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| How to persuade someone to wear the Hijab? |
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| Anonymous |
| 04/09/02 at 03:32:50 |
| Asalam Alaikum I am trying to convince some friends to wear hijaab. What are some persuasive points/rhetorics that you would suggest? Articles and stories about the hijab would be helpful also. JazakAllah Khairan. |
| Re: How to persuade someone to wear the Hijab? |
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| Kathy |
| 04/09/02 at 08:46:59 |
| [slm] I have found the best way is to explain Tauweed. Once they believe in Allah swt- and all that He swt tells us to do, they will begin to cover- just because Allahswt said to. :-) |
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| AyeshaZ |
| 04/09/02 at 11:12:50 |
| [slm] I agree with sis kathy, Also make tons of Du'a for your friends. Actions speak louder than words, inshaAllah once they see how wearing hijab has impacted you, they will be like hmm let me start wearing it..There are some articles that personally helped me a lot.. there is one in particular thats on this website.. let me look for it.. inshaAllah will get back to you :-) :-* JazakumAllahu Khair |
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| sofia |
| 04/09/02 at 12:00:03 |
| As-salaamu 'alaikum wa rahmatullah Masha'Allah, I'm happy you want to take some initiative in getting a sister to wear hijaab, may Allah reward you. Think back to when you (assuming you're a sister) started wearing hijaab. What was it that got you thinking? I could be wrong, but I doubt anyone can put the intention in your heart for you. The right intention is so key! Good advice already given, teach by example. Make du'aa she chooses the right friends. Also, once someone realizes that hijaab is mandatory, it's much easier on the individual to take the next steps and decide when to actually start, insha'Allah. :) |
| 04/09/02 at 15:46:34 |
| sofia |
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| Chris |
| 04/09/02 at 15:00:31 |
| You should not nag someone into doing something, EVER! You may think that what you are doing is right, but for them, it can only poison them. If they think that they have been pushed into doing something, they will resent that and come to hate it, and perhaps you. I rarely qoute the Qur'an at anyone, but: "and there are people who say: 'we believe in Allah and the last day; and they are not at all berlievers." People like that become like that because they are forced to do so, rather than coming to God of their own free will. After all, thats why I left Christanity Regards Chris |
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| sofia |
| 04/09/02 at 15:48:58 |
| As-salaamu 'alaikum wa rahmatullah Excellent advice, Chris. And I don't think I was as clear as I wanted to be, but my above blah-blah-blah should be translated into: Don't push her, work on yourself and more important issues of faith for those who will listen. Donning the hijaab is but a small part of faith (and its absense does not negate faith), although once you start, it's so much bigger than you'd have imagined (hope that made sense). |
| 04/09/02 at 15:50:37 |
| sofia |
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| bismilla |
| 04/12/02 at 08:06:25 |
| [slm] In addition to agreeing with Br. Chris and Sr. Sofia, I would like to add the following received in an email :- [quote]I DON'T THINK IT COULD HAVE BEEN SAID ANY BETTER...... Subject: FW: precious Taken from the book: More Than A Hero: Muhammad Ali's Life Lessons Through His Daughter's Eyes. "If memory serves me correctly, I was wearing a little white tank top and a short black skirt. I had been raised Orthodox Muslim, so I had never before worn such revealing clothing while in my father's presence. When we finally arrived, the chauffer escorted my younger sister, Laila, and me up to my father's suite. As usual, he was hiding behind the door waiting to scare us. We exchanged many hugs and kisses as we could possibly give in one day. My father took a good look at us. Then he sat me down on his lap and said something that I will never forget. He looked me straight in the eyes and said, "Hana, everything that God made valuable in the world is covered and hard to get to. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You've got to work hard to get to them." He looked at me with serious eyes. "Your body is sacred. You're far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too." [/quote] |
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| Muslimah |
| 04/12/02 at 08:49:51 |
| Salaam, the best thing to do as a Muslim is to set an example, you should educate them as to why wearing a hijab is so important, what benefits they have, you can't really tell a person that Hijab was ordered by Allah and then leave it at that, although that is the main reason why we wear a hijab, is because Allah has told us to. but there must be a more significant meaning as to why and thats what u hve to teach ure Muslim Sisters. you should never give up and if they don't take in ure advice or ure input then maybe in the future they will realise what u were talkin about. Wearing a hijab sme point in ure life is better than leaving it in the past or not wearing it at all. |
