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jannah
08/08/01 at 16:32:50
Safety for Women

I learned from my children's karate classes that the
elbow is the strongest point on your body. If
you are close enough to use it, do!

If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick
out the back tail lights and stick your arm out
the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't
see you but everybody else will. This has
saved lives.

Last night I attended a personal safety workshop, and
it jolted me. It was given by an amazing
man, Pat Malone, who has been a bodyguard for famous
figures like Farrah Fawcett and
Sylvester Stallone. He works for the FBI, and teaches
police officers and Navy SEALS
hand-to-hand combat. This man has seen it all, and
knows a lot.

He focused his teachings to us on HOW TO AVOID BEING
THE VICTIM OF A VIOLENT
CRIME. He gave us some statistics about how much the
occurrences of random violence have
escalated over the recent years, and it's terrible.
Something like 99% of us will be exposed to,
or become a victim of a violent crime. Here are some
of the most important points that I got out
of his presentation:

(1.) The three reasons women are easy targets for
random acts of violence are:


(a.) Lack of Awareness You MUST know where you are & what's going on around you;

(b.) Body Language Keep your head up, swing your arms,
stand straight up.

(c.) Wrong Place, Wrong Time DON'T walk alone in an
alley, or drive in a bad neighborhood at
night.

(2.) Women have a tendency to get into their cars
after shopping, eating, working, etc, and just
sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc).
DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be
watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for
him to get in the passenger side, put a gun
to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU
GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE
DOORS AND LEAVE.

(a.) A few notes about getting into your car in a
parking lot, or parking garage: Be aware: look
around you, look into your car, at the passenger side
floor, and in the back seat.

(b.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your
car from the passenger door. Most serial
killers attack their victims by pulling them into
their vans while the women are attempting to get
into their cars.

(c.) Look at the car parked on the drivers side of
your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male
is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may
want to walk back into the mall, or work,
and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS
ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN
SORRY. (Better paranoid than dead.)

(3.) ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stair!
(Stairwells are horrible places to be alone
and the perfect crime spot).

(a) Do not get on an elevator if there is a weirdo
already on there. (Of course bad men don't
always look bad).

(b) Do not stand back in the corners of the elevator,
be near the front, by the doors, ready to get
off or on.

(c) If you get on the elevator on the 25th floor, and
someone suspicious gets on the 22nd, get
off when he gets on

(4) If the predator has a gun and you are not under
his control, ALWAYS RUN!


(a) Police only make 4 of 10 shots when they are in
range of 3-9 feet. This is due to stress.

(b) The predator will only hit you (a running target)
4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely
WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

(5) As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic:
STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed.

(a.) Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good looking,
well-educated man, who ALWAYS played
on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked
with a cane, or a limp, and often asked
"for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which
is when he abducted his next victim.

(b.) Pat Malone told us the story of his daughter, who
came out of the mall and was walking to
her car when she noticed 2 older ladies in front of
her. Then she saw a police car come
towards her with cops who said hello. She also noticed
that all 8 handicap spots in the area
were empty. As she neared her car she saw a man a few
rows over calling to her for help. He
wanted her to close his passenger side door. He was
sitting in the driver's side, and said he
was handicapped. He continued calling, until she
turned and headed back to the mall, and then
he began cursing at her. In the meantime, she wondered
why he didn't ask the 2 older ladies, or
the policeman for help, and why he was not parked in
any of the empty handicap spots. As she
got back to the mall, two male friends of hers were
exiting, and as she told them the story, and
turned to point at the car, the man was getting out of
the back seat into the front, and the car
sped away. DON'T GET CAUGHT IN THIS TRAP.

(6.). Tips to saving your life, if you have gotten
into a violent situation:


(a.) REACT IMMEDIATELY If he abducts you in a parking
lot, and is taking you to an abandoned
area, DON'T LET HIM GET YOU TO THAT AREA. If you are
driving, react immediately in the
situation, and crash your car while still going 5 mph.
If he's driving, find the right time, and stick
your fingers in his eyes. He must watch the road, so
choose an unsuspecting time, and gouge
him. It is your ONLY defense. While he is in shock,
GET OUT. (This sounds gross, but the
alternative is your fault if you do not act.)

