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This is dear to my heart...please respond!
Magableh
06/06/01 at 20:13:16
My Madina Family, Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu. Do you know of *any* quotes/sayings/ahadith/poems that mention Mothers and how special they are? Or something similar? Preferably something Islamic? If you know of *anything* that might help me, please let me know asap. Jazakallah Khair! Wa'assalam, Serena

Re: This is dear to my heart...please respond!
Kathy
06/06/01 at 20:19:52
slm The Quran and Hadith on Mothers The Quran 1. "We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth" (46:15). 2. "Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: ‘‘My Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood’’ "(17:23-24). 3. "We have enjoined on man and woman kindness to parents; but if they (either of them) strive (to force) thee to join with Me anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not’’" (29:8). 4. "We have enjoined on man and woman (to be good) to his/her parents; show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is (thy final) Goal. If they (parents) strive to make thee join in worship with Me things of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not; yet bear them company in this life with justice (and consideration) and follow the way of those who turn to Me (in love)" (31:14-15). The Hadith 1. The Prophet Muhammad said, may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him: Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother (Ahmad, Nasai). 2. A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: [Your mother]. The man said, ‘‘Then who?’’ The Prophet said: [Then your mother.] The man further asked, ‘‘Then who?’’ The Prophet said: [Then your mother]. The man asked again, ‘‘Then who?’’ The Prophet said: [Then your father.]. (Bukhari, Muslim). 3. Abu Usaid Saidi said: We were once sitting with Rasulullah when a man from the tribe of Salmah came and said to him: O Messenger of Allah! do my parents have rights over me even after they have died? And Rasulullah said: Yes. You must pray to Allah to bless them with His Forgiveness and Mercy, fulfill the promises they made to anyone, and respect their relations and their friends (Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah). 4. Abdullah ibn Amr related that the Messenger of Allah said: The major sins are to believe that Allah has partners, to disobey one’’s parents, to commit murder, and to bear false witness (Bukhari, Muslim). 5. It is narrated by Asma bint Abu Bakr that during the treaty of Hudaibiyah, her mother, who was then pagan, came to see her from Makkah. Asma informed the Messenger of Allah of her arrival and also that she needed help. He said: Be good to your mother (Bukhari, Muslim).

Re: This is dear to my heart...please respond!
humble_muslim
06/07/01 at 11:02:29
AA Famous hadith : "Paradise lies under a mother's feet". A man once came to the Prophet SAW and said that he had carried his mother for Tawaf and Sai during Hajj.  He said "Have I now repaid her for what she has done for me ?".  The Prophet SAW replied "YOU HAVE NOT EVEN DONE THE EQUIVALENT OF HER SHEDDING ONE TEAR WHEN SHE GAVE BIRTH TO YOU". A man came to the Prophet SAW and asked who he should listen to, his mother or father.  The Prophet SAW replied " mother".  The man asked "And then ?" He (SAW) replied "Mother".  "And then?" "Mother".  "And then?" "Father". i.e mother was mentioed three times before father. In more than one hadith, Prophet SAW has said that disobeying parents is one of the worst sins, may Allah forgive us all.
NS

