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| How to avoid being alone with opp. sex at work? |
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| Anonymous |
| 05/02/02 at 03:46:16 |
| Assalamu alykum, Do any of you have experience with what to do when you are left alone in the office with someone of the opposite sex in private? Does this happen alot? Are we mostly casual about that as Muslims that we hardly ever discuss it? I am a teacher, and sometimes in the teachers room, I would be working on the pc and then a male teacher/principal would walk in to get something, but even when it looks like they just might be quickly out of the room, I feel it is a sin. Other times, I have a deadline for something, and even though they are in there for awhile, I have to at least finish up what I started before I can step out. That feels like a sin to put anything before my deen and guarding my chastity. Do you guys address these issues with your work somehow, without compromising being a professional or decreasing the chances of a longer contract? Just how do you deal? JAK |
| 05/02/02 at 04:19:08 |
| jannah |
| Re: How to avoid being alone with opp. sex at work |
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| Kathy |
| 05/02/02 at 08:35:04 |
| [slm] I struggled with this when I was working too. It is like we just have a sixth sence and immediately get uncomfortable when a man enters a room in which we are the only ones. This is one solution. I had an office and would just leave the door open when ever a man came in. If they went to close it I would just say I needed the air and would be more comfortable with the door open. I am not sure what they were thinking- but considering I looked different and the concerns of Human Resources and sexual misconduct/harassment- they never said a thing! |
| 05/02/02 at 08:35:43 |
| Kathy |
| Re: How to avoid being alone with opp. sex at work |
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| Hijabi4eva |
| 05/02/02 at 08:49:29 |
| salams, sis i hav a similar prob in skool! i firstly dropped IT, coz i was the only gal in the class, n i felt really awkward! i got probs in ma business class, no matter HOW many times i expalin to the boys, DONT SIT next to me, they do it more! ...well 1 of the guys in my class does! neways, i got really mad yesturday, i got up n said... wat bit dont u understand, n wats ur prob??? every since he's kept his distance:) that made me really happy! nbeways, i think its best to stay away fr the opp sex, n the thing that bothers me is... i always get the opp sex cumin up to me, n if they try to get a discussion out of me, den i talk abt religion, heheheee wa-salam |
| Re: How to avoid being alone with opp. sex at work |
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| jannah |
| 05/02/02 at 13:32:55 |
| It's interesting that in alot of the sexual harassment seminars, which are mandated in many states, they talk about keeping the door open if you are alone with someone of the opposite sex and to try and avoid that situation!!! subhanallah... where i worked, we had cubes and interestingly enough people were as respectful to our cubes as if they were entering houses, so they always stood at the door and asked permission first. and even if they wanted to discuss something they didn't stay long... i think the best way for you to go is to just slip out if a man comes in and then finish up later or better yet maybe go to the teachers lounge with a friend together... and maybe she can grade some tests while you're working at the computer... strategize and brainstorm inshallah you can up with something ;) |
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