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| Problem with doing good after sins and family? |
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| Anonymous |
| 04/10/02 at 15:11:39 |
| Assalamu Alaikum, I have a problem: I have grown up in a muslim family, but the point is that we do not pay full attention to our religion like praying regularly etc. now the problem is that I have made a lot of great sins during my life and now I want to be a muslim in full submission to Allah (swt). but everytime I want to worship Allah(swt) by doing good deeds and praying, I am afraid that my family members will see that and that they will think that I am a good muslimah. I have already heard thing like she is so innocent etc etc (and i know i am not, they don't know it cause they don't know my sins) what should i do, cause i don't want any limitations for Islam cause of this, Jazakallah for your advice, your confused sister |
| Re: Problem with doing good after sins and family? |
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| Maliha |
| 04/10/02 at 15:26:31 |
| [slm] Sister Alhamdullillah you have reached a point in your life when you want to submit to Allah completely. It's awesome Mashaallah! Repent for your sins sincerely to Allah and know that those who seek sincere repentance are forgiven, so you will start on a clean slate. Focus on the fact that you are doing everything for Allah's sake, and hence don't worry about what people say. Don't go at length to hide your deeds, nor display them for show, but just maintain a balance. You never know you might even influence the rest of your family to do good deeds from your example. Our actions are dawah to others, even when we are not aware of it. Get a couple of nice tapes/books on purification of the soul, Sheikh Hamza Yusuf, or Imam Zaid Shakir, read the Quran, pray, attend the masjid and definitely hook up with some practising sisters it will give you the morale and strength you need. Sign up on this board if you haven't, its such a nice place to connect and ask questions and draw from other's wisdom, ideas, and knowledge. Lastly, feel free to email me, Inshaallah if I can be of any more help...mbalala@hotmail.com May Allah ease your path towards Peace and Tranquility, May He reward your efforts all the way to Jannah (Amin). Maliha :-) [wlm] |
| Re: Problem with doing good after sins and family? |
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| yoursister |
| 04/17/02 at 04:27:02 |
| assalamu alaikum i am really pleased for you. inshallah Allah (swt) will make this easy for you. it may be hard for your family and they may feel threatened by your behaviour. this may lead them to comment on it but inshallah continue to do good because that is the only way. regarding your famillies feelings be aware that you are changing and they will need time to get use to that and with regards to their behaviour give them time to make their own decisions about their behaviour. for now focus on yourself and the suggestions like hooking up with other sisters i think will help. wa alaikum assalam |
| Re: Problem with doing good after sins and family? |
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| Chris |
| 04/17/02 at 19:18:49 |
| I'm not sure if I should offer advice here, as I have only the scantiest knowledge of your personal circumstances, but, for what its worth, heres my advice. Firstly, admit to yourself, what you've done and that it was wrong by your personal belief system. Secondly, if you have hurt anyone, make amends and confess to them. That won't be easy, you may lose friends, but you'll be a better person and they'll forgive you in time. Thirdly, don't try to re-convert your family. They won't turly accept it unless it comes from inside them. Forthly, and finally, find a quite place to sit [u]alone[/u]. It can be anywhere, but it has to be alone. When you are there, close your eyes and remenber everything you've done. Go though it all and acknowledge to yourself, again, that it was wrong. Don't miss out anything. God does not expect us all to be saints, but you must be honest with yourself, and the piece of God that is inside you, before you can find redemption. My only other piece of advice is not to dispair of yourself. Hope this helps Chris |
| Re: Problem with doing good after sins and family? |
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| Marcie |
| 04/18/02 at 21:12:52 |
| [color=Teal] [slm] Sis, [quote]Forthly, and finally, find a quite place to sit alone. It can be anywhere, but it has to be alone. When you are there, close your eyes and remenber everything you've done. Go though it all and acknowledge to yourself, again, that it was wrong. Don't miss out anything. [/quote] I am going to have to disagree with Chris on this one. You can't change your past. What happened is between you and Allah [swt]. When you pray try to make dua to Allah [swt] for forgiveness. You can even wake up in the middle of the night and pray for forgiveness. Now that you wish to live islamically do you best every day to live according to Islam. Don't despair insha'Allah your prayers will be answered. [wlm] Marcie :-)[/color] |
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