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| Need some General Marriage Advice |
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| Anonymous |
| 04/30/02 at 03:17:28 |
| assalamu alaikum I am considering marriage and am hoping some one can help answer my questions, but it wont be appropriate to ask or answer all questions on the board. There are a few questions i have, if some married sisters could reply i would be grateful. (if you can leave your email addresses i will get back in touch inshaalah) I would like some recommendation for books on marriage including the physical side to what we can do and cant. I'm sorry for asking this here, but i really need more information. thankyou your sister in islam |
| 04/30/02 at 13:23:50 |
| jannah |
| Re: Need some Marriage General Marriage Advice |
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| Road2Jannah |
| 04/30/02 at 10:39:24 |
| [slm] sister, I have this book at home that i would recommend to you; its called Tuhfat Al- Arous (The Bride's Boon), which is Written By Sheikh Mahmoud M.Al-Istambulli and Translated By Abdelhamid Eliwa, Al Azhar University. The book handles all necessary information about Marriage in Islam, which hopes that "the readers study the technique of marriage before getting into it." The author in this book tried to write "beneficial treatise and authenticated treatment clearly by explaining the way to a happy material life." Who also tried to point out "certain issues which is believed to be important to every one who marries and with which many wives in particular have been tested." it also has the physical side of informantion. Basically it is a set of ahadiths from the rasul [saw] about the rules to lead a happy marriage, it has a section for common Q&A about the physical side, of which you can or cant do. I hope it will help inshallah. May Allah bless ur marriage inshallah. ameen. :-) |
| Re: Need some Marriage General Marriage Advice |
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| Marcie |
| 04/30/02 at 11:30:20 |
| [color=Teal] [slm] Sister, If you are registered here please send me an im and I'll give you my email address so that we can talk about marriage insha'Allah. :-* [wlm] Marcie :-)[/color] |
| Re: Need some Marriage General Marriage Advice |
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| Kashif |
| 04/30/02 at 12:44:28 |
| assalaamu alaikum Is that Tuhfat al-Arous book any good? Has anyone else bought it? The Muslim Marriage guide is good. Also "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" is an interesting book to read too. There was also the three-set books by Muhammad al-Jibaali. Kashif Wa Salaam |
| NS |
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| explorer |
| 05/01/02 at 18:26:18 |
| [slm] :) Heres a good link with articles on everything about marriage... http://www.zawaj.com/articles.html Some articles can be found here but you'll have to scroll down and look for them... http://www.islamfortoday.com/women.htm Hopefully that helps. |
| 05/01/02 at 18:32:31 |
| explorer |
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| M.F. |
| 05/02/02 at 06:00:00 |
| Assalamu alaikum I've read Tuhfat Al Arous as well. I didn't agree with everything it said but it's pretty comprehensive and gives good advice, though nothing like Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, it's not about communication or anything like that, it's just sort of general advice. |
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| eleanor |
| 05/03/02 at 10:21:44 |
| [slm] I am married :) My email address is in my profile - looking forward to hearing from you, Insha Allah wasalaam eleanor :-* |
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| Caraj |
| 05/03/02 at 13:36:40 |
| I am also married and now even have two grown sons who are in their 20's and married. Feel free to messgae me also. A couple things to mention. Marriage IS NOT 50% / 50% Both need to give 100 % Don't sweat the small stuff Don't think if something bothers you now that marriage will change it, IT WILL NOT, Sort out small as well as large irritations now, before you marry. Remember, he is created by the same God/Allah who created you and is deserving of all love, respect and mercy just for that reason alone, and even more so when he is your husband. Anything you fear, worry about or wonder about from your past, TELL HIM TELL HIM and TELL HIM NOW, Don't allow ANYTHING to get in the way of a totally loving, commited and honest married......don't let it get in the way later. Tell him now. Always remember, he will be not only your husband, but your lover, best friend, confidant, and more, please be the same for him Cara>>>>>> steps off he soap box and has a >>> [] Passes everyone on the board a [] |
| 05/03/02 at 13:38:02 |
| Caraj |
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| Anonymous |
| 05/05/02 at 02:27:22 |
| Insha'Allah, I will also be getting married at the end of the summer. Someone recommended me: "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus," my fiancee refuses to read it, since it is written by a "Non Muslim." I think it is an excellent book, and is very well written. Any tips on convincing him to read? JK |
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| muqaddar |
| 05/08/02 at 12:29:40 |
| [slm] yes! buy multiple copies and leave them everywhere when you get married.. post them to him anonymously ... get his family to buy him copies as a present every festival/ birthday etc.. eventually he'll get the message ;D |
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| Kashif |
| 05/08/02 at 13:01:09 |
| assalaamu alaikum I'm sure you can think of some type of argument to convince him otherwise. First of all, i believe that there is a hadith to the effect that knowledge is the rightful possession of the believer wherever it is found. But also, would he reject the findings of non-Muslim scientists just because they don't believe in Allah? Would he reject the prescription of a non-Muslim Doctor because of difference of religion? If he wouldn't, then how can he reject the work of John Gray, PhD?? Kashif Wa Salaam |
| NS |
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