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Meeting the Parents
Anonymous
05/15/02 at 00:34:19
[slm] Help! I'm meeting THE girl's family for the first time this weekend and I have NO IDEA what I'm doing. :o Wat should I wear? a kurta pajama? a suit? go business casual? should I wear a kufee? They are a desi family. What should I bring? I hear chocolate is "not traditional enough". Should I bring sweets?  Flowers?  A plotted plant? Jazaakullah, a nervous brother [wlm]
05/15/02 at 00:34:45
Anonymous

Re: Meeting the Parents
Kashif
05/15/02 at 04:52:36
assalaamu alaikum Wear a suit is my advice. You gotta impress her dad before you impress her! Kashif Wa Salaam
NS

Re: Meeting the Parents
M.F.
05/15/02 at 06:11:18
assalamu alaikum Maybe THE girl can give you an idea of what to wear if you feel comfortable asking her.   Flowers are always nice, and maybe they can be accompanied by sweets, but what kind of sweets did you have in mind?  Candy?  I can't think of any other candy besides chocolate that can work as a gift, except for things like marzipan or turkish delight which aren't very easy to find, especially quality. May Allah make it easy for you!!

Re: Meeting the Parents
Kathy
05/15/02 at 09:25:44
[slm] Pleeeeaasssse just be yourself! Let them see you as you really are! It will be best for everyone. [i]( kathy also wants to say- bring all paper work.....but those who don't know her well enough will jump down her throat for saying such a thing)[/i]
05/15/02 at 09:28:06
Kathy

Re: Meeting the Parents
nouha
05/15/02 at 13:22:36
[slm] i agree with kathy, be your self! becuase if u try to be someone ur not at this meeting, and change to yourself at another, -- it could be  a real shocker. wasalam nouha:)

from one desi to another
bhaloo
05/15/02 at 14:32:12
[slm] I think you should take some sweets (mithai), that would be a nice gesture.  And wear a suit.   If you can find out what things you and the father have in common that would be great and you could make mention of it during your conversation.  For example if you found out the father is a Laker fan (and you are one yourself) you could talk about that.

Re: Meeting the Parents
mujaahid
05/15/02 at 15:45:34
[slm] Be yourself brother. If you try and put on an act, they will see striaght through and see you as a fraud! be yourself, be polite, softly spoken, and dont be overconfident or braggish. The Humble approach is the best! Also, bring Indian sweets, a nice box of expensive sweets, and if the family have great taste like me, then bring Luddoos  ;) Just make sure you dont buy them from a Hin`u shop as i've heard rumours that a few of them got heavily fined for putting urine in their sweets (based on religious traditions). Anyway good luck bro, be yourself, and chill. Use your nervs to your advantage, dont let them overcome you! Wasalaam A now nervous Mujaahid!

Re: Meeting the Parents
Hijabi2Nv
05/15/02 at 17:00:42
[slm] Insha'Allah i hope this email reaches you in the best of health and iman...ok this is kind of from a personal experience...the guy who is now my fiance came over to my house a few months back...his family brought a big box of sweets for us...you get them especially made for these occasions...well he didnt talk much...he knew that my father was religious and that's mostly what they talked about...deen...just act yourself and insha'Allah everything will go well if Allah(Swt) has willed it...just dress casual and give them some of your best smiles and insha'Allah all will go well  :)...take care [wlm]

Re: Meeting the Parents
muqaddar
05/16/02 at 10:51:08
[slm] Wear a lungi and take a potato plant and a strong slipper with you .... when he asks what the heck your playing at you say ..the lungi's all i can afford and your daughters eaten all the vegtables in my garden...then hand him the slipper...   ;D  ;D  ;D  on a serious note wear a casual suit, one that dosn't make you sweat, take a box of mithai with you ideally barfi NOT something too sticky and a few £20.00 notes to hand to the kids in the house

Re: Meeting the Parents
Nazia
05/16/02 at 15:02:39
slm, A suit?!  :o It's not an interview! (or is it.....)  I say go business casual.  Maybe a nice button down shirt with some dress pants.  If you're going with your parents--dress at the same level as your dad.  That doesn't mean boring--just nice and simple/normal--not excessive.   I also think mithai is a good idea.  Though it could be considered a bit presumptious.  When my in-laws came to our hosue with the proposal, they didn't bring any mithai because they were like---"what if they say no!  it'll be so embarassing if we give them mithai"  (Mithai in indo/pak culture is implicative of festive ocasions---wedding/engagements/eid/new babies etc, especially when given as a gift to a new family)   So they sent us many boxes of mithai after my parents said yes.  They brought a gift for my parents, you know, something for the house, which is something people often do when they visit someone's house for the first time anyways. Anyways, good luck! :) Take Care, Wassalam, Nazia

