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| Life Spinning Out of Control ! |
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| Anonymous |
| 04/15/02 at 03:01:14 |
| = [slm] These past two months have been chaotic for me and every thing seems to be spinning out of control.I have no direction of my travel in this world and I seem to be losing every thing including ,deen,time,exams,productivity at work,personal relationships,emotions and things which I have no control off. I know procastination and loosing focus of my goals as a Muslim as well as a student and sometimes as a human being has plunged me into this tail spin.Its not that I am depressed or anything(and hey this is not the phase of denial :) ) but feel overwhelemd.I see the downslide but cant stop it Just like to know if people have felt the same way ever and also ask you to pray for me [wlm] |
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| M.F. |
| 04/15/02 at 05:48:30 |
| Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah It sounds like you're under a LOT of stress! Insha Allah though before you know it things will be better, give it some time. Maybe you need a short break from it all, just a vacation in a mosque somewhere? like Madina? :) Or just in your room... Sometimes I start thinking and realize that in reality nothing's really under my control. I can try to cope with whatever Allah puts in front of me, and I know He'll never give me any more than I can handle because it's a promise He made in the Qur'an, and all I can do is take things as they come as I have no control, and pray that Allah helps me out of it with intact Iman. May Allah help you come out of it with intact iman :) And you will come out of it insha Allah. |
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| Mentallect |
| 04/15/02 at 18:37:57 |
| I'd seriously consider investing some time into Yoga. 10 minutes a day minimum if your time is costly. |
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| eiman |
| 04/15/02 at 23:22:18 |
| [slm] I think that we all stagger into ruts like this throughout our lives... and although they may seem overwhelming and completely beyond our ability to control, whats important to keep in mind is just what the above poster mentionned... Allah swt has promised to never give us anything that we cannot handle.... Although I am in no position to start regurgitating ahadeeth and so on... I feel a certain obligation to give you a few pointers that have helped clear my head when my focus in life becomes distorted, and when every last thing seems to take a nose-dive, including my deen. First and foremost - take a breather - go out, jog... go running, go somewhere and I know it sounds cliche but 'get away from it all'..... Seriously, I have found that just by taking a jog through this little forest in our neighborhood seems to put everything into focus for me.... looking at the beauty and consistency of nature in its 3ibadah - makes you yearn to be just like it... and reminds you of your purpose in this dunya. this in turn - reminds you of the purpose behind every last thing that you are doing... be it school, work, worship..... and even if it initially wasn't the purpose, then right then and there is a perfect opportunity to renew your intention.... (well for me at least).... and that inshallah, seems to give me a renewed sense of motivation to deal with everything thats mounted itself on my plate. are you catching my drift? Basically - I think time alone.... contemplating... reflecting.. thinking... is so crucial because otherwise you become so immersed in the day to day rush of this dunya, that after a while, you lose sight of why youre here, why you're going to school everyday, why you are working... why you are taking the steps that youre taking everyday to reach that new level..... I think in the end, it all comes down to basically pausing.... taking a step back..... looking at the bigger picture or at least trying to.... and then finding some sort of peace and common ground with yourself. AT which point you will inshallah have a renewed sense of motivation to struggle with whatever it is you are dealing with.... :) May Allah ease the journey for you..... and for us all for that matter. Fi Aman Illah, serenity ;) |
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| Insanna |
| 04/16/02 at 12:11:23 |
| [slm] My life too seems to be spinning out of control and I feel a lot like anonymous. Sometimes, I think that I brought all the pressure and heartache and headaches unto myself. A lot of times, I try to be with God and I really do need His help, but sometimes, I think I'm in such a mess that I need to work overtime just for things to seem half way decent. I have read the previous posts and it is a comfort to be reminded that God in fact will not give us more than we can handle. Quiet time alone does seem like a good idea but it turns out not to be good for me right now because instead of thinking of God and trying to get things back in prespective, I agaonize about my problems that seem bigger as each day passes. In any case, enough whining for me. If anyone has any other suggestions to get out of my dismal state of mind or if you guys and gals could just pray for me, it would be much appreciated. [wlm] |
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| UmmWafi |
| 04/17/02 at 05:33:06 |
