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| Haniff |
| 06/20/01 at 01:45:06 |
| Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh This story appears in today's (20 June 2001) issue of the Arab News (Saudi Arabia). [i]A special note to BrKhalid: Food for thought[/i]- Haniff Set me free father, I want to marry Islam encourages marriage for a number of good reasons including protecting people from sin. Moreover, it calls for making marriage easy in order to enable both sexes to lead decent and honorable lives. Unfortunately, there are parents who stand in the way of easy marriages by demanding what is unnecessary or by imposing impossible conditions. Others make unreasonable requests such as expensive clothing, excessive jewelery, an elaborate wedding party and an outrageous dowry which our religion neither requires nor stipulates. Ironically, some parents reject marriage for their working daughters simply because they do not want to lose the income received from them. It all comes down to money, greed and wrong ways of thinking. In the end, the girl is powerless and can do nothing but listen, obey and hope for a miracle. Thousands of those who are spinsters today missed their chances because of their parents' faults and misjudgments. There is the story of a girl who was dying and her father sitting beside her. Suddenly she said to him, "Dad, say Ameen." Her father then said, " 'Ameen', but why?" She said, "May God not admit you into Paradise for not allowing me to enjoy my natural right - marriage." With that, she died. What a situation! The father was nearly mad with the pain and sorrow but it was all too late. Another girl asked a baby to live with her and for her to play with. In exchange, she said, she would give away her university degree. To fathers, I say that the happiness of your daughter comes from enabling her to form a partnership with the man she wants and accepts. And you, her father, should be the main supporter of her happiness. [i]Saad Al-Jebailan / Al-Watan[/i] [wlm] Haniff |
| Re: Set me free father, I want to marry |
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| BrKhalid |
| 06/20/01 at 05:49:31 |
| Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) If you were a non muslim reading this article you'd probably be thinking what kind of a religion is this? This is why I can't help but feel that its our duty when we give dawah to highlight the difference between Islam and local and cultural customs. [quote] Ironically, some parents reject marriage for their working daughters simply because they do not want to lose the income received from them [/quote] In Islam our parents have many rights over us but they also owe their children a few rights too. If these rights aren't carried out then they will undoubtedly have to account for their actions or in some cases inaction. Jazakhallah khair for posting the article Br Haniff. Its nice to know what's going on over there in the land of the two Holy Cities. [quote] A special note to BrKhalid: Food for thought[/quote] Definitely food for thought but I'm not sure what you're trying to imply? ;-) |
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| Kashif |
| 06/20/01 at 05:56:10 |
| assalaamu alaikum Although we have lots and lots of talks and emphases on the rights of parents, sometimes i think that parents also need to be taught the rights of children. You see some parents who treat their children with quite some contempt, and then when the child can't handle it anymore, s/he rebels and then both parent & child end up abusing the rights of each other even more. Kashif Wa Salaam |
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| Re: Set me free father, I want to marry |
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| Haniff |
| 06/20/01 at 07:08:28 |
| Wa Alaikum Salam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh, Khalid [quote]Definitely food for thought but I'm not sure what you're trying to imply?[/quote] Here is what I am trying to imply in your own words, Khalid: [quote]If you were a non muslim reading this article you'd probably be thinking what kind of a religion is this?[/quote] My heart is simply bleeding to see the state of the affairs of our Ummah. In the Asian sub-continent, the Muslim women cannot marry easily because the prospective grooms ask for exhorbitant dowry. The dowry itself is not sanctioned in Islam is another matter. In the Gulf countries, the fathers stand in the way of their daughters' marriage by imposing impossible conditions. [wlm] Haniff |
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| BroHanif |
| 06/20/01 at 17:19:47 |
| A.W.W. Quite sad to hear that but we know it happens. One of the scholars overhere gave a beautiful bayan on the rights of children. Man it was such a classic that some elders decided not invite him to the mosque again.!!! There are so many rights of children that we simly push aside. What is the point of giving a child correct Islamic upbringing at the age of 20 when prior to that you had all evils in the house for example, TV, not praying salah, no Islamic halaqas in the house etc. By the time the child is 12 its already made its mind up roughly what to do in life, its goals, acheivements, the friends it wants etc. And if its been brought up in a non Islamic environment, then the blame lies truly at the heads of the parents. May Allah save us from such misfortune and help us bring our kids up in the correct Islamic manner. |
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