Re: Meeting the Parents
Kashif
05/16/02 at 20:10:16
assalaamu alaikum Forget being yourself man. You must look v. smart on that first visit, because the image they get of you on that visit is the image that will stay in their heads: first impressions count, as the saying goes. You can dress more casual on subsequent visits insha'allah, or when they visit you. Regards attitude - be on your best behaviour. But don't go over the top such that the way you portray yourself is nothing like how you are in real life. In short, mind your p's and q's. Kashif Wa Salaam
NS

Re: Meeting the Parents
Kathy
05/16/02 at 21:36:18
[quote author=Kashif link=board=bro;num=1021437259;start=0#10 date=05/16/02 at 20:10:16]Forget being yourself man. [/quote] :oWHAAT? :o oh yeah.... [slm] Buyer beware..... this is why NY has lemon laws....

Re: Meeting the Parents
bhaloo
05/16/02 at 22:45:23
[slm] Imagine you are on a job interview (except you bring mithai to this interview).   :D

Re: Meeting the Parents
Asim
05/16/02 at 23:28:09
Assalaamu alaikum, [quote]A suit?! [/quote] Thank goodness!! I was beginning to think that I was the only one who thought that was odd, and me being out-of-touch-with-the-world, old-fashioned, etc. Hmm, but Kashif and Arshad seem to endorse it...experience must count for something I guess...:) I am the type of guy who would do anything to get out of a suit! I like Nazia's suggestion, regular clothing style, just nicer and better. I also prefer Nazia's suggestion of not taking mithai if the families are indo/pak, and it is a first 'fact finding' visit (of course if you know the sister well, and this meeting is just a formal official initiation, then okay). Take some baked stuff rather, like cake or cookies, or something else. [quote]first impressions count, as the saying goes. [/quote] Yes, but my suit hasn't gotten me a job yet :( Wasalaam.
05/16/02 at 23:32:32
Asim

Re: Meeting the Parents
Kashif
05/17/02 at 05:06:54
assalaamu alaikum Yep, i'm pro-suit when it comes to the first meeting. I also think that the mithai is a bit OTT - and also flowers for the first meeting. How about a microwave? *laugh* sorry thats a private joke. Mind you... on second thoughts, the mithai might be ok, but don't make it a box of ludoos. Because thats what you're supposed to give when its official official. Perhaps a box of luxury chocolates? Also Asim, i've been told by two colleagues of mine that its the shoes that interviewers look at first. So make sure they're shiny! Kashif Wa Salaam
NS

Re: Meeting the Parents
BrKhalid
05/17/02 at 05:30:04
Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) Ahhh...meeting the parents ;-) My main advice would be not to get to wound up with Choccies v Mithai or Suit v Casual but to think *very* carefully over what you're going to say to the parents. Think about how you are going to greet them, what you're going to discuss with them, how are you going to answer their questions. Impressing the parents will go a long way in helping you. InshaAllah all will go well ;-)

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M.F.
05/17/02 at 09:18:56
Assalamu alaikum, You all, I think we've all managed to make the brother a lot more nervous than he initially was!  Be yourself/don't be yourself.  All the brother was asking is what he should wear and what he should take!!  ;D

Re: Meeting the Parents
Anonymous
05/18/02 at 02:26:01
assalamu alaikum i'm gonna add a twist to this... how about the sister?...what does she do when the bro comes over for the first time? or when she and her family go to visit him for the first time? (is the sister and her family supposed to bring something? ..ie. in return for the bro bringing something when he came over for the first time) from what i've heard..this is seriosuly stressful for the sister as well ..depending on the brother of course :D jazakum Allah kheir for any words of wisdom

Re: Meeting the Parents
bhaloo
05/18/02 at 03:42:44
[slm] I don't see why it would be that stressful for the sister, but I think the sister should act shyly and not come off sounding like a loud mouth.  I think the sister has to try and impress the mother-in-law.  Also the sister should  serve any food there, this would show the mother-in-law that the sister can cook and take care of her son.   By acting shy and not being loud, this shows the mother-in-law that the girl is not "fast" but a quiet, homely girl and would be good for her son. WARNING: I imagine things slightly differ from culture to culture, the above situation applies to people living in the desi community and is based on indian movies.

