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| Jenna |
| 11/11/01 at 03:01:59 |
| As'salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh! Dearest Sisters: I have decide to write a small and quick article concerning the issue of Women. Modest clothing Vs Immodest clothing. In this country Many Women believe that a women being attacked has NOTHING to do with the way she is dressed. I personally believe that; that is not true. Imagine this: 2 Women are walking down the street, one is dressed in a mini-skirt and halter top and the other is dressed like me, Hijaab, Niqaab, and Jilbaab. (Head covering, face covering and complete body covering.) There is an attacker walking behind us. Which woman will he choose? Me? who looks like a tent walking? Or, the other one who is dressed skimpy??? Of course the one who is dressed skimpy, because she is easier and more attracting to him. I believe that it is of course the attackers fault, because he could control himself and get help for whatever problem he may have, at the same time, we as Women should do EVERYTHING we can to protect ourselves and ask Allah Subhana'wa ta'aala to keep us safe and protected. Maybe we should be able to walk out of our houses cloth-less without worrying about men attacking us or looking us up and down like pieces of meat, but we cant. After Adam and Huwa (Adam and Eve) all that changed. That is one of the reasons why we as Muslim Women cover, is to protect our bodies from unwanted stares and attacks. There will always be that possibly of getting attacked, even with being covered from head to toe. But now; WE as Women have done EVERYTHING possible to ensure this from happening, by covering up, not talking to a man we are not married or who is not our relative (non-mahrams), except for business, dawah (spreading Islaam) or marriage, not being alone with a non-mahram man, not going out day/night except with a Mahram (husband, Brother, Father etc.if you can manage this..), and whatever other sensible things you can think of. Of course we are supposed to depend completely on Allah ta'aala, though we must still tie our camel and do everything He tell us too do that is humanly possible. Insha'Allah I hope and pray I have not offended anyone, Barak'Allah (May the blessing of Allah be upon you) for reading this small article Insha'Allah Ameen! Your Sis in Islaam Jenna :-) May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy. (from a poem) AllahsWay.com |
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| Lisha |
| 11/11/01 at 05:04:27 |
| [quote] WE as Women have done EVERYTHING possible to ensure this from happening, by covering up, not talking to a man we are not married or who is not our relative (non-mahrams), except for business, dawah (spreading Islaam) or marriage, not being alone with a non-mahram man,[/quote]wlm, ....also carry a glass bottle, 4 self defence!!! now we hav done every thing possible to avoidany thing wrong happening;) Luv ya artical sister Jenn take care... |
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| shareefa |
| 11/11/01 at 07:31:48 |
| '....also carry a glass bottle, 4 self defence!!!'' a can of deep heat works well too, its one of the few legal things your allowed to spray in he face of an attacker! |
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| Anonymous |
| 11/13/01 at 15:10:32 |
| >In this country Many Women believe that a women being attacked has NOTHING to do with the way she is dressed. I personally believe that; that is not true. Imagine this: >2 Women are walking down the street, one is dressed in a mini-skirt and halter top and the other is dressed like me, Hijaab, Niqaab, and Jilbaab. (Head covering, face covering and complete body covering.) There is an attacker walking behind us. Which woman will he choose? Me? who looks like a tent walking? Or, the other one who is dressed skimpy Of course the one who is dressed skimpy, because she is easier and more attracting to him. ------------ I see your point but I don't completely agree. Because we are sane and not criminally minded, we cannot get into such attackers' mind and say for sure what tips someone off. Experts say it's often an air of confidence and determination (someone who doesn't look vulnerable) that makes some people steer clear of attacking certain people. We can't say that only pretty girls get raped, or only bad girls get raped, or anything like that. Nuns have been raped. Women who wear hijab have been raped (just ask Palestinian and Bosnian women). Good Muslim women have had their clothes torn off by crazy people. Some people get extra thrills in attacking women who are perceived to be "pure." Some people get some kind of sick enjoyment out of making someone take off their clothing and expose themselves -- the whole power trip motivation behind raping someone at all, I suspect. Even a woman in a knee length skirt isn't "asking for it", or that she feels her entire body should be looked at. Covering one's hair is not a requirement for being modestly attired by many people's standards, in the non Muslim world -- Jehovah's Witness and Mormon women, for example, may wear long sleeves and mid-calf skirts. That doesn't mean they "want" to have their shirts ripped off. It's demoralizing, plain and simple. And some sick people thrive on demoralizing others. Additionally, the woman who covers herself completely may be perceived by some people as dumb, not able to speak English, afraid, and basically vulnerable. We all know this is not always true, but she may be pegged as less likely to fight back, or less likely to go to the police and report the idiot. (And heck, hearing about these honor killings, someone might think that the woman would only get shame by the community for "admitting" to having "fornicated" even though an attack like rape certainly is not an example of a willing act, on the part of the victim.) And in some instances, wearing long, flowing skirts or long, flowing coats may make it harder to beat someone up or run away quickly, and some women's choice of head covering may make it less easy for them to get a good look at their attacker. I appreciate your concern in posting this, but I want to make a comment that in no way is directed at you in particular. We need to make sure, as compassionate Muslims, that any person who is attacked in this manner is NEVER made to feel at fault for another person's sins and another person's mental problems. Such people (who are attacked) should only be the recipients of our compassion. |
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| Jenna |
| 11/13/01 at 15:22:29 |
| [wlm] Ta'BarakAllah for your response se7en! You raised some good points! :) :) :) Allah ta'aala says: 58 And those who annoy believing men and women undeservedly, bear on themselves the crime of slander and plain sin. 59 O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e.screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allâh is Ever OftForgiving, Most Merciful. ~~~~~~ When I said that Women who wears slinky stuff are probably attracting more to them then covering Muslimah's, I meant, usually women who are not Muslims, talk to men they are not married too, go out on dates (by themselves)etc.....Hijaab's not only the head covering its also the way we are supposed to act, modesty etc.Including Body covering... In Islaam; Women should not talk to men they are not married too, we don't go out on dates, and truly we should only go out if necessary (yet I go out for leisure :( ) ~~~ The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) permitted women to go out if there is an urgent need. He said, “It is permissible for you (women) to go out for your needs.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, Tafseer al-Qur’aan, 4421). ~~~ In my above letter I said that our being covered will not fully protect us from anything, yet we have done our UTMOST to protect ourselves. We must do our best to protect ourselves and by doing that we must follow what Allah ta'aala and his prophet (saw) told us to do. Ya Allah help us to do what you have prescribed for us! Allah huma Ameen! Your Sis in Islaam Jenna |
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