
Re: Pregnant wife
nehar
06/01/01 at 21:46:55
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mashallah, that is gr8 news.

I'm not talkin from experience, but from my observations of other women:-), i think you just got 2 nice and help extra.

:D Read the Holy Qur'an to ur child.
:D Help with the house chores, esp heavy work and hoovering
:D Buy flowers, it helps the mind (apparently)
:D Make sure she has a healthy diet, esp iron.
:D If she is low in iron, tell her 2 drink orange juice with iron tablets cuz it works betta
:D take ur wife out 2 nice places more often like parks and gardens

i cant think of any more tips, i'll try n get back on this 1

take care

[wlm]

Nehar
Re: Pregnant wife
dhikr
06/01/01 at 23:10:08
[slm]
thats awesome!!!
you what i always thoguht would be a great idea, put headphones with quran playing on her tummy, child develepment starts real early, dont waste anytime, one of my teachers was telling abt this one lady who read to her kids from the beginning of her pregnancy and continued after birth and her kids were like geniuses, so i figure , if u get some islamic knowledge goin, thatll be awesome, Allahualim but maybe itll make it easier for he/she to memorize quran.

and from watchin relatives and all, be really patient with her, esp the first 3 months. and abt the vomitting thing, try to make sure she eats as best as she can, cuz she aint gonna wanna eat nuthin.

[wlm]
razia
Re: Pregnant wife
kiwi25
06/03/01 at 20:51:24
salaam,

true that tell her to eat enuff, esp iron and calcium! also try not to get into many useless arguments with your wife and speak only kind words to her because our local imam told us in a seminar that the fetus is able to hear what happens in the outside world from the start so hehehe dhikrs idea of headphones might be a really good thing!!

i pray inshallah Allah(SWT) will make it easy on wife while shes pregnant and make you very happy loving parents ameen!

wasalam nouha:)
Re: Pregnant wife
Zahra
06/04/01 at 00:01:47
slm

Congratulations!  Masha'Allah..that is wonderful news. May Allah reward you for your patience and bless you with many pious children! You have been given great advice.  I suggest the same-be extra kind and supportive.  Do take over some household chores.  Go with her to her doctor appointments and be informed along with your wife about what is happening throughout the pregnancy and about labor.  Of course, pray hard and make lots of dua.  Congratulations again!
Re: Pregnant wife
Kathy
06/04/01 at 08:50:39
slm

May Allah swt grant you a good child that will be pleasing.

Patience- that is my advice to you.

Patience- Her hormones will be out of whack for the next 12 months. She will be happy, sad, excited, angry, all with in a 24 hour period.The levels of hormones just esculate her feelings. If she is mad (over what you think is a little thing) she will be bonkers about it.

Patience- when she talks endlessly during her "nesting" phaze.

Patience- when shopping- she will think she "absolutely" needs to buy everything for the baby.

Patience- when everyone in the world gives the two of you advice, wanted or not.

Patience- when you come home and she needs to tell you more than you ever needed to know.

Patience- When she is feeling insecure and scared (as you will too) about caring for a first baby.

I have seen the birth of a baby being a pivital force in a marriage. The wives need the support emotionally and physically. Some husbands have a hands off approach and only help take care of the children- once they are potty trained.

My advice is to jump right in! Enjoy your child from the moment he/she is born. Changing the diapers, fetching Mom a drink while she is feeding the baby, Running the vacume or cleaning the bathroom are all ways you can tell your wife that you are there to help her.
As a stressed out Mom is not good for the child- or their milk.

The first year of a childs life is miraculous. Do not miss it!
NS
Re: Pregnant wife
nehar
06/15/01 at 22:50:18
[slm]

another thing, dont b bossy, esp wen u name ur child, make sure ur wife has a say cuz men think its their right!!!

[wlm]

Nehar


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