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| UmmAbdulRahman |
| 04/15/02 at 16:49:49 |
| [slm] When I was struggling to begin wearing the hijab, I felt so much pressure from my family. They all, especially my parents, would be so disappointed in me and angry with me because I hadn't been wearing hijab for years. I truly did want to wear hijab and I really did not feel like a true muslima without the hijab. I couldn't make that step though until...somebody told me to wear the hijab for Allah and never take it off for anybody. And that was like a lightbulb that went off in my head. I was like, Wear hijab for Allah??? That was a concept that was so simple but I never thought about it-I just needed someone to tell it to me and when it was told to me, it gave me so much strength-and I started to wear the hijab-going on 6 years now....Alhamdullillah! |
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| Madinat |
| 04/15/02 at 23:24:29 |
| [slm] [quote]I DON'T THINK IT COULD HAVE BEEN SAID ANY BETTER...... Subject: FW: precious Taken from the book: More Than A Hero: Muhammad Ali's Life Lessons Through His Daughter's Eyes. "If memory serves me correctly, I was wearing a little white tank top and a short black skirt. I had been raised Orthodox Muslim, so I had never before worn such revealing clothing while in my father's presence. When we finally arrived, the chauffer escorted my younger sister, Laila, and me up to my father's suite. As usual, he was hiding behind the door waiting to scare us. We exchanged many hugs and kisses as we could possibly give in one day. My father took a good look at us. Then he sat me down on his lap and said something that I will never forget. He looked me straight in the eyes and said, "Hana, everything that God made valuable in the world is covered and hard to get to. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You've got to work hard to get to them." He looked at me with serious eyes. "Your body is sacred. You're far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too." [/quote] funny thing is now laila's a professional boxer ??? [wlm] :-) |
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| bismilla |
| 04/17/02 at 04:42:43 |
| [slm] :-) [font=comic sans MS][color=green]That is very sad to hear. The essence of the message however still rings true and sincere and will hopefully not be lost on the rest of us :-*[/font][/color] [slm] :-) |
| 04/17/02 at 04:47:42 |
| bismilla |
| Re: How to persuade someone to wear the Hijab? |
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| Chris |
| 04/17/02 at 15:39:22 |
| No offence meant, but what is the message? That the Hijab is something that you grow out of? People who truly believe may wear it, but they don't NEED it. Its just a reminder of who you are. But if you believe, therefore knowing who you are, you don't need to constantly remind yourself what you are, and therefore can accept God peacefully. Hope I'm making sense here. Chris |
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| Laila |
| 04/17/02 at 16:50:53 |
| [slm] ;-) Chris-- the "message" is that if you truly love Allah(swt) and wish to follow His complete guidance, then as a Muslimah you wear Hijab. I suffer from the heat normally, but I was more miserable the last few years out of hijab than I could ever be- regardless of the weather- out of it. I thank Allah(swt) for giving me this little way of showing to others my devotion to Allah(swt). Does this help? [wlm] :-) Laila |
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| bismilla |
| 04/18/02 at 10:50:14 |
| [slm] [font=comic sans MS][color=green]bsm Jazak Allah for that Sr. Laila :-) Actually Br. Chris, the message i was referring to was :- [quote]"Your body is sacred. You're far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too." [/quote] Just because a person was advised in that regard and chose to ignore the message, it does not make the message untrue.[/font][/color] :-) [slm] |
| 04/18/02 at 11:02:23 |
| bismilla |
| Re: How to persuade someone to wear the Hijab? |
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| Anonymous |
| 04/23/02 at 15:39:24 |
| asalaamu alaikum, for the sisters who don't wear hijab but really know you have to wear it, at times you just have to be blunt, yeah its fine that your not ready yet, but at the same time you better pray to allah that you will be ready before you pass away. do you really want to die in a state where you are disobeying allah? (this is not something to be worked on all sisters), just those who you know are really just putting it on the side for absolutely no reason. in the long run they might thank you. for others just be an example for them, show them its not as hard as it may seem and that you can do most of the things you did before wearing hijab (halal of course). |
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