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| y_rahmi |
| 06/17/01 at 23:36:55 |
| Assalammu'alaikum, for a married woman who is more important,obeying her parents of her husband? I am waiting your response..:) Wasalam Sis RAHMI |
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| NewJehad |
| 06/18/01 at 10:43:54 |
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| Kashif |
| 06/18/01 at 12:25:04 |
| assalaamu alaikum I found these notes on Salim Morgan's website; they'r notes from the lessons on the Fiqh of marriage that he taught some time back. Kashif Wa Salaam ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ What happens if there is a conflict between obeying one's husband and obeying one's parents? Scholars have taken two opinions on this matter. One that obedience to the husband always takes precedence over obedience to parents. Others have taken the position that obedience to one's parents takes precedence since Allah has described being undutiful to one's parents as one of the greatest sins after associating partners with Allah. First of all, it is clear that the obligation of every Muslim toward their parents is very great just as the obligation of a Muslim wife to respect and obey her husband is very great. Parents should be aware that they have entered their daughter into a contract which requires her to obey her husband. Likewise, husbands should be aware of the fact that their wives have a great obligation toward their parents. When these two come into conflict, someone is probably not acting properly. When the two do come into conflict, it seems clear that the strongest opinion is that the rights of the husband take precedence over the rights of her parents, as in the following hadith from Aisha: "I asked the Prophet: 'Who has the greatest right over a woman?' He said: 'Her husband.' I said: 'And who has the greatest right over a man?' He said: His mother." [Al-Haakim - taken from Fiqh As-Sunnah] |
| NS |
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| Mahmoodah |
| 06/18/01 at 13:38:52 |
| [slm] [quote]Husband[/quote] Is it??? i thought they both b VERY imp, as the prophet (pbuh) did say "ur mother, ur mother, ur mother!!!", so in a way, would'nt ur parents b more important??? but i dunno!!! [wlm] |
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| nehar |
| 06/19/01 at 16:03:33 |
| [slm] husband has a greater right but if he had some common sense he would never try and make it out he is greaterr and will allow u to meet with ur parents freely. [wlm] nehar |
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| Kashif |
| 06/18/01 at 18:57:19 |
| [quote]there is a hadith saying that if u cud worship other than Allah, then our Prophet said he would tell women 2 worship their husbands. [/quote] assalaamu alaikum This is an extremely wrong statement to make. At no time, under no circumstances is one meant to or should even think it imaginable that it is allowed to worship other than Allah. The Prophet actually said if it were allowed for one human to prostrate to another, it would be the wife to her husband. Although, in this case the prostration isn't a mark of worship. Kashif Wa Salaam |
| NS |
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| Lisha |
| 06/18/01 at 19:20:35 |
| slm [quote]for a married woman who is more important,obeying her parents of her husband? I am waiting your response..:)[/quote] Sorry i disagree with every1!!! I think obeyin ne 1 is wrong! Ur hubby or ur Parents. But if there both askin u 2 do different things, take da advice or wat eva which is most islamic;) I think it dependson wat they r askin u 2 do:) w'salaam |
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| abdulsamad |
| 06/18/01 at 20:13:02 |
slm, Why do you disagree, Lisha? Isn't disobedience to parents one of the major sins (kabair), second only to associating partners with Allah (swt)? And isn't obedience a virtue for which one gets hasanat? wlm |
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| Lisha |
| 06/18/01 at 20:23:46 |
| slm, maybe i used da wrong words, basically i think u should not obey ne1 except Allah (swt). Obviosly i think u should respect ur parents , not obey:) w'salaam |
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| se7en |
| 06/24/01 at 19:37:50 |
| as salaamu alaykum wa rahmatAllah, there's actually a verse in the Qur'an that says something along the lines of, Obey Allah, and His Messenger, and those in authority over you. So yeah, you do obey other than Allah, but only within your obedience to Allah. You know what I'm saying? :) I remember a text about a woman whose husband asked her to remain at home while he traveled. During the time of his travel, the woman's father died, but she did not visit her family in order to keep her word to her husband... and, from what I remember from the text, she will be rewarded for this. Does this sound familiar to anyone? I remember vaguely something about how this establishes that the rights of one's spouse take precedence over the rights of one's parents... but I'm not sure about that.. wAllahu 'alam.. lemme know if anyone knows what I'm talking about :) wasalaamu alaykum. |
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| destined |
| 06/24/01 at 20:04:46 |
| [slm] [quote]I remember a text about a woman whose husband asked her to remain at home while he traveled. During the time of his travel, the woman's father died, but she did not visit her family in order to keep her word to her husband... and, from what I remember from the text, she will be rewarded for this. Does this sound familiar to anyone?[/quote] I think I know what you're talking bout Se7en.. Someone I know related this story in a halaqah once. Basically the woman's husband told her to remain at home just as Se7en mentioned. But then her father became real ill, so the woman sent a query (question) to the Prophet [saws] via a messenger and told him [saws] that her husband had asked her to remain at home while he was away and so she asked him [saws] if she was allowed to visit her father. The Prophet [saws] replied to her saying "obey your husband." Then the woman's father passed away, she then sent him another query asking if she can go to the funeral, he [saws] said "obey your husband." I believe she asked him 3 times if she can go see her family but all three times the Prophet [saws] said "obey your husband." After all this was said and done, the Prophet [saws] later told the woman that because she obeyed her husband that ALL of her father's sins were forgiven. SubhanAllah :) Allahu A3lam [somebody correct me if I said something wrong] |
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