Re: This is dear to my heart...please respond!
*sofia*
06/07/01 at 14:48:24
Assalaamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakaatuh May your friend's mother find her grave spacious and her reward, Paradise, aameen.  Honoring/obeying one's parents ranks second only to prayer on time/at it's earliest time, subhanAllah, and even more important than jihaad in some cases.  One of the companions, 'Abdullah bin 'Amr bin 'As said: "There came to Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) a person and said: I owe allegiance to you for migration and Jihad seeking reward only from Allah. He (the Holy Prophet) said: Is one from amongst your parents living? He said: Yes, of course, both are living. He further asked: Do you want to seek reward from Allah? He said: Yes. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Go back to your parents and accord them benevolent treatment." [Saheeh Muslim]. In another hadith, the Prophet (s) explained that the word for womb, "ar-rahm", is derived from one of Allah's Names, Ar-Rahmaan.  So whoever keeps good relations with it (family/relatives), Allah will keep good relations with him/her.  And whoever cuts ties with it, Allah will cut ties with him/her [Saheeh Bukhari]. Here's a good read on the subject by Dr. Ahmad Sakr. ----------------------------------------------------------- Respecting Parents By Dr. Ahmad H. Sakr   I.      INTRODUCTION In America there are many special days set aside to honor and appreciate special people. Some of these are: Father's Day, Mother's Day, Grandfather's Day, Grandmother's Day, Memorial Day, Labor Day, etc. We do realize the significance of these occasions and we recognize the ideas, ideals, and philosophies of such days. We appreciate the efforts of those who initiated these occasions for the recognition and appreciation of special people. As for the appreciation of parents, we admire the efforts of children who remember their parents on such occasions by sending them greeting cards and gifts. However, we hope that the appreciation is not for one single day in a year, but for every day throughout the year.   II.     PARENTS IN QUR'AN A Muslim child should respect and appreciate his or her parents every day throughout the year. Allah asked human beings to recognize their parents after recognition Allah Himself. Throughout the Qur'an, we notice that parents are mentioned with appreciation and with respect, even if they are senile. In Surah Al-Isra' (Children of Israel) there is a very beautiful description of how parents are to be treated. Allah (swt) says: "Your Lord had decreed, that you worship none save Him, and (that you show) kindness to parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age with you, say not "Fie" unto them nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word. And lower unto them the wing of submission through mercy, and say: My Lord! Have mercy on them both, as they did care for me when I was young."   [17:23-24] The recognition and respect of parents is mentioned in the Qur'an eleven times; in every instance, Allah reminds children to recognize and to appreciate the care and love they have received from their parents. In one aspect, Allah demands that children recognize their parents by saying to them: "We have enjoined on man kindness to parents."  [29:8/46:15] 1.   The demand for recognizing parents is made more emphatic when Allah says in the Qur'an Surah Al-Baqarah (The Cow) the following: "And (remember) when We made a covenant with the children of Israel, (saying): worship none save Allah (only), and be good to parents..."   [2:83] 2.   In Surah Al-Nisaa' (The Women) Allah (swt) emphasized again that children should be kind to their parents. "And serve Allah. Ascribe nothing as partner unto Him. (Show) Kindness unto parents... "    [4:36] 3.   In Surah Al An'Am (The Cattle), Allah (swt) reemphasized that people should be kind to their parents. "Say: Come, I will recite unto you that which your Lord has made a sacred duty for you; that you ascribe nothing as partner unto Him and that you do good to parents..."    [6:151]   III.     MOTHERS Although Islam recognized both parents, mothers are given particular gratitude and respect. This attitude of Islam is understood if we realize the hardships and the suffering that mothers experience in their lives. In this regard, Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said: It was narrated by Abu Hurairah (R) that a man came to the Prophet (pbuh) and asked him, 'Who is to be close to my friendship?' The Prophet (pbuh) answered: Your mother, your mother, your mother, then your father, then the one closest to your kinship, and the one after. Islam has endorsed respect for parents by their children even if the parents are non-Muslims. If parents strive very hard to convert their children to non-Islamic beliefs, they don't follow them, but they are to be good to them. In this regard, Allah (swt) says in Surah Luqman: "And We have enjoined upon man concerning his parents--his mother beareth him in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years--Give thanks unto Me and unto your parents. Unto Me is the journeying. But if they strive with you to make you ascribe unto Me as partner that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not. Consort with them in the world kindly, and follow the part of him who repents unto Me. Then unto Me will you return, and I shall tell you what you used to do.--"     [31:14-15]   IV.     MORE RESPECT Islam teaches us that respect for parents comes immediately after praying to Allah and before Jihad (struggle and striving in the way of Allah). In this respect, the Prophet (pbuh) said the following: Narrated by Abi Abder Rahman Abdullah bin Massoud (May Allah be pleased with him) saying: I asked the Prophet (pbuh), "which deed is more liked by Allah?" He replied, "Prayers on time." Then I asked, "Which one is next?" He said, "Goodness to parents." Then I asked, "Then which one is next?" He said, "Jihad in the way of Allah."   (Agreed) In Islam, respect for parents is so great that the child and his wealth are considered to be the property of the parents. In this regard, the Prophet (pbuh) said: Narrated by Aisha (May Allah be pleased with her) that a person came to the Prophet (pbuh) to resolve his dispute with his father regarding a loan given to the father. The Prophet (pbuh) said to the person,"You and your wealth are to your father."   V.     FINAL REMARKS We hope and we pray that all of us will respect our parents while they are alive and even after they are dead. You may honor your parents after they died through the following methods: Make daily Du'a' for them Give a charity on their behalf Institute a perpetual charity on their behalf - such as a Masjid, an Islamic Center, an Islamic Library, an Islamic hospital, an orphanage, a senior citizen's home, etc. Perform Hajj on their behalf or ask someone to do so. Read Qur'an on their behalf Distribute Islamic Literature on their behalf Let us pray to Allah that we will do our best to respect our parents, to honor them, to be kind to them, to help them, and to please them for the love of Allah. O Allah! Accept our humble prayers and make us obedient servants to you. O Allah! Help us to be respectful children to our parents. Ameen.
NS

Re: This is dear to my heart...please respond!
se7en
06/11/01 at 19:12:35
as salaamu alaykum wa rahmatAllah, serena in the most recent issue of al-Talib [the muslim newsmagazine of UCLA] called "10 Years of Revolution; one issue at a time", there's an *excellent* article called "Blessings of Motherhood" by Hoda Shawky.. you might want to check it out :)

Re: This is dear to my heart...please respond!
Magableh
06/11/01 at 21:31:29
Assalamu alaikum Sister Se7en, [quote]serena in the most recent issue of al-Talib [the muslim newsmagazine of UCLA] called "10 Years of Revolution; one issue at a time", there's an *excellent* article called "Blessings of Motherhood" by Hoda Shawky.. you might want to check it out :)[/quote] Do you happen to know if this article is online, and if possible, where I can find it? Jazakallah Khairan :) Wa'assalam, Serena

Re: This is dear to my heart...please respond!
se7en
06/11/01 at 23:27:21
nope, unfortunately it's not online, I checked out the [url=http://www.al-talib.com]al-talib website[/url]..

Re: This is dear to my heart...please respond!
se7en
06/12/01 at 14:09:06
... it is now :)  You can find it [url=http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/yabb/YaBB.pl/YaBB.pl?board=sisters&action=display&num=3486]here[/url].
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