(b.) RESIST Don't go along with him: run, if you are
able: DON'T EVER GIVE UP! You DO NOT
want to get to a crime scene.

(7.) Always keep your distance when walking past
strangers on the street or in dark areas.

(8.) GET A CELL PHONE.

(a.) There are packages for $19.95 a month that allow
you to program only 911 into the dialing
out program. (This is an alternative for parents who
say it is too expensive for their kids to have
a cell phone.)

(9.) BREAK DOWNS: Make every effort to avoid this by
ALWAYS keeping your car in good
working order.

(a.) If your car breaks down: LOCK YOUR DOORS. You
better have a cell phone to call for help.

(b). If you don't have a cell phone: (shame on you)
keep a blanket, warm clothes, a pair of
boots, and a flashlight in your car always, for
emergencies.


(c.) If it's noon on a business day, you may want to
put your hazards on and walk to safety.

(d.) If it's 2 a.m, put on your warm clothes, and walk
to a lighted area. You are a perfect target if
you are sitting in your car broken down. Predators
search the highways for easy targets like
you.

(e.) If you're on a desolate road: walk away from the
car (in your warm clothes) and go to some
bushes, or some area AWAY from your vehicles. It will
be cold, and uncomfortable, but you DO
NOT want to stay in your car, and there are no psycho
bogeymen waiting in the bushes who
knew you were going to break down there and then.

(10.) Physical defenses that we can use against the
violent predator:

(a.) The EYES are the most vulnerable part of the
body. Poke him there. HARD. It may be your,
only window of opportunity.

(b.) The neck is also a vulnerable spot, but you MUST
know where to grip, AND HAVE THE
STRENGTH to cut off his breath.

(c.) The last place is the KNEES. Everyone's knees are
very vulnerable, and a swift kick here
will take anyone down.

A cautionary note about these things. If you do not do
these things right the first time, you are in
trouble, because it will only anger the individual,
and that anger will be TAKEN OUT ON YOU.
I'm not saying don't attempt them (it may be your only
hope), but be forceful when you do.

(11) If you are walking alone in the dark (which you
shouldn't be) and you find him
following/chasing you:

(a) Scream "FIRE!", and not "help". People don't want
to get involved when people yell "help",
but "fire" draws attention because people are nosy.

(b) RUN!

(c) Find an obstacle, such as a parked car, and run
around it, like Ring Around the Rosie. This
may sound silly, but over the years, 5 women have told
Pat Malone that this SAVED THEIR LIVES.

(d) Your last hope is getting under the car. Once you
are under there, there are tons of things to
hold on to, and he will not be able to get you out and
will not come under for you (most likely).
Usually they give up by this point. The catch here is
that YOU MUST PRACTICE GETTING
UNDER THE CAR. You must have a plan (he will have
one);know if you will be going on your
back, front, from the side or back of the car. It must
be practiced.

(12) Never let yourself or anyone that you know be a
"closer" in any type of business (bar, store,
restaurant, gas station). Pat knew Danielle, who was a
girl that just died from being shot
point-blank by some kids while she was closing at the
local gas station. He talked with her the
night before she died , and asked whether it ever
scared her to close alone. She said yes, but
said "I'll be alright, Pat. I'll be alright." She
wasn't. Our world is not as safe as we pretend that it
is, and living in our fantasy worlds WILL get us in
trouble, sooner or later. Pat Malone said again
and again that the women who die EVERY MINUTE from
violent crimes expected to go to bed
tonight, and get up tomorrow. No one expects it, but
we must be prepared and aware so that
we HAVE A PLAN. BE PREPARED TO ACT! AND ACT HARD!

HAVE A PLAN!

I would encourage you to pass this on to all women,
not just your friends and family, but
everybody. We all need to hear it.




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