| [slm] I wonder how many amongst us have had an uneventful CONSTANTLY fantastic life so far without its up and downs ? If there is, ermm..can I buy your life ? ;D I used to use this phrase too " my life spinning out of control ". But i don't anymore because of several realisations, Alhamdulillah. One is, when we say that our lives are spinning out of control, it sorta imply that life is this active entity that operates and moves on its own will. But that is sooo not true. Life is just a convenient term for this journey we make to reach our final destination, ie, akhirah and Insya'Allah jannah. As in all journeys, WE decide when to move and when to stop, WE decide which way to go, WE rest when we want to and push ourselves when we need to. naturally, we sometimes lost our way. What is worse is when we lost our way and we realise that we are moving away from our destination instead of towards our destination. Well, put this way, ask yourself, if you realise that you are running AWAY from your destination (the practical interpretation of the term spinning out of control) do u then continue running in that direction ? No u don't. U decide to stop and u decide to rest while u gather your thoughts and you get your bearings right before u move again, hopefully in the correct direction this time. Also, in our journeys, we sometimes need to read signs, ask for directions and read the map. Similarly, when u feel overwhelmed and feel as if life is just rushing by and u have no clue where its taking u and where u are going, take a deep breather and stop. Stop doing all u have been doing, stop thinking all u have been thinking and stop the customary habits u have been adopting. Stop and rest. Just tell urself that u are not gonna do anything for abt 3 days. Then sit down and get your bearings right. Ask urself where u are at now and ask urself where u think u would like to go next. If u are not sure of the direction, read signs (aka religious books) ask for directions (aka speak to learned people like imam and elders and people who would listen to u because they care) and read the map (aka the Quran and Hadiths). Insya'Allah...and don't forget to breathe right lol 8) Sigh...I hate cliches and the age old saying that life is just so full of surprises is unfortunately true. Take a deep breath, pull on the brakes, istighfar, and change the course of your life. BTW I know I make it seem as if its easy..but erm..actually if u place your faith in the Most Gracious and the Most Benevolent, it can be easy ;) Wallahualam. |
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| Anonymous |
| 04/23/02 at 15:49:56 |
| i dont seem to have control over life either. i dont know where i'm headed , what decisions to make in life and moreover sometimes i just feel like i dont want to do anything with life. just lie there like an inanimate object. i made a previous posting and i feel the same way like you that i'm not really depressed( i've been there and i know what that feels like) , maybe just this phase in my life where i dont want to do anything. |
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| muqaddar |
| 04/24/02 at 07:25:08 |
| [slm] 'nonymous we've ALL bin there fella! 1) Sit down and think about all the wonderful things you can do without money and exams 2) Go outside and say hi to someone and make friends! A smile goes a long way 3) Start going to mosque gym more regularly (this will teach you to organise your study/ work more effectively) 4) Read a good self motivation book! I recommend 'Awaken the Giant Within ' by Anthony Robbins If all else fails make a regular email friend and start talking to them. 8) |
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| gift |
| 04/26/02 at 04:41:52 |
| [slm] i think everyone feels like this at one time or other. as far as the deen goes, how about going to the mosque more often, and going 'back to basics' to re-learn, or strenghten your deen? also although inshallah we will make du'a for you - you also need to make du'a for yourself - this is another way of finding some peace. try sitting alone in a quiet, or beautiful area and just thinking about all the blessings which Allah swt has given you, make some du'as maybe pray some nawafil prayers - it really does work :-* [wlm] |
| 04/26/02 at 04:43:37 |
| gift |
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| maariya |
| 04/28/02 at 16:47:06 |
| [slm] wow, All these stressed out muslims hey....c'mon guys, think of the blessings we as muslims have ;D. Noone said that life is a bed of roses, It is a struggle for the believers, and the reward is in the hereafter. :-* Wheneva I feel overwhelmed I always pup things into perspective. At the end of the day we are all humans and we will have 'highs and lows' but to think about it is a waste of time. This could be the teacher in me talking but, what I recommend to you, is to write things down, set realistic targets and make sure you meet those targets. It can help telling a close friend (who you trust) how you are feeling and perhaps they can help you meet your goals. Slowly but surely I am sure you will begin to feel less overwhelmed. 8) You have an amazing cure to the problems of life and that is the Quran...use it!!!...make dua, and remember nothing is as bad as it seems (oh no, another cliche!!!).... Have a bebzi on me [] All the best!!! [wlm] sis Maariya |
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