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| Chatting with opposite sex…??? Is it “Halal” or “Haram” ?? |
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| y_rahmi |
| 06/19/01 at 21:38:48 |
| [slm] Dear Brothers and Sisters, How are you :)? Insha Allah I hope everything is okay there :-). I would like to ask something. What is the rule to chat with opposite sex on Islamic channel or using private messenger such yahoo IM, AOL, etc ? Is permitted or is it “haram”? Well..if we just speak about good things, perhaps discussing about Islam, and it will not cause “fitnah” then is it permitted to chat with our opposite sex??? Jazakallahu Khairan for your answers and views :):):) [wlm] |
| Re: Chatting with opposite sex…??? Is it “Halal” or “Haram” ?? |
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| Arsalan |
| 06/20/01 at 01:29:43 |
| [slm] Sister Rahmi, I would suggest you to ask this question from a scholar, because this is a fiqhi question and requires a fatwa. Try any of the numerous web sites out there which contain a fatwa bank. www.islam-qa.com is one of them. Wassalamu alaikum. |
| Re: Chatting with opposite sex…??? Is it “Halal” or “Haram” ?? |
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| Kashif |
| 06/20/01 at 20:02:38 |
| assalaamu alaikum I found two fawas on this: Question #6453: Well a year from now one of my friend, a girl, had introduced me to one of her online brother..and we have been talkin online for about a year now. Its not like we have ever talked about anything indecent, we talk in a well respected manner, and he sometimes jokes around,too. We both are aware of our religion..and we know how it is haraam to have girlfriends or boyfriends. But over time we both hav grown interested in each other.. and he has told me that he wants to marry me, but right now is too soon, i m only 16 and will be 17 in 2 months... the situation is too hard to explain...and i am really confused on what should be done..and what shouldnt. I really dont want to do anything that is Haraam or isnt right.. and i do have faith in Allah..that if he is good for me oneday we will be together... So i just needed some advice on this.. is talkin to a non-mahram guy online wrong?.. And this is the only way we know each other which is through internet...we havent met..but we have seen each other's pictures.. Well i hope all this makes sense to you..and you will be able to help me out here, cause right now i really need it.. i have been lookin through ur site and trying to learn more about our religion..and it is mashallah a good source.. but me still confused..about this situation... we havent done anything wrong..just talk online.. and hoping that Allah will guide us to be together... but the question that keeps coming up on my mind is if Islaamicaly is all this acceptable.. i have talked to other ppl..and he has talked to people too..and some say its wrong...and some say its ok as long as our niyyat is good and we havent done anything wrong. please give me some advice here..thank you.. khuda hafiz Answer Praise be to Allaah. It is known in the religion of Allaah that it is forbidden to follow in the footsteps of the Shaytaan. Everything that could lead a person to fall into haraam things is also haraam, even if in principle it is originally permitted. This is what the scholars call “the principle of warding off harm.” Concerning this matter, Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “O you who believe! Follow not the footsteps of Shaytaan.” [al-Noor 24:21]. With regard to the second matter, He says (interpretation of the meaning): “And insult not those whom they (disbelievers) worship besides Allaah, lest they insult Allaah wrongfully without knowledge…” [al-An’aam 6:108] Here Allaah forbids the believers to insult the mushrikeen lest that leads to them insulting the Lord, may He be glorified and exalted. There are many examples of this principle in sharee’ah. Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) mentioned many of them and explained them well in his excellent book A’laam al-Muwaqqi’een. (See 3/147-171 thereof). The issue under discussion here also comes under this category. Conversation – whether verbally or in writing – between men and women is permissible in and of itself, but it may be a way of falling into the traps of the Shaytaan. Whoever knows that he is somewhat weak, and is afraid that he may fall into the traps of the Shaytaan, has to refrain from such conversations, in order to save himself. Whoever is sure that he will be able to remain steadfast, then we think that it is permissible in his case, but there are certain conditions: The conversation should not be allowed to wander too far from the topic being discussed; or it should be for the purposes of calling others to Islam. They should not let their voices be soft, or use soft and gentle expressions. They should not ask about personal matters that have no bearing on the matter being discussed, such as how old a person is, how tall he or she is, or where he or she lives… etc. Other brothers (in the case of men) or sisters (in the case of women) should take part in the conversation or read the correspondence, so that the Shaytaan will find no way to enter the hearts of the people who are conversing or corresponding. The conversation or correspondence must be halted immediately if the heart starts to stir with feelings of desire. Islam Q&A (www.islam-qa.com) ----------------------------------------- Question #12608 I have been using chat session for some time I am a married woman mother of two. During one session with a Male member, i got a little emotionally involved and even went to the extent of sending my photo thru email.I feel very guilty now and feel very ashamed of my behaviour.I also want to say that i never once indulged in immoral behaviour and any usage of bad language. Please tell me if what i have done is Haram. I have been asking for Almighty Allahs pardon since then. Could you please help me out in this. Answer Praise be to Allaah. Firstly, there is no doubt that such conversations, if they lead to evil and to fitnah (temptation) – as happened to you when you were infatuated with this man – are haraam and are not permitted. Everything that leads to haraam is also haraam. See the answer to Question # 6453. Secondly: you have to repent to Allaah and seek His forgiveness for doing this haraam thing. You have to regret it and immediately stop engaging in chats with non-mahram men on these channels. You have to ask Allaah to cover your faults in this world and in the Hereafter. We advise you to use your time in things that will benefit you in your religious and worldly affairs, such as learning about your religion, taking care of your husband and looking after your children. Undoubtedly these are things for which Allaah will reward you. And you have to do a lot of righteous deeds, and get to know good women so that you will have alternatives to harmful uses of your time that bring no benefits. We ask Allaah to guide us all and give us all strength. Islam Q&A (www.islam-qa.com) |
| Re: Chatting with opposite sex…??? Is it “Halal” or “Haram” ?? |
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| amatullah |
| 06/20/01 at 20:19:56 |
| Bismillah and salam, My sister, I am no scholar and this is not a fatwa. It is merely my opinion. If and whenever the word "private" appears and it is between only a man and a woman, I would be skeptical to say the least of its permisability in Islam, I am sure you are aquainte` with the hadith that the Shaitan is the third presence. The prophet pbuh also said something to the affect of that he would trust himself with a mountain of gold, but not with an old lady. So the question is why put both of yourselves at risk? Why not chat with other women instead just to be on the safe side? It is better for your soul to keep yourself protected as much as possible. It eventually makes your life easier insha'Allah. Don't just go for the bear minimum of halal and haram, live like it will end soon coz it will. |
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