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| Marrying a family? |
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| Anonymous |
| 10/10/01 at 01:41:42 |
| Asalam u Alaikum, I wondered if anyone has any comments on the issue of not just marrying a person, but his/her family too. Do you think that problems will arise if someone who is from a traditional pakistani family marries someone from a family whos siblings are more westernised? (although both families originate from pakistan..)do you think that this is something that could take a toll on the marriage? All comments are appreciated. Wasalam |
| Re: Marrying a family? |
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| se7en |
| 10/11/01 at 15:06:40 |
wa alaykum as salaam wa rahmatAllah, Yes. There are different expectations there - a sister or brother who's not raised in a "traditional desi" family may not even *know* what's expected of them. Just to make things easier, it'd be a good idea to get to know what each family is expecting of the young couple. Visiting home every month? Living in the husband's home for the first few years of marriage? etc. I know many sisters whose biggest fear about marriage isn't the wedding or children or having a difficult husband -- but the mother in law. :) just some thoughts :) wasalaamu alaykum. |
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| Shakira |
| 10/12/01 at 09:10:39 |
[quote] I know many sisters whose biggest fear about marriage isn't the wedding or children or having a difficult husband -- but the mother in law. :) [quote] You just said a MOUTHFULL ----------- But seriously, I do think that in many middle eastern families, you do married EVERYONE. It can be a situation where many butt heads, especially when there are thoser very verbal family members. That is why you have to get to know the family dynamics BEFORE MARRIAGE. Of course there will be those, that no matter what you do they will find something wrong with you. There will be others who want to change you into a replica of themselves. And then others who are more easy going. GOOD LUCK |
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| Hania |
| 10/12/01 at 17:40:13 |
| I think with asian families its pretty common to expect that you not only marry the groom but him mum, dad, brothers, sisters and uncles and aunti Gi's too! Also asian parents still treat you as if you're 12 years old even though you're 42, married and have ur own company, car and kids! Ohh I can't wait until I get married, yes sirie! But at the end of the day family life is important in Islam. Parents need their kids and kids need their parents. Mother in laws can be helpful and show you how to cook, and will be there to help look after the grandkids. Also we have to be there to look after our parents when they get old. Even though potential mother in laws scare me I'd never put mine in an old people's home :) |
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