Madinat al-Muslimeen Islamic Message Board
| Baby Showers |
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| Marcie |
| 06/06/01 at 13:22:23 |
| As salamu alaykum Sisters, More and more sisters that I know in the States are celebrating babyshowers. At first I thought that this was harmless, but many have said that this is bidah, since Muslims celebrate aqeeqas. I tend to agree, since if children are not taugth properly in a few generations they will think that this is part of Islamic culture. It has also been pointed out to me that only Allah (swt) knows what will happen at the baby's birth and it would be terrible for a sister if something happened and she was left to look at all these new gifts. I would really like to hear other sister's opinions about babyshowers. Jazakum Allahu Khairan. As salamu alaykum Marcie |
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| Lisha |
| 06/06/01 at 13:35:53 |
| {slm} Wat eva Kids c us do, they may think is right. As u hav already mensioned baby showers r not apart of our religion, Sr. i agree with u,:) But sumtimes its hard to explain these points 2 ppl. take care, w'salaam |
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| Laboogie |
| 06/06/01 at 13:43:54 |
| [slm] so is having baby showers a bad thing??? |
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| Shakira |
| 06/06/01 at 14:52:20 |
| I have always had fun at baby showers. Most of the people I know Muslim and not, have them jus a few weeks before the due date. It can be fun, and helpful with getting things together for the baby. What I have seen done, is that the couple registers at a particular place, and then lets all know where they are registered. At least this way guests will know what the couple likes, and needs. That way a person can either get them a gift before the baby is born, or after. But in many of the showers where the couple has superstitions about having things for the baby at home, and not baby yet, many have the thing taken to a family members house, and they stay there until the baby is born. ;) That is what I did. Things were kept in their boxes, at my mothers house, and after my child was born then while I was in the hosp. things were taken over to my house. As well as the bassinet was not set up until the baby was born. This was also done, with some gifts I got from co-workers who gave me gifts before going on maternity leave. |
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| Saleema |
| 06/06/01 at 21:30:45 |
| [slm] I think baby showers exist in virtually all the cultures. Baby showers are in the indian/pak tradition too. And no they did not copy the west. What's wrong with a baby shower? The women get together and give the mother-to-be a gifts. What's so haram about that? What does that have to do with religion that you label it as bidah? Airplanes are a bidah too and then so are cars then if the definition of bidah is so braod. So are wearing pants or suits. So are high heels. Even if someone isn't given a baby shower, the parents-to-be still buy clothes and other necessites for their child. They don't bring them home naked and then go shoping. So by giving a baby shower to the parents-to-be, friends and family relieve some of the economic burdens that is put on parents. It's very expensive to have a child. If people don't have a baby shower, people bring gits to celebrate and congradulate the couple on their new baby after the baby is born. Then that should be haram too. By giving a mother a baby shower brings family and friends together so that they all can celebrate the birth of new member of their Ummah together. I don't see how that is harmful. In the Jannaration J forum, there is a thread started by Harun about how Muslims need to make their own unique culture here in the US or any other non muslim country. You should read that, I think you will find it very interesting. But Like I mentioned before, baby showers isn't a new tradition, nor is it unique to the western culture. [wlm] Saleema |
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| Shakira |
| 06/07/01 at 13:06:11 |
| And lets not forget, that most recently when a baby shower is given, it is not only for women, but for men as well. :) |
| hahahah.. |
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| princess |
| 06/07/01 at 14:01:02 |
| walikumas'salaam warahamtullah :) [quote]They don't bring them home naked and then go shoping.[/quote] hahahahah..;-D u're soo nuts :) hahaahahhahah ;-D langur ;-D |
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