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| jaj |
| 03/05/02 at 14:32:00 |
| [slm] alhamdulillah i am single again and out of reach of my ex husband! i am so happy to announce this! i have been waiting for the divorce and now i finally have it! alhamdulillah! i know divorce is not favourable in Islam, but i think in my case it was the best thing to happen for us. (you'd have to read my other posts about it to understand why) so now....he told me before about a waiting period for me before i get re-married and i want to be sure i have my facts straight. he lied to me so much about Islam (to suit his own needs) so i want to make sure that this whole thing about the waiting period is true and if it is in fact 3 months or 3 mentral periods. please let me know, sisters! :) [wlm] jaj :-) |
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| Marcie |
| 03/05/02 at 15:52:29 |
| [slm] Sister, It is three menstral periods. [slm] Marcie :-) |
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| eleanor |
| 03/05/02 at 16:54:34 |
| [slm] Jaj I'm really happy for you! That is great news. You're well shot of that man! if you want to look up about the rules of divorce, it's all in the Qur'an, Alhamdulillah. You just have to wait to make sure you're not pregnant with his child before remarrying. It makes complete sense. May Allah bless you now with an easy life and a future filled with happiness :-* wasalaam eleanor |
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| jaj |
| 03/05/02 at 17:36:29 |
| [slm] thank you for your replies, sisters! [quote] You just have to wait to make sure you're not pregnant with his child before remarrying[/quote] lol i have already had his son, so i don't think it is possible for me to be pregnant. hehe but i understand that, and thank you very much :) [wlm] jaj :-) |
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| Laboogie |
| 03/05/02 at 21:25:41 |
I hear what u are saying caraj... I feel the same way...I guess it all depends on the situation u know...every situation is different.... But I totally see where u coming from .....just my 2 pennies :-) L |
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| jaj |
| 03/05/02 at 21:28:23 |
| [slm] Caraj, my marriage went downhill after 6 months of being together. we were married for a little over 2 years. i'm not planning on running out to begin the search for a new husband after 3 months. i don't even want to think about getting married again for a few years. i just wanted to make sure i was understanding how long i would have to wait if marriage is something i was looking for in the near future. to be honest, i don't have time for it. i have a 7 month old baby, school, work, re-learning Islam. if after 3 months i happen to be introduced to a brother who i could possibly be interested in, then alhamdulillah and inshallah perhaps it would work. if i don't, then no biggie. Allah knows best. i don't feel disrespected by your post. i just wanted to answer you. :-X i hope all that makes sense ;D [wlm] jaj :-) |
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| BUSHRA |
| 03/06/02 at 05:10:08 |
| [slm] First of all welcome back to the new board and I'm happy to know that you are doing so well now ALHAMDOLILLAH. A few years back a relative of mine went through pretty much what you have gone through except that she had two kids and even after the guy divorced her 3 times he still forcefully kept her in his house insistiong on sin and denying the divorce. She somehow managed to smuggle a letter to her family and then her parents stepped in to intervene. ALHAMDOLILLAH she now teaches at a school and is busy but very happy raising her kids. INSHALLAH things will work out wonderfully for you too , AMEEN. BUSHRA :-) |
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| eleanor |
| 03/06/02 at 06:27:22 |
| [slm] Cara, welcome back first and foremost. I think your question was answered pretty well by the sisters. I just wanted to add that the waiting period is also for widows. Do you know how many times I have seen talk shows on TV where the whole theme was "I don't know who my kid's father is". Sad or what. I suppose it's to avoid these types of scenarios. There may be some sisters who are ready to marry right after the divorce. Maybe the divorce took a long time to come through, or maybe the second husband is the reason for the divorce .. who knows ??? Alhamdulillah, Islam covers every situation. wasalaam eleanor :-* |
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| Marcie |
| 03/06/02 at 20:30:43 |
| [color=Teal] [slm] sisters, Divorced women shall wait by themselves for three monthly periods. [2:228] Not only has this waiting period been established so that a woman can make sure that she is not pregnant, but it also allows a married couple to reconcile if they so desire. As far as I know during this time period the woman cannot be asked to marry by another Muslim. Subhan Allah Islam has established rules for everything if we choose to really follow the deen. [wlm] Marcie :-)[/color] |
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