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| zanfaz |
| 06/04/01 at 02:16:54 |
| Assalamu Alaikum brothers and sisters !! Last week, i attended a marriage of an old friend. Here in India, muslim marriages are generally a three-four day affair. It started on saturday, with the cermony known as 'haldi'(or mehendi[?] or shukrana).Nikah was on sunday and walima on monday. As far as i know, 'haldi' has no roots in Islam. It has come from Hindu culture. Indian/pakistani brs and sis might be able to relate more to this. Since, our prophet[saw] has asked us not to imitate kuffars, aren't we committing a sin by indulging in these customs/rituals ? May Allah help us increase the knowledge of his Deen and show us the straight path. Aameen. Allah Hafiz. |
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| Hadid |
| 06/04/01 at 13:40:36 |
| can you explain 'haldi' more detail? |
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| nehar |
| 06/04/01 at 20:39:40 |
| [slm] with haldi u have 2 b careful, as they often involve boys n gurls mixing which isnt right. [wlm] Nehar |
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| Marcie |
| 06/04/01 at 22:57:27 |
| As salamu alaykum In Turkish and some of the Arabic cultures they celebrate henna evening the day/night before they wedding. Most times it is mostly only females and the bride has henna placed on her hands or has designes made with henna on her feet and hands. I have never heard anyone say that it is unislamic. Is this similar to haldi? As salamu alaykum |
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| nehar |
| 06/04/01 at 23:30:16 |
| [quote] In Turkish and some of the Arabic cultures they celebrate henna evening the day/night before they wedding. Most times it is mostly only females and the bride has henna placed on her hands or has designes made with henna on her feet and hands. I have never heard anyone say that it is unislamic. Is this similar to haldi? [/quote] [slm] In Asian societies we celebrate henna evenings and tend 2 be for the bride and other :-)females. this is ok and reasonable, but haldi is differnt Haldi is turmeric which is put on the body/face of the bride by family and friends to make the brides skin nicer. Often the bride is touched by non-mahrams which is not right and also at the end there tends to be haldi fights in which men;-) and :-)women fight with turmeric trying 2 ):(colour one anohter. I'm not sure how mixed haldi parties r these days as they tend to be female based where i live:D, but when i watch bangladeshi wedding cassettes im often disgraced ):( by the way men ;-) and :-)women interact. Allah knows best [wlm] nehar |
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| zanfaz |
| 06/04/01 at 23:34:40 |
| [quote] can you explain 'haldi' more detail? [/quote] [slm] In my society, on the 'haldi' night, some female relatives of the groom visit the bride's home, and put flowers and haldi on the face/body of the bride. Then generally, the brothers/cousins of the bride come over to the bridegroom's side and put 'haldi' on the groom. [wlm] |
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| kiwi25 |
| 06/05/01 at 15:16:58 |
| salam, marcie, if u dont mind me asking, where are u from? turkey or an arab country? i noe that in arab countries, the wedding is also like a five day ritual, not just a henna the night before then wedding, thats mostly done here in america or at least in the albanynian land, as for the haldi tradition, are the bride and groom getting their haldi done in the same room because if so then his brothers and cousins arent allowed to see without hijab if she wears it, another thing is that our local imam told us that cultural traditions in weddings are acceptable as long as they dont go against what the shari'ah says. wasalam nouha:) |
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| Marcie |
| 06/06/01 at 13:14:18 |
| As salamu alaykum Sister Nouha, Surprise, surprise I'm from the States. I lived in Germany for many years, which is why I know how the Turkish celebrate henna evening. Through marriage I have strong ties with North Africa. Yet every Arab country is different so I didn't want to generalize to strongly. As salamu alaykum Marcie |
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| princess |
| 06/06/01 at 14:57:50 |
| walikumas'salaam warahmatullah :) [quote]As far as i know, 'haldi' has no roots in Islam. It has come from Hindu culture. Indian/pakistani brs and sis might be able to relate more to this.[/quote] i don't know if maybe u're mistaking "haldi" with "ubtan" :) but, if u r, "ubtan" is just to make the skin softer, smell nicer (although i don't really like the smell :)) and i totally agree with what nouha said, about the cultural traditions in weddings..where would the fun be, if we didn't mix culture in it? :) ;) just some thoughts :) langur ki ;-D |
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| Mahmoodah |
| 06/06/01 at 15:19:31 |
| salam, i thought sum cultures were acceptable!!! but its the way u go about!!! wa-salam :) |
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