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| Man has 2 wives |
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| Anonymous |
| 04/13/02 at 00:04:00 |
| A female relative of mine, we'll call her Sarah, was married to a pious man, but they got a divorce. She said that he was abusive to her, he claimed that she was flirting. In the apartment complex that they lived in, there was another muslim couple living. After the divorce Sarah kept in touch with the male from the other couple, we'll call him Babba. Babba and Sarah got married, while Babba was still married to his 1st wife (Babba has a child with the 1st wife). Babbah told Sarah that he will divorce the 1st wife, and that he was forced to marry her to make his parents feel happy and thats why he married. Sarah recently came into a lot of money, so maybe Babba married her for that. Sarah didn't even have a wali when she got married, but the imaam married her anyways. What are your thoughts on this? What should be done? |
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| BroHanif |
| 04/13/02 at 01:29:08 |
| [slm], A wacky situation in a wacky world, perhaps the hadith of the pophet [saw] will come to mind(to the nearest meaning) where the worst adultery is with ones neighbours. And why the hell did she keep in touch with the male muslim ? And he with her ?. May Allah save us from zinah, the sin of the eyes and the thighs. And instead of asking all these questions perhaps you should ask the Sister Sarah and Brother Babbah. Instead of asking an open question like this where none of us are capable to do justice in answering , posts like these cause harm to the parties due to limited understanding. Salaams Hanif |
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| Kashif |
| 04/13/02 at 05:16:52 |
| assalaamu alaikum Go with Sarah to a scholar whose judgment you trust to find out if her second marriage is valid. What comes to my mind is the hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam "There is no nikaah without a wali." On the bright side, perhaps the imam who performed the nikaah acted as her wali. This would kind of make sense if Sarah is a revert because often times revert sisters don't have a Muslim male family member to fulfill that role. Aside from that, all i can think is that you should be there to give Sarah sincere advice through the resolution of this whole thing. Kashif Wa Salaam |
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| Re: Man has 2 wives |
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| Marcie |
| 04/13/02 at 10:31:11 |
| [color=Teal] [slm] Doesn't one of the Schools of Thought allow a woman to marry without a wali if she is divorced? [wlm] Marcie :-)[/color] |
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| bhaloo |
| 04/13/02 at 10:58:38 |
| [slm] [quote author=Marcie link=board=madrasa;num=1018670640;start=0#3 date=04/13/02 at 10:31:11][color=Teal] [slm] Doesn't one of the Schools of Thought allow a woman to marry without a wali if she is divorced? [wlm] Marcie :-)[/color][/quote] Yes, the Hanafi school. |
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| Anonymous |
| 04/14/02 at 09:57:30 |
| The other night there was a big dinner and about 25 relatives showed up to this function in my mom's home. I didn't say anything to Sarah, but a few relatives talked with her, and I could hear their conversations. Each time the issue of this marriage was brought up Sarah shut them down and said she was in love with the man and she didn't want to hear what anyone else had to say. I learned that this man Babba has not even told the 1st wife that he is married to Sarah. And appearantly he lives with the 1st wife, and occasionally visits Sarah for a few hours. Appearantly these arangements are acceptable to Sarah. Is this acceptable Islamically? That the 1st wife doesn't know? Sarah had mentioned before that this man has prepared illegal documents before (such as fake birth certificates) so it sounds to me like he is some sort of con-man and has married Sarah for her money. After Sarah left the dinner, the other relatives came to the conclusion that Sarah is in love and that she won't listen to anything we have to say. But no one felt comformatable inviting Sarah and Babba over to their homes at anytime either. So it seems like the relatives are going to distance themselves from Sarah. |
| 04/14/02 at 09:58:34 |
| Anonymous |
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