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| Anik |
| 12/21/01 at 02:57:38 |
| asalamu alaikum, What would you all do if... 1) Your son became apostate (ie. left Islam for another religion)? Would you speak with him? Be angry with him? Cut him off? Kick him out? Respect him? Would you attend his marriage? What would you expect him to do? What if he really believed in his new religion? I ask about "your son" hypothetically for a reason to keep a consistency in the responses (some people may treat sons and daughters differently). We can get to the daughter one later. asalamu alaikum. abdullah,. |
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| Arsalan |
| 12/21/01 at 03:24:39 |
| [slm] [quote]What would you all do if...[/quote]These answers are coming from someone who does not know what it is like to have a son :) : [quote]Would you speak with him?[/quote]Yes. For some time at least. [quote]Be angry with him?[/quote]Yes. [quote]Cut him off?[/quote]No. Not right away any way. [quote]Kick him out?[/quote]Hmm. That depends on many things. Do I have other children, younger than him? How old is he? Etc. It may also depend on what he has apostated to! [quote]Respect him?[/quote]Define respect. [quote]Would you attend his marriage?[/quote]Depends. If I am still in talking terms with him, and if I have still not cut him off, then I would. Otherwise, I wouldn't. [quote]What would you expect him to do?[/quote]I would not have any expectations from such a person! What I would *hope* ... and my hope would be placed with Allah, not anyone else ... is that I will be able to change his mind back to Islam. [quote]What if he really believed in his new religion?[/quote]I will keep trying to bring him back to Islam until I lose my patience. Why do you ask?! |
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| Anik |
| 12/21/01 at 03:27:34 |
| aslamu alaikum just asked out of the blue... its 3 AM and I'm bored... lol as well, because my father always asks me to imagine my son leaving Islam, and how I would fel. That's how he gets me to understand his feelings. asalamu alaikum. abdullah,. |
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| Yasin |
| 12/21/01 at 07:00:45 |
Assalamu alaikum bro abdullah i've a friend same situation with you here in india,i dont' know the feelings of his father....but i do know that they treat him well...and he was a muslim since his early childhood coz they live next to the mosque so, when he was young he use to go with muslims boys to the mosque and never stop him going to the mosque...now he is his late 20's and still live with his parents and muslim . As muslim if my son become apostate ....i 've do what sharia allows to do it.... wasalaamu aliakum ThE-YaSkA |
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| ABD |
| 12/21/01 at 16:38:30 |
| Assalamu Alaikum, I haven't thought about that much since I don't have a son. But if i did and he did become apostate... Would you speak with him? - Yes I would speak with him in order to find out why he changed religions. Be angry with him? - Yes I would b/c he knows the truth and yet he's rejecting it, Estagfirullah. Cut him off? - No i wouldn't b/c i'd like to know why he changed his mind and try to convince him to come back to Islam. Kick him out? - No b/c as their parent, it is our responsibility to take care of them, so I'd let them stay in my house. And as a Muslim, we have to show patience and remember that this life is a test from Allah-u Subhana Wata'ala and we have to rely on Him to help us. Respect him? - I would respect them to a point but he would lose the respect that i had for him b/c he rejected Islam. Would you attend his marriage? - I wouldn't attend it b/c I would be upset with him and angry at him. What would you expect him to do? - I would expect him to rethink his decision and come back to Islam. What if he really believed in his new religion? - I don't understand how he could b/c he knows the truth that Islam is the true religion. I would pray to Allah-u Subhana Wata'ala to guide Him on the straight path and to let him see that Islam is the true path to happiness. Well, that's just my two cents... Wassalamu Alaikum, Betul |
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| azher |
| 12/21/01 at 18:16:48 |
| salams, [quote]as well, because my father always asks me to imagine my son leaving Islam, and how I would fel. That's how he gets me to understand his feelings. asalamu alaikum. abdullah,.[/quote] interesting approach....is he really that worried you're gonna go off and become an evangelist or poly? :) |
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| Anik |
| 12/21/01 at 18:23:09 |
| asalaamu alaikum, [quote] interesting approach...[/quote] yeah it helps him explain his feelings to me and I know that when I expect certain things of him, I am being a hypcrite cause if I was in his position and my son left Islam I would think and feel the exact same way about his change. [quote] is he really that worried you're gonna go off and become an evangelist or poly? :)[/quote] sorry, I don't know what a poly is, and he's not so much worried about me becoming an evangelist, but one of thos ehardcore mullah-types with four wives, long beard, Jihad talk, and political inclinations. He doesn't want me to be fanatic and get myself hurt and do the wrong thing in the name of religion, or be swayed by some people into the wrong thing. He doesn't mind Islam, but he hates fanatcisim. asalamu alaikum. abdullah,. |
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