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the Net you: not you?
se7en
03/08/02 at 00:41:58
as salaamu alaykum,

How accurate do you think your "internet you" is?  Do you think it's the same as the "real life you"?  Do you behave the same online as you do in real life?  Do you think you come across the same way?  
Re: the Net you: not you?
jannah
03/08/02 at 01:24:27
wlm,

i think someone's internet persona and real life persona are VERY different. They are like seeing only facets of a whole. On the internet you can get to know someone's thoughts and ideas and likes and dislikes, their dreams and aspirations, some history, but you'll never know the whole person. In real life, people are different and they act different and you actually pick up on a lot of insights you otherwise wouldn't have thru the net.

anyways my 2 liras..
Re: the Net you: not you?
Tesseract
03/08/02 at 02:12:55
[slm]


Ditto, sis jannah! Its the difference of being theoretical and being practical. About myself, I have noticed that I am way different on internet than I am in real life. I tend to express my feelings/thoughts on net more than I implement them in my real life, which in a way isn't definitely positive but its always good to see one's weaknesses. Reminds me of these two aayaat  from time to time when I look at myself:

O you who believe! Why do you say that which you do not do? Most hateful it is with Allâh that you say that which you do not do. [Al-Qur'an, 61:2,3]

Wassalam.











Re: the Net you: not you?
UmmWafi
03/08/02 at 05:19:16
Salaam

This is a real life story.  A male friend of mine claims he is single whereas he is married with kids.  A gal fell in love with him on the Net cos he is a nice guy.  He loves his wife so he confessed.  Too late. Gal's heart broke...she is seeing a therapist.

The Net......as the name suggests, might trap u within. Na'uzubillah.

Wassalam.
Re: the Net you: not you?
eleanor
03/08/02 at 06:02:25
[slm]

A word of warning...never trust or believe anyone on the net at face value.

I don't think I am the same on the net as in real life. I'm a bit more outgoing and lively here than in real life. I also use phrases like "Alhamdulillah" or "Mash Allah" a lot more often here than I would speak them.
Some people are pretty much the same on or offline. I know of one.  ;)

wasalaam
eleanor  :-*

ps: all you Albanians or members who know each other in real life... do you think your friends/spouses come across the same on the net as they do in real life???
Re: the Net you: not you?
Barr
03/08/02 at 06:13:03
Wa'alaikumussalam warahmatullah :-)

The sum of the whole is different from the whole...

There are just too many and yet, too little barriers in the net that facilitate pretense or a manifestation of dreams, one wish one could be in the net.

It could even flourish a side of a person, that would otherwise diminish in the real world.

And it could be good or bad.

To me, a person is when he is in-person... there may  be a lot of things that one may know about someone through the net, as mentioned earlier.. his thoughts, character, ideals etc...

But we would not be able to capture...
the feeling of his... hmmm... ruh.

The light in her eyes,

the sweetness of her smile,

the warmth of her heart,

the sincerity, the playfulness, the courage, the nuttiness, the patience and the strength...

coz, the net is where we talk... and the real world, is where we walk.
And that's where real prints are left behind.

I think the net only displays an iota of who a person is. Nevertheless there can be a lot of depthness knowing a person through the net, if everyone is being sincere and honest... which otherwise, in real life, we may just overlook a person to be just like anyone else on the street.

But personally, I think we should take in whatever good and pure that comes from the net, from the voices of those behind the screen.. regardless of what they're really like outside... for that is smt that we may never know.

Anyways.. to answer the question... hmm.. lets just say.. there are certain things that I wouldn't do in real life as I've done here (like attempted hypnosis and sticking my tongue out  :P)  and there are things in real life that I would do, but I wouldn't do it here (like drinking sprite ;))

So, UmmWafi.. am I the same in the net and out?   :)

Allahua'lam
Wassalam! :-)
03/08/02 at 06:14:05
Barr
Re: the Net you: not you?
eleanor
03/08/02 at 06:29:53
[quote author=Barr link=board=bebzi;num=1015566119;start=0#5 date=03/08/02 at 06:13:03]


coz, the net is where we talk... and the real world, is where we walk.
And that's where real prints are left behind.[/quote]

Well said!  [] [] []

[quote]
Anyways.. to answer the question... hmm.. lets just say.. there are certain things that I wouldn't do in real life as I've done here (like attempted hypnosis and sticking my tongue out  :P)  and there are things in real life that I would do, but I wouldn't do it here (like drinking sprite ;))

[/quote]

Well that's a relief...  :P :P :P

wasalaam
eleanor  :-*

Re: the Net you: not you?
Kathy
03/08/02 at 08:56:52
[slm]

8)I am me. What you read is what I am. At least that is my perception.

