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| Zahra |
| 06/22/01 at 00:47:07 |
| slm brothers and sisters Recently, I was invited to a wedding by a woman whom I have come to know very well throughout college. She is non-Muslim but a very kind person. The way I came to know her actually is because she came up to me one day and started asking me about my hijab and we got into a lenghty discussion about Islam. She has visited me in my home before and we often would have lunch on campus together. Like, I said, she is getting married and she has invited my husband and I to her wedding. I'm not looking for a fatawa, rather just some advice. I know I am not allowed to be around alcohol and in an environment filled with huram. How can I explain to her that I can't come to her wedding because of the alcohol which will probably be served there and the other circumstances surrounding her wedding? I was actually thinking about just telling her I couldn't make it and not giving her a reason but then thought that would be weak of me. I have known her for years and I hope that I have been an example to her of what Islam is. She considers me a friend. Any advice on how I can best handle this situation? |
| Re: attendance at a non-Muslim wedding |
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| Anonymous |
| 06/22/01 at 01:31:35 |
| salaams, I have been in a similar predicament before. one of my colleagues was having a get together and definitely alcohol would be served etc. After thinking about it quite a bit i came to the conclusion that displeasing Allah would be far worse than displeasing my colleague. so I plucked up the courage to write him an email explaining that i found him to be a very friendly and nivce person and would definitely like to come to his place however my religion forbids not only consumption but also presnce in a place where alcohol is being consumed. he replied to say it was okay and added that he applaudes me for keeping up to my religion and not compromising at all. so just expalin everything to her as it is and insha Allah she'll understand.. |
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| Spring |
| 06/22/01 at 06:17:17 |
| wa'alaikum salaam wa rahmatullah wa barakatahu I think it is probably better to be frank about it and explain why you can not make it, as the person above suggests. It does seem a shame to miss her wedding altogether though. It might make her think that Islam is restrictive. Perhaps you could go just for the ceremony, and then leave straight after and just explain why you have to leave early. Just my thoughts. Allah hu 'alam. |
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| Shakira |
| 06/22/01 at 08:45:48 |
| Well if you really feel that you can not go to the reception, then tell her why. If she has been a good and understanding friend up to now, then she will continue to do so. Maybe once she is married, and settled into married life, you can invite her and her new husband to your house for a celebration dinner, or make plans to go out some place you both find to be comfortable. |
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| Mahmoodah |
| 06/22/01 at 13:16:44 |
| salam, i sooo agreee with sis SHAKIRA!!! wa-salam |
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| NewJehad |
| 06/23/01 at 09:07:25 |
| I get invited to stuff all the time, parties etc. just don't go. i never do. they wont notice. there are probebly hundreds of people there. any way, no one will mind if you dont turn up. if you have to tell her why you cant make it, just say it. say it strait and short. |
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