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| struggling |
| 03/17/02 at 17:18:53 |
| Assalamoalaikum Can any one advise me as to what are the possible Islamic perspectives regarding getting counselling from a non-Muslim person on some one's personal say marital issues, individually or by both man and wife? Individually, it may result in telling him/ her things things that you may not be actually discussing with any one in real life. Wassalam |
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| Kathy |
| 03/18/02 at 09:16:47 |
| [slm] Personally I would be hesitant to go for marriage or personal counseling to a non Muslim. They just don't understand us, Islam and our way of life. I would wonder if they are caught up in the steryotypical image of Muslims- the poor oppressed woman, the obeying, shoot- the scarf alone! Would this affect thier couseling and suggestions? Would they want to "bring us to the 21 century"- would they guide us to assert ourselves- in the wrong way? Would they do all they can to help the marriage survive- or just assume that it should end? I would rather talk to a scholor- one who my husband respected. I think my hubby would take advice from a scholar, before he would ever a counselor. I would too. I'm sure I would have to spend alot of time and effort in trying to make a counselor understand who and what I am. With a scholar- we could get right to the "meat and potatoes." :-) |
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| Aabidah |
| 03/18/02 at 09:41:41 |
| [slm] I don't think I have that much knowledge to answer this question but I know people who've been through similar problems. I think it's best to see a scholar, or the Imam of the community about marital issues because like Sr. Kathy said, the scholar is Muslim themselves so they can understand better. Also, b/c the advice that the scholar gives will be based on the rules and regulations of Islam and you, as a Muslim, will be more comfortable with the advice given, InshaAllah. [wlm] Betul |
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| yoursister |
| 03/21/02 at 04:54:53 |
| assalamu alaikum i am not sure how readily available muslim counsellors are and i have no knowledge about how imans would approach his and maybe they are the best port of call. however, with regards to individual counselling i would have to say it depends on who you speak to. counselling maybe mis represented. it isn't about some person sitting there looking down at our way of life. if they are a good counsellor they will listen to how you want your life to be according to islam and they will try and guide you so that you find the answers to your problems yourself. a good non-muslim counsellor is only a facilitator in helping you. inshallah you will find the help you need wa alaikum assalam |
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