:-[What we should do is ask our friends who know us if we are the same as the person on the board.

;)Mary?

:-)
Re: the Net you: not you?
M.F.
03/08/02 at 09:44:16
Assalamu alaikum,
Oh I'm SO much nicer in person  ;)  8) :-[
Actually it seems to me that my "net" personality is getting closer and closer to the real me.  There was a time when email was something that just liberated me and I was able to express all sorts of feelings that I couldn't actually say and I could write about how I felt about Islam in a passionate way that didn't come out when I was just talking.  Now I think I've reached a middle ground (or personality) that's kind of reserved both on the web and in real life (although to me a big part of my real life is the web, since I'm taking online classes and since you all are a big part of my life).   :)
Caraj, don't tell me you can do this  :-/ in real life!!  ;)
Re: the Net you: not you?
Leslie
03/08/02 at 11:50:31
[quote author=M.F. link=board=bebzi;num=1015566119;start=0#9 date=03/08/02 at 09:44:16] Oh I'm SO much nicer in person[/quote]

[slm]
I agree with this -- I tend to be stiff and formal when I write, much less so when I know people face to face.  It just takes me  a while to become comfortable with people.  Seeing them helps tremendously, so on the internet, it takes me a lot longer to get over being shy.  I guess many people have the opposite experience -- they feel liberated by the anonymity; I still feel awkward with it, and this awkwardness comes through in some of my posts.   :)

[wlm]
Leslie

Re: the Net you: not you?
Ayla_A
03/08/02 at 19:19:22
[slm]

I think for myself it depends where I am on the net.....if I am chatting with a friend I am very much myself.  I have always been sort of a like me or not, doesn't make a difference for me.  I do not pretend in real life to be something I am not, and I do not do that online....

Now for someplace I may not feel comfortable, I know that I tend to hold back much of my personality, simply it is scary to put the "real" you out there for all the world to see.

I am much more chatty though online than i am in "real" life though.  weird.  I am not sure why

well that's me

[wlm]
:-) Ayla_A  :-)
Re: the Net you: not you?
Julie
03/08/02 at 20:26:52
[quote]I tend to be stiff and formal when I write, much less so when I know people face to face[/quote]
Same here!  My writing is way to serious and formal!  I'm not outgoing in real life either, but I think I sound more casual and relaxed when I'm actually talking to the person and not just writing on the computer.  You think it's something with us Torontonians, Leslie?

Julie :)

P.S. Can somebody tell me what to press or what the code is so that instead of saying "quote" it will say who wrote the quote and at what time?  I'm having problems with this one. ::)
Re: the Net you: not you?
Marcie
03/08/02 at 20:58:44
[color=Teal] [slm]

My personality on line it is much more reserved.  One because it is a mixed board and two because it takes me time to open up to people.  I am definitely more lively and energetic in person and I like joking around.   :-/ The Islamic stuff is pretty much the same. :-*


[wlm]
Marcie  :-)[/color]
03/08/02 at 21:00:33
Marcie
Re: the Net you: not you?
Yasin
03/09/02 at 00:39:18

[slm]


 Hello, where are   ;-) s  only  :-)s answered .


Ok. i've one question . Can we figure out the characters of the person at the first meeting in real world? No way.. we cant unless we spent with that person in different occations in his life. i.e travelling with him or her ,having discussions etc.

About me ,I think i'm the same person in cyperworld and realworld ,but the only thing that cyperworld people didnt figure out is that i'm TALKATIVE.


