Madinat al-Muslimeen Islamic Message Board
| I want to embrace Islam... |
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| Anonymous |
| 12/17/01 at 15:25:44 |
| but I don't want to have to leave my husband. I am a Christian (sort of) or at least I was raised in a Christian household. I went through an agnostic/atheistic phase for a few years. Then I realized that my life was lacking something... eventually it dawned on me that that "something" was God. So I returned to the only faith I knew, Christianity. As was always the case I had more questions that the church had answers. The Bible always seemed to be lacking and no one had any solid answers. I always knew in my heart that the God of Christianity and the God of Islam were the same God, yet defined and viewed differently. After 9/11 I visited a local Islamic Community Center when they hosted an open house. I received a copy of the Qur'an and some literature about Islam. Since that time I have read everything I can get my hands on about Islam. I love the simple truth I find in the Qur'an. What I don't love is the idea that if my husband does not embrace Islam also that I will have to break up a happy, successful, solid marriage and take my daughter away from her father. I don't know what to do. I want to embrace Islam and submit to the will of Allah. But I don't want my daughter to be another divorce statistic either. Has anyone else been faced with this dilemma? |
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| solehah |
| 12/17/01 at 19:58:39 |
| Salaam Anon Its very early in the morning where I am at so I my brain cells have not yet awaken. I will try to post a proper response next but just wanna give u a hug and pray that all goes well with you. Please have faith and continue to have faith in ALlah for He will give u Guidance, Insya'ALlah. (((((((((((((Anon))))))))))))))))) |
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| bhaloo |
| 12/17/01 at 21:19:10 |
| Hello Anonymous, I am happy to hear about the wonderful news (you deciding to become a Muslim). :) Have you talked to your husband about him becoming a Muslim as well? Why doesn't he join this board and learn about Islam? All of us here would be happy to talk to him. |
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| Kathy |
| 12/18/01 at 10:31:11 |
[quote]I love the simple truth I find in the Qur'an. I want to embrace Islam and submit to the will of Allah. [/quote] Embrace Islam- because in your heart you know it is the right thing to do. God has shown you the path. You are one of the lucky ones to find Islam. God is offering you the best of gifts- do not return it. Put your faith in God and accept Him, in spite of any troubles or tests you may encounter. Because with every difficulty there is relief for the true believer. On the day of judgement you will answer for yourself- can you imagine how awful it would be to say- I did not accept Islam- because I was afraid? Think of the trials all the prophets went thru. Allah was always there to help them- even if they did not realize it at first. I am a revert too- feel free to e-mail me. |
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| blissfull |
| 12/18/01 at 16:07:16 |
| slm the fact that u want to is the first action. the intention preceeded this action. where did this intention eminate from? the inspiration of the desire to fullfill your empty echos is from ALLAH swt. therefore sis u are so fortunate. when ALLAH swt opens our hearts and our minds it is a true blessing and a true mercy from HIM. He will open the doors. dear sis, firstly if you have not embraced Islam. then i pray that ALLAH swt shows you the way. there is nothing between a believer and his creator. the fact that you see the truth is for yourself.you do not need anyones opinion or permission to embrace a truth. after you have embraced Islam, inshALLAH brother Arshad, has a very relevant point and a practical one. speak to your family. the fear that u have comes from within u. you should not even think of leaving until you have exhausted your options. therefore sis cross that bridge if and when it comes. we waste a lot of time and energy thinking what will happen and could happen. the point is now the moment is now your family may be more supportaive then u think. it is worth the effort. explain your desire, your need. give your family books,sites and you can even at some stage ask your local mosque to send a brother and sister around to talk to you and your family. or you can go to them. be active, patient,tolerant,forgiving. these are some of the characteristics of a believer. i pray that ALLAH swt eases your tasks and increases the light within you. Ameen. |
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| mujaahid |
| 12/18/01 at 16:59:07 |
| Assalaamu-alaikum. Have you spoken to your husband? Give him the literature you have read. Tell him how impressed you were buy it and ask him to read it. If you are that worried, maybe you could become a muslim in secret, and not tell your husband, as some people seem to do. A great source of info is this site www.islam-qa.com it has a simple search engine and the questions are often answered well respected scholars from the muslim world. |
