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Childhood-Could not forget
Shiyam1976
09/25/01 at 05:40:30

Assalamu Allaikum!

The below incident which I have extracted from the Autobiography of a Pious Person who lived in Delhi. He is Muhammad Zakariyah Khandlawi
of Saranphur India.

This incident will tell us how a Childhood plays a Important role in a human life.

I was about 03 or 04 years old and had not even learnt to walk properly. I still remember it very well as such things generally are very deeply imbedded in the mind.

My mother had great love for me. Women generally all love their children but for the way she loved me, may Allah grant
her high rank in the hereafter. I have very seldom seen any mother with so much love for her child. At that time she sewed a beautiful small pillow for me. It was much smaller than the one used by me today. I will not even forget what it looked like.
It was beautifully decorated in gold and silver lace etc.. I loved this pillow so much that , instead of placing it under my head,
I placed it in my embrace and at times kept it close to my chest.

Once my father shouted “ Zakariyah bring me a pillow.!!” At that moment , my love for my father rose inside me and with great enthusiasm and heartfelt sincerity with the purpose of offering him my pillow I asked “ Shall I bring my pillow???”

He replied “ Come here” I became very excited and happy as I rushed towards him. As I reached him he took hold of my both hand and with his right hand gave me such a smack in my face that even today I experience the ecstasy thereof .and I don’t think that I will forget it till my dying day. As he beat me he said “ Shall I bring mine????”
Have you ever earned something which gives you the right to say “ Shall I bring mine?”

I am extremely great full to Allah that from that day onwards whenever this incident comes to mind, I am reminded time and again that we in this world do not own anything . And more through Allah’s grace, this idea becomes continuously more strengthened in me  
Re: Childhood-Could not forget
Barr
10/02/01 at 05:26:42
Assalamu'alaikum,

Dear Brother,

Thank you for sharing :)

When I read this post (especially, when it comes to beating the boy up) I couldn't really understand why the father did that.

I think what the father wants to teach the child is of noble value, but I don't remember the Prophet (saw) beating a child to teach him something.

Though, yes, he did mention some disciplinary actions if a child did not do solat when he's 7 years old etc. But in his qudwah, he never  hit a child.

Maybe, we can think of how we can impart this value and other values that we want our children to embrace, before bringing in the rod to the lesson.

Just mah thoughts
Allahu a'lam :-)
Re: Childhood-Could not forget
Kathy
10/02/01 at 08:35:19

[quote]When I read this post (especially, when it comes to beating the boy up)[/quote]

... by slapping him in the face. I beleive there is hadith about this not being allowed.

I think we should be careful about these type of postings. It gives a false image of what is allowed in Islam.

The lurkers may not be muslims,
Re: Childhood-Could not forget
jannah
10/03/01 at 13:01:02
Yeah I found that rather kind of harsh to do to a child no matter what the lesson.
Re: Childhood-Could not forget
M.F.
10/03/01 at 05:22:18

[quote]


He replied “ Come here” I became very excited and happy as I rushed towards him. As I reached him he took hold of my both hand and with his right hand gave me such a smack in my face that even today I experience the ecstasy thereof .and I don’t think that I will forget it till my dying day. As he beat me he said “ Shall I bring mine????”
Have you ever earned something which gives you the right to say “ Shall I bring mine?”

[/quote]
I'm sorry but I thought that was sick.  What a way to teach something, and what a memory.  Of course the person will never forget, he was probably traumatized.  A 4 year old!  And I certainly don't understand "the ecstacy" of a smack on the face.  It's sick. And it also seems that the lesson wasn't about not owning anything in the world, it was about having to earn it to own it.
Re: Childhood-Could not forget
Kashif
10/03/01 at 06:29:28
assalaamu alaikum

I have to agree with M.F.

This certainly isn't an event that i've learnt a lesson from or derived any pleasure in reading.

Kashif
Wa Salaam
NS
Re: Childhood-Could not forget
Lisha
10/03/01 at 07:59:02
slm,

I think different ppl hav different ways of expressing themselfs!
Alhamdulillah My dad would always sit down and explain to me what i have done wrong:)  But if the person in this autobiolgraphy din mind what happend then it just shows ppl do think differently, but i think children understand things better when u explain to them and allow them to ask u questions:)

I know this kid who was unsure of the hijab, and her mum wanted her to wear 1 at the start of her new year!!! The fact that she din even know y ppl wear a hijab made he upset and she argued to her parents abt this each time the topic came up !!! ne ways when i asked her y ppl wear a hijab infront of her mum she told me she din know (all she knew was muslim women should wear 1). I sat and explained to her 4 hours until she had no more questions left, and now she wears a hijab without argument:)  This does show that children can understand what u wanna say to them without u having to lose their respect for u:)

Please dont take ne thing i hav said offencively:)
its just a view point of mine:)

take care,
w'salaam


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