ThE-YaSkA   ;-)  
Re: the Net you: not you?
eleanor
03/09/02 at 06:34:10
[quote author=Julie link=board=bebzi;num=1015566119;start=0#12 date=03/08/02 at 20:26:52]

P.S. Can somebody tell me what to press or what the code is so that instead of saying "quote" it will say who wrote the quote and at what time?  I'm having problems with this one. ::)[/quote]

Julie, you have to click on "quote" on the post which you want to quote. Then it comes automatically.. you just delete the stuff you don't want to quote..
that's how I do it anyway  []

wasalaam
eleanor  :-*
Re: the Net you: not you?
Julie
03/09/02 at 17:33:16
[quote]Julie, you have to click on "quote" on the post which you want to quote. Then it comes automatically.. you just delete the stuff you don't want to quote...that's how I do it anyway[/quote]
Click on "quote" on the post I want to quote ???  I'm confused! :'(
Thanks Eleanor, but I'm still not quite getting this one. ::)

Julie []
Re: the Net you: not you?
isra81
03/09/02 at 18:55:06
As Salamu Alaikum. Internet is not me and I'm not Internet. Internet is tool. Over Internet is my life ruined. Wassalamu Alaikum
Re: the Net you: not you?
zomorrud
03/09/02 at 22:19:21
assalamu alaikum,

I'd like to think I am more serious & responsible in non-internet scenarios - I seem to goof off a lot here.  
Re: the Net you: not you?
SisterFidDeen
03/10/02 at 00:49:29
[slm]

I honestly can't say how I'm different online than in real life. lol Have to remind myself to ask someone who knows me on and off the net

[wlm] :-)
Re: the Net you: not you?
Laboogie
03/10/02 at 01:09:00
[slm]



ummm, I dont know...but I think that I am myself kind of....I think that at times I cant express myself on the net as I wish I could. But I would have to agree with jannah, in NOT knowing the whole person.  I guess I have to ask the ppl who know me, if I am the same Laboogie  ;)


peace
L
Re: the Net you: not you?
eleanor
03/10/02 at 12:17:29
[slm]

Julie, up in the right hand corner of every post there is a link called "Quote".

Try clicking on this...   8)

wasalaam
eleanor  :-*
Re: the Net you: not you?
Julie
03/10/02 at 14:14:37
[quote author=eleanor link=board=bebzi;num=1015566119;start=15#21 date=03/10/02 at 12:17:29] [slm]

Julie, up in the right hand corner of every post there is a link called "Quote".

Try clicking on this...   8)

wasalaam
eleanor  :-*[/quote]

Ohhhhh...it all becomes clear now!
Thanks Eleanor!

Julie:)
Re: the Net you: not you?
UmmWafi
03/11/02 at 10:41:35
Salaam

Barr asked me if she is the same in real life as she is on the net.  Honestly,
i can't judge.

I am at best a complicated person in real life and at worse a contradiction.  People always assume they know me but they later discover they don't.  On the net, I present myself simpler than i am in real life.

What do YOU think Barr ?

Wassalam.
Re: the Net you: not you?
Barr
03/12/02 at 06:40:33
Wa'alaikumussalam warahmatullah :)

[quote]What do YOU think Barr ? [/quote]

I think you're so full of surprises! :)

Some people come with a template... you can somehow, feel what sort of a person they are. It's not about being judgemental... it's just that they have less surprises :) ... like me.  (but of course, if they think I can't speak English, then they're in for a surprise! :P ;) ha ha)...

I'm just glad that I know you in person, and managed to be with the person within you, alhamdulillah.

If I can only know you online, then, I don't think I'd know you at all. Yes, all the nuttiness is there, and inspirationalness... (she's probably more nutty in real life! :P ;)), but nothing like knowing you for real.... Allahua'lam.

Somehow, I think you've somewhat changed eversince you started your Masters... something in you. I felt it when we went out for lunch. Or maybe.. it's just a part which I'm beginning to discover. Allahua'lam

As for me, what I say on the board, is what I think and feel at that time. There are some things which I have opinions on, but I'd rather keep silent and listen.
I'm more friendly to brothers on the net than in real life. And I'm more open in the net... otherwise, I do keep my cards close to my chest... but neither am I a deep introvert and hermit.

And like others, there are other facets of me, which many wouldn't know.. there are dreams which would not be told... and I'd probably come across as just another ordinary Malay Muslimah if you are to see me... well, maybe not! I forgot... my size doesn't fit the ordinary petite Malay lady!;) OK, OK.. a B-I-G Malay Muslimah :-)

Wassalam :-)
~~Enigma Barr~~
Re: the Net you: not you?
eleanor
03/12/02 at 06:45:05
[move][size=6][glow=red,2,300]  :-*LIDDI :-*  [/glow][/size][/move]


ha ha... I've been waiting for this opportunity..... Muahahahaha.....