Re: Meeting the Parents
explorer
05/18/02 at 06:08:45
[slm] A suit is way OTT. It isn't a corporate business meeting or something! *sigh* Crikey, sometimes the advice you lot give out:P People aren't stupid, they know people dress like that just to impress. Down to earth and honest is the best way forward. Go casual-smart: Trousers, shirt (preferbly ironed) and maybe a tie, depending on how you feel. Just don't go in wearing an England football shirt. As for discussions, all probability is your parents will initiate and your task will be to contribute positively and slowly build upon that. Whether its a first meeting for the families or not, its always nice and respectful to take some sweet/chocs. Expensive mithai should come later but not at first contact. Good luck and let us know how it went and whos advice actually worked ;)
05/18/02 at 06:10:03
explorer

Re: Meeting the Parents
Kashif
05/18/02 at 15:05:14
[quote]how about the sister?...what does she do when the bro comes over for the first time? [/quote] pfft.. that is so obvious! She serves the tea of course! haha
NS

Re: Meeting the Parents
Hijabi2Nv
05/19/02 at 19:49:49
[slm] Insha'Allah i wish you the best of luck and Insha'Allah please do let us know how it went...and umm br.kashif that's not all the girl does...the main thing that the girl has to do is just sit there smile and look pretty  ;D [wlm]

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AyeshaZ
05/19/02 at 22:56:18
[slm] Noooo mitahiiiiii  :)   on the first meeting. Business casual all the way.. flowers are always nice but no roses.. umm whatelse don't talk tooo much, do compliment on the food, dessert, tea etc  ohh yeah stand up slightly when the sis comes in the room , unless shez already there.. hmm will think of some more things. InshaAllah khair..

Re: Meeting the Parents
Barr
05/20/02 at 07:10:31
Assalamu'alaikum :-) [quote]I don't see why it would be that stressful for the sister, [/quote] :o That must be the Understatement of the year!  :o Akhi... if I need to remind you :) This is the first time she's meeting the brother! that is, if this is an introduction-mixed-taa'ruf for proposal kinda thingy. The crossroads meeting that will decide whether you wanna consider this man for your garment and soulmate. How stressful can that be! But of course, due to the ultra cool way that we act... it's no wonder you guys can be fooled of how stressful we are! ;) I'll let you off this time :-) Wassalam

Re: Meeting the Parents
nouha
05/20/02 at 16:52:30
[slm] uhm ok bhaloo, i cant tell if u were just joking on what u said or your for real.... but if ur for real.... then that is so sexist... maybe she can serve something becasue the brother has also brought something for the family but she doesnt need to know how to cook, she needs to be getting to know the guy better..... :D good post baraa wasalam nouha:)

Re: Meeting the Parents
Anonymous
05/20/02 at 18:09:27
I think wearing a suit on the 1st meeting is way OTT! How about a white Thowb?  (makes a VERY good impression - and 1st impressions do last!) I have nothing against brothers wearing suits, but to wear it in the first meeting does not seem appropriate. I would be trying not to laugh if a brother turned up in a suit!! Maybe if the girl's parents are really unpractising or something, the brother might have to resort to a suit. Also, for the 1st meeting, take a box of chocolates like Ferrero Rocher or Milk Tray. 2nd meeting, some flowers perhaps. I dont think mitai is appropriate until its all official. When my brother had to go to the girl's house the 1st time, he wore a thowb and took some chocolates. When things were offical, we took LOTS of ladoos and flowers and gifts for the bride and her family. A sister was telling me once that a brother came to see her for the 1st time and he bought a Quran for her and some Itr for her father. I think this is quite a nice gesture too.

Re: Meeting the Parents
Anonymous
05/21/02 at 03:55:42
wow!!! A Quran, mashaAllah!!!  Brothers take notes :)  Any Islamic gift is def. a thumbs up.

Re: Meeting the Parents
muqaddar
05/21/02 at 07:19:58
[slm]  How about 'Islamic Scholar' on CD-Rom if she's a real geek...   ;D  Hmm Pure White cotton ironed shirt with stone washed jeans and polished shoes (that tells her you can iron your clothes and polish your shoes..so the poor wee bonny lass won't have too..)  remove your jacket (cause it might be hot)  ( Create a checklist and tick it off as you interrogate her    ;D kidding) Smile often, laugh little Make statements that leave something open so there are no long pauses Relax and be yourself as you would in the company of distant friends (don't get too familiar)
05/21/02 at 07:28:23
muqaddar

Re: Meeting the Parents
jannah
05/21/02 at 09:36:10
hmmm don't wear a thobe unless you're Arab and it's part of your special national dress --otherwise it looks like you're trying to be an arab wannabe.  i would second the nomination for business casual -- nice slacks, white shirt with a nice jacket.  a suit only if the father is a businessman type. DO NOT WEAR JEANS please, esp stone-washed?! as for gifts flowers and chocolate etc.. i feel is good to give TO THE MOTHER, but something less personal like a Quran would be nice for the daughter.

Re: Meeting the Parents
bhaloo
05/21/02 at 13:02:54
[slm] [quote author=Barr link=board=bro;num=1021437259;start=15#23 date=05/20/02 at 07:10:31]Assalamu'alaikum :-) :o That must be the Understatement of the year!  :o [/quote] All the stress is on the brother.  Here he has taken the INITIATIVE, he's said he is interested in the sister and has come there for a proposal.  The sister and her family