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| Zafirah |
| 12/19/01 at 11:14:26 |
| I have talked to my husband and I have shown him that literature I am reading... Last night I have him a letter I wrote him - explaining my feelings and my beliefs and why Islam is the true path. I was hoping that it would open up the lines of communication. Instead it seems to have confused him, saddened him and created some distance between us. I am hoping that this is just a phase of acceptance and that once he moves past the "shock" he will at least be willing to talk openly about this. In my heart I already know that I am Muslim. I have not yet made my Shahadah - at least not out loud... At this point I think it is a matter of waiting and seeing what my husband does and how he reacts. I thank you all for your kindness and your replies! |
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| M.F. |
| 12/19/01 at 12:26:59 |
| Insha Allah the best way to keep the lines of communication open is to actually talk about it together. Reading about your feelings in a letter might not have had the same effect as seeing you talk about them and seeing your face change etc. That would have probably made it a lot more real to him. Just go ahead and accept Islam :) insha Allah things will work out after that. True, people do sometimes go through struggles when they first accept Islam, but it's SO worth it :) And you get so much reward in the hereafter for your patience! May Allah make things easy for you. Ameen |
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| solehah |
| 12/19/01 at 23:10:50 |
| Assalamualaikum wr wb Dearest Zafirah ( what a beautiful name btw ) As your name means wisdom, I am sure that ALlah will also provide you with the wisdom to go through these diificult times. I am not a revert in the strict sense because ALhamdulillah, I was born to Muslim parents. But, non-strictly speaking, some of us are "reverts" in the sense that we had in our pasts not adhered faithfully to the words of ALlah and are now trying to be closer to Him again. So please feel free to discuss anything with us here for we might be able to provide you with, if not answers, then new insights and perspectives to any questions you might have. With regards to your original post, I can only respond in one way. Life is about choices. I know it sounds cliched but its undeniable. You have to choose sister, its hard yes, but its a must. You say that in your heart you know Islam is the answer and that you desire to be a Muslim. I can understand your dilemma with your daughter's future and your husband's faith and your reversion. I fully sympathise with your feelings as a mother who wishes to have only the best for her daughter. Sister, before you actually start looking for solutions, ask yourself some very basic questions. Firstly, ask yourself what will give you internal peace. Without that, you might have all the worldly trappings and still not be happy. We all seek that, internal peace that will make us face life with a calmer outlook and with a stronger will. Will you get that internal peace with embracing Islam ? As it is, you mentioned that you have found answers in Islam. Would you be willing to turn away from those answers and live with questions and doubts and lies and still have peace ? Secondly, weigh the important things in your life. If you have to make a choice between two good ( I pray you don't have to ) then ask yourself what can you live without. People come and go in our lives. Some leave because of death and others because of circumstances. How would you feel losing your husband and how would you feel losing faith ? Thirdly, never give up. Discovering the beauty of Islaam is just the beginning. Nurturing that faith, deepening your knowledge about Islam and living life as a good Muslim takes a whole lifetime. Regardless of the trials you go through right now, don't give up. Perhaps your husband is hurt and confused now but thats understandable because Islaam is so misunderstood as a religion and he is of course wondering what has gotten into you. But, perseverence is the key. Dont stop talking to him, even when there are hurt and pain in those communications, remain steadfast and proceed. Be very sure of what you want in life and don't waver from that. There will be more obstacles for you, but these are just worldly tests. Insya'ALlah, you will be granted the strength and the zafirah to overcome such obstacles. To address the issue of your daughter, ask yourself what kind of environment do you want to raise her in ? Do you want her to be in a complete family per se or do you also want her to be raised in an Islamic environment ? I know that I am not helping much, but sometimes the written medium does not adequately potray how much concern I have for you. Pleae take care and I pray that ALlah will always bless you with His Mercy and Grace, Amin. Wassalam. |
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