[] [] []

wasalaam
eleanor  :-*
Re: the Net you: not you?
Aabidah
03/12/02 at 08:57:33
[slm]

[quote]

I guess I have to ask the ppl who know me, if I am the same Laboogie    


peace
L

[/quote]


LOL, i was just thinking about this last night as I was reading some posts on the board. Laboogie you are the same person, I think, on and off the board....to the point, know what u're talking about, go for what u want, awesome sister MashaAllah.  

As for myself, I can't say much...i'd have to go with Laboogie and see what others have to say. Sometimes I think I get a little too goofy on the board  :D ;D but then again, that's me always huh?   :-/ :-/ :-/
Like I said, I can't say for myself... ;) ;)

[wlm]
Betul
Re: the Net you: not you?
Mary
03/12/02 at 10:48:20
[slm]

Kathy, I think out of the people I know on-line and in reality you are pretty much the same both places.  When I read some of you posts I (think) know what the tone of your voice would be.  Or the look on your face.  Here the others aren't gettig that so they are missing out.  Espically your tone in a retorical question? :o


so how about me?
Re: the Net you: not you?
Kathy
03/12/02 at 20:53:55
[slm]

:)On this board I think you are percieved as shy and quiet.

::)... if they only knew...

8)I keep waiting for the Road trip we plan on taking to meet the Albany Mafia....

:-)
Re: the Net you: not you?
Mary
03/13/02 at 09:13:00
[slm]

 See Kathy they know the real me  ;)   Shy quiet  not a rable rouser like you.   :D
Re: the Net you: not you?
se7en
03/13/02 at 09:47:41
as salaamu alaykum wa rahmatAllah,

Kathy, that would be very cool  8)

I think that the only type of person who can tell whether you're the same both in real life interaction and online is someone who has known you online *first* and then has met you.  The reason I say this is because I think that people who know you tend to animate your words with your mannerisms and behavior.  Know what I mean?  Like take for example.. Laboogie (I've been teasing her too much these days :P)  I read her words on the board, or on instant messenger, and because I *know* her, I know the tone she is using when saying them, her facial expressions, what she may mean by certain phrases or comments, etc.  The same with all the other kids I know on the board.  

But for those of you I don't know, I animate your words - form an understanding of you - based on our previous conversations, your posts, etc.  This construction is not based on you, but on what *I* have read/learned/concluded/assumed about you.

And then, when people meet, this construction ('she's so pious', 'he's really goofy') meets with the real deal, and no one is as you expect them to be!!

Haha.. not that I know anything about this :P  The only person I've met from online is Fatoosh, for like three minutes in the bazaar of the last ISNA conference.  She was cool  8)

What do you think?  That's my theory...

And yes I over analyze.. I know :P

wasalaamu alaykum wa rahmatAllah :)
03/13/02 at 09:57:32
se7en
Re: the Net you: not you?
BrKhalid
03/13/02 at 12:13:21
Asalaamu Alaikum ;-)

[quote]How accurate do you think your "internet you" is? Do you think it's the same as the "real life you"? Do you behave the same online as you do in real life? Do you think you come across the same way? [/quote]


[quote]I think that the only type of person who can tell whether you're the same both in real life interaction and online is someone who has known you online *first* and then has met you. [/quote]


Trust me Br Abu Atheek is a great brother on the board and a great brother away from it too. ;-)

The net can definitely give you an idea about someone's personality but you can only get a true reflection on someone's character if you meet them, get the chance to really talk to them and also observe their behaviour amongst others.

For example, I would have never guessed Br Abu Atheek had such a sweet tooth!!! ;)
Re: the Net you: not you?
meraj
03/13/02 at 18:13:47
slm,

i suppose i *try* to be the same online and offline though it definitely depends on who i am interacting with and in what situation. i try not to think about this stuff too much cause it either goes to my head or i feel too self conscious  :P
Re: the Net you: not you?
UmmWafi
03/14/02 at 12:33:37
Salaam

So Barr I have changed huh ? Hmmm....

As for u...whether its online or in rl, all I can say is, I am grateful to Allah for the opportunity to call u sister  :-*

May Allah bless u and keep u in His Light always, Amin.

Wassalam


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