Madinat al-Muslimeen Islamic Message Board
| Being a good sister |
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| Anonymous |
| 06/25/01 at 19:47:32 |
Assalaamu'alaykum, need some advice I am the eldest of four sisters. Alhamdulillah had very good upbringing from my parents. On one aspect they were very moderate - they left it up to me to wear the hijab. They informed me that I should and did not allow me to dress immodestly, but they did not force me to wear the hijab. My sisters are all in their teens and I am finding it difficult to communicate with them about many things e.g. endless hours of watching TV, boredom, dressing properly. It is also difficult because my parents are very relaxed. My sisters do not go to nighclubs or hang out at malls, but I just wish something better for them than the mindless material culture that they are exposed to. My parents are older now, yet I feel that the dangers and temptations are so much more than when I was sixteen. I wish that they would encourage my sisters and that we could grow closer as a family by helping one another to become better muslims. How can I be a better sister and daughter? I don't want to criticise my parents, but feel very alone. I am usually very optimistic, but it just feels that I am fighting a very difficult battle. Wassalaam. Rose |
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| slime |
| 06/25/01 at 22:32:27 |
| salam, boy, i think ur in a tough situation here. well, maybe you could ask an aunt or someone like 'older' who could tell your parents or something. one of my cousins doesnt wear hijab either, her parents dont tell her to or anything, and my mom and aunts tell them every now and then 'so when are u gonna start wearing hijab?'. you could have a 'ladies night out' kinda thing. and then all u sisters and mommy could go somewhere and talk. dont listen to me if i sound wack, cuz most of the times i do. |
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| Mahmoodah |
| 06/26/01 at 02:38:22 |
| salam sis i am the middle/younger sis, i hav a older sis (Nehar)!!! i don't think she finds it hard to communicate with my n my youger twin sis, the reason for this is that shez very easy on us:) Nehar doent force us to do things, she also trys n involve us more in her life, that can b scary;) neways, the trick to gettin ur sisters more influenced by u, is by bein easy on them:-) :-)Don't tell em that they hav to do something :-)Try to involve them more wen ur out with ur mates :-)Hav a sisters nite out (yea i know, boring!!!! :-)wen they're watchin tv, just do sumthing more interesting!!! I used to b a tv addict, so was my sisters, slowly nehar quit n i followed:) same with music;) neways, i hope this will help ya;) wa-salam |
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| Haniff |
| 06/26/01 at 08:52:07 |
| Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Just get someone to coax them to join this board, if you cannot do it yourself. This is a great place to learn in a very relaxed atmosphere. [wlm] Haniff |
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| slime |
| 06/26/01 at 14:50:25 |
| salam, i agree w/ mahmoodah. i used to copy whatever my sister did :D sssh..dont tell her |
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| BroHanif |
| 06/26/01 at 17:44:33 |
| A.W.W. Only from your character will they become good sisters. Do good and they will follow. Wear a hijjab buy one for em, pray namaz in their room, talk to them politly, have dawah talks on the great lives of the women sahabas etc etc, but don't nag em. And be there for em. Their character won't change overnight but it'll be done over through a passage of time. Be patient, Allah is with you. May Allah put barakah in your work for you and your sisters. Salaams Hanif |
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| Lisha |
| 06/26/01 at 21:02:28 |
| slm, I'm da youngest in my family, so my advice may b lame:) ne i get along with a sisters quite well, no i do not copy my older sisters (i only did dat as a lil kid;)) * Not all sisters will wanna copy u -They may start if u talk to them more often,(i mean girly talks) -u could take them out as mensioned. -my sis (Nehar) introduces me 2 sum of her friends (good muslim friends;))- dat really helped me. U c, sisters sumtimes wanna talk 2 sum dats not related to them. As BroHanif said, Do not nagg, it never helps:)!!! take care, w'salaam |
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| slime |
| 06/26/01 at 22:43:27 |
| dude, ur all sisters?? lisha, mahmoodah, and nehar?? coolio. btw, i dont copy her anymore :D annonymous, please reply back and tell us how its going |
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| Lisha |
| 06/27/01 at 16:20:46 |
| slm, [quote]dude, ur all sisters?? lisha, mahmoodah, and nehar?? coolio.[/quote]Sister Slime, nearly every1 on da board know this, it has already been spotted out;) Take care, w'salaam |
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| slime |
| 06/27/01 at 17:45:24 |
| i'm slow in figuring things out :( |
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| nehar |
| 06/27/01 at 20:54:59 |
| [slm] arrrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg, every1 knows werre sisters, lol!! i say get the whip out, lol, ma sis r getting spoilt, lol [wlm] Nehar |
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| Ruqayyah |
| 06/27/01 at 21:00:27 |
| [slm] hey, wait a sec, i didn't know you guys were all sisters! but then again, i'm still a little newbie :) but that's way cool! I'm also looking for ways to make my sister's heart incline towards Islam a bit more. I'm especially afraid since she's going off to college in the fall, and I pray that inshallah she'll be alright. |
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| nehar |
| 06/27/01 at 21:10:03 |
| [slm] on a morre serious note, i think you just got 2 b calm and not shout. You cant let kids know when they get 2 u cuz they do it more. You should tell ur sisters about the importance of a hijab and how it lets you not show off ur beauty 2 any one. A hijab is a great way of giving dawah, as many ppl apprach you, wanting to know more about islam You should also explain that the hijab doesnt restrict you from doing things you want to do ( like studying and working), but it helps prevent us from doing things we r not supposed 2 do. any ways, i think i might buzz now, take care [wlm] Nehar |
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| Anonymous |
| 06/27/01 at 23:11:33 |
| SLM shukran for all your kind advice. At the moment alhamdulillah I have a good relationship with my sisters, I take them out quite a lot. Because I don't want to nag or be too hard, I don't talk about the serious stuff too much. Insha-Allah, I will follow this route but try to introduce a weekly get together just to talk more about the example of early Muslim women, Dress issues etc. I just get worried for them when I see the trend in society. The way of the Prophet (PBUH) is to remind and call to Islam in a gentle manner - I just get a bit crazy sometimes with weeks of Ally McBeal :). Shukran for all your beautiful advice. Insha-Allah, I will join this community soon. :) |
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| Mahmoodah |
| 06/28/01 at 02:51:22 |
[quote] i think you just got 2 b calm and not shout. Nehar[/quote] salam, i should quote this thing on not shouting, lol!!! neways, if u got a sis like nehar, its ok if she hits n yells at me;) sis nice to hear relations with ur sisters r good!!! try n discover islam with them, don't try n b the teacher!!! Wat Nehar did was, she made us find things out, we all wore the hijab together, n we stick 2gether;) wa-salam |
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| Lisha |
| 06/28/01 at 13:20:05 |
| slm [quote]i'm slow in figuring things out :([/quote] I din mean dat sis:(, ur not slow! I just felt like pointin it out. Thanx though, in da future i think i'll not point things like this out;) Oh yeah Anonymous sis, Alhamdulillah, :) i was pleased to hear things r goin nicely with ur sisters take care, w'salaam |
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