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| advice [getting married without family help] |
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| Anonymous |
| 12/17/01 at 15:28:52 |
| Assalaamu Alaikum sisters I hope that you can help me or give me some advice on this matter. I really want to get married and settled down, but unfortunately there is nobody who is suitable in my family, or friends circle. I have respected and observed all of the islamic laws regarding segregation and socialisation between men and women. But I am finding getting married a problem, especially as my mahrems have told me that it is something that I have to sort out for myself. Please remember me in your dua's ns = |
| Re: advice [getting married without family help] |
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| amal |
| 12/17/01 at 18:31:30 |
| slm, The following is a good advice posted on the board by br. alzinjibar,jazahu Allahu khayran,in reply to a similar query. Bismillah Rahman Rahim,wa Salatu wa salam ala'a Rasul Karim, As Salam alaykum bro mujahid, What a noble intention you have mash'Allah,Allah (SubHana Wa Ta`ala ) has guided your heart towards this community and made it easy for you to put forward your concerns, al hamdulilah for that. From what i've learned up in Canada, is that those brothers and sisters who wanted a an Active sister who is not only practising her Noble Din but trying hard to learn and grow in it and with it is to get involve in the affairs of the community, in the weekly activities by that i mean halaqas,functions,dinners fundraising, promoting one event or another, helping the youth with their din,helping them to stay out of all the un-islamic issues, helping them to cope with the challenging teenager years,to close the family bond, to do some sport activities. And along that journey you'll come across wonderfull souls who deserve to be cherished and who'll make a good muslimah wife however your niya should be for the sake of helping the community. That's one aspect , the other one is to keep on making dua, dont u ever cease with ikhlas, even if u meet her and marry her keep on making dua for her and yourself. Get your self involved and leave it to the Creator , He(Awj)'ll provide for you. The reason i'm saying you should get involved in the community is because 1 - you are helping the community to grow. 2- your future wife will need , good muslimah around her to grow spiritually. 3 - you'll meet many challenges in your mariage life where that close circle of Practising muslims around you,we'll have a big role to play. 4 - as a couple you'll need the protecting veil of the community to grow, you'll need the motivation,inspiration of the members of the community to prosper spiritually. 5- your future kidds will need a strong community to grow islamically, where the community is trying it's best to inculcate into their youth the sens of din, and to live by it. This is just some of the points which come to mind while i was living in Canada, and those are just my opinion for every ones' experience in life is different as well as understanding. ie take them with a grain of salt, and May the Mercifull bless you in your endeavour. |
| Re: advice [getting married without family help] |
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| se7en |
| 12/21/01 at 02:39:26 |
wa alaykum as salaam wa rahmatAllah, It's tough. May Allah grant you strength and a wonderful husband when the time is right :) Check out the discussion [url=http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/yabb/YaBB.pl/YaBB.pl?board=sisters&action=display&num=3987]here[/url]. wasalaamu alaykum wa rahmatAllah.. |
| Re: advice [getting married without family help] |
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| Anik |
| 12/21/01 at 02:53:21 |
| asalamu alaikum, I as well am getting married without my family... not in the sense that they told me to handle it on my own and they want to watch, but they wouldn't even want to be a part of it... its not easy... to see your parents do that, and to have to be married without them. asalaamu alaikum. abdullah,. |
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