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| What qualities do brothers look for in a wife? |
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| Anonymous |
| 04/30/02 at 03:21:13 |
| Assalaamu Alaikum I was just wondering what are the qualities brothers look for in a potential wife? What are the most important qualities and perhaps you could rank them in order. If you are already married then what were your experiences like when you were searching for your spouse. Did you get married the traditional way or did you find your spouses yourselves???Was it a difficult period or weren't you bothered whether you married or not? wasalaam |
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| Kashif |
| 04/30/02 at 18:42:04 |
| assalaamu alaikum What a shame, no one has answered. Let me see if i can get the ball-rolling. In no particular order (except #1): - religiousness. - willingness to learn. - looks at least, alright - sharing some similar goals/interests. I don't mean in the sense that she should share the goal of establishing Islam, but worldly interests like country walks, politics, history, etc. - home skills (she can cook decent, etc). Over to you Abu Hamza.. Kashif Wa Salaam |
| NS |
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| Faruk |
| 05/01/02 at 09:52:24 |
| salaaz, i'm not abu hamza, but i'll still reply :) erm, religious and willing to learn is all i looked 4 ;-)...but mine was arranged, i told my family that i am not marrying 1 of my cousines and my wife had similar thoughts. We both married 4 religious reasons and not to keep the family bussiness going ;) tc |
| Re: What qualities do brothers look for in a wife? |
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| Kathy |
| 05/01/02 at 10:12:01 |
| [quote author=Faruk link=board=bro;num=1020151273;start=0#2 date=05/01/02 at 09:52:24]salaaz, not to keep the family bussiness going [/quote] [wlm] What do you mean? |
| 05/01/02 at 10:12:54 |
| Kathy |
| Re: What qualities do brothers look for in a wife? |
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| muqaddar |
| 05/01/02 at 11:20:28 |
| [slm] hmm apart from interest in the deen able to talk about somathing at an intellectual level without making it personal agree when she is wrong able to drop a subject and not flog it to death and looks incidentally i'm not getting married again so this is a bit hypothetical |
| 05/01/02 at 11:21:17 |
| muqaddar |
| Re: What qualities do brothers look for in a wife? |
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| BrKhalid |
| 05/01/02 at 11:52:51 |
| Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) Apologies for resurrecting this old thread but for those who haven't read it, it’s a Madina Classic. ;-) [url=http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/yabb/YaBB.pl/YaBB.pl?board=brothers&action=display&num=861&start=0]The Mahr Rewards Program[/url] |
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| muqaddar |
| 05/01/02 at 12:08:15 |
| [slm] thats a bad pun bro :o |
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| Abu_Hamza |
| 05/01/02 at 12:56:32 |
| [slm] Looking back at that thread BrKhalid posted ... Amazing how much a person can change in a year and a half! :) Wassalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah P.S. No, I'm not going to answer the question in this thread :P P.P.S. Yes, *some* things never change ;) |
| 05/01/02 at 12:57:01 |
| Abu_Hamza |
| Re: What qualities do brothers look for in a wife? |
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| explorer |
| 05/01/02 at 18:22:11 |
| Well this topic was discussed before, but not everyone answered (hint) ;D My views are still pretty much the same. [url=http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/yabb/YaBB.pl/YaBB.pl?board=brothers&action=display&num=6095&start=0]What do bros look for in a wife?[/url] |
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| WhatDFish |
| 05/01/02 at 23:38:41 |
| [slm] easy mate, and since i wasnt ard in the old board ill answer here . . . . one who has Eeman, Taqwa and is pleasing to my eyes . . ;) simple eh? khalas, and of course stuff like sense of humour etc would be a bonus. dang, sounds like im posting a matrimonial add :D haha oh ya plus someone who could stimulate my intellect woud be great for the Lord knows i dont wanna be bored, cheers 8) |
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| Faruk |
| 05/08/02 at 07:13:25 |
| [quote author=Kathy link=board=bro;num=1020151273;start=0#3 date=05/01/02 at 10:12:01]What do you mean?[/quote] ...i'm sorry i didn't reply earlier! What i meant was i wanted to complete half my deen so i married a muslim who was willing to learn with me!!! my parents wanted to extend their business and my cousine who i was arranged with is an only child therefore the wealth would have been given to her when she got married (so her father says). But i personally did not like the way she dressed and acted so... As i'm writting this my wife is standing behind me laughing :), so i think i'll leave the rest of the explaining out ;) |
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| Kathy |
| 05/08/02 at 09:10:26 |
| [slm] Masha Allah! May Allah swt grant you happiness and health together. Hmm.... 1/2 deen.... laughing wife.... my mind begins to go in three million directions. If a person does not get married- are they loosing out in their deen? Then I start thinking about widows/ divorced women (or women in loveless marriages)- with children who choose not to remarry... are they missing out on barakah? Then I start thinking about them. Most probably they aren't going to recieve any warmth/touch/hug from a man- for the rest of their lives. Kind of sad. So if you know one of these ladies and they are mahrem to you... give them a good ole' bear hug! |
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| muqaddar |
| 05/09/02 at 09:49:08 |
| [quote author=Kathy link=board=bro;num=1020151273;start=0#11 date=05/08/02 at 09:10:26] [slm] If a person does not get married- are they loosing out in their deen? Then I start thinking about widows/ divorced women (or women in loveless marriages)- with children who choose not to remarry... are they missing out on barakah? Then I start thinking about them. Most probably they aren't going to recieve any warmth/touch/hug from a man- for the rest of their lives. Kind of sad. [/quote] when you decide not to marry all the ummah is your family! and i have a lot more islamic stuff i can do than if i was married. a bad marriage is a million times worse than no marriage because you lose a heck of a lot of faith in human nature |
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| jaihoon |
| 05/21/02 at 02:02:11 |
| That which gives my eyes fire-dew 'qurrat' And for the community gives ever-new Imamat Such is my haajat - To end my khalwat And bring nigh suhbat :) - Jaihoon |
| 05/21/02 at 02:06:33 |
| jaihoon |
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| Abu_Hamza |
| 05/21/02 at 14:19:43 |
| [slm] Jaihoon, bro, get married :) |
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| jaihoon |
| 05/21/02 at 15:02:09 |
| waqt-e-fursat hai kahan kaam abhi bhi baaqi hai - Iqbal ;) Insha Allah... our duty is to ask, the answer is from HIM. We bring the clouds, He gives the rain! |
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| The_Naeem |
| 05/23/02 at 17:22:46 |
| [slm] I think there are things that just start from jump that people know that you want. Attraction, Islamically oriented(minimally she's not a sheikaha, but she keeps within the bounds), someone your family, especially moms, can vibe with. Now beyond that you have to click with them some how. Just cause deen is awesome, I dunno your personailties have to complement each other in some way. You need that spark I think. Or that can be to many years of TV and Movie watching talking. Oh and kathy my hearts goes out to all those sisters, and plus the THOUSAND of good sisters who can't find good brothers. Brothers, you gotta start working on your A game. Oh and that brother who said about no marriage is better than having a bad one. So I guess your not of the school of "It's better to have loved and lost, than not to have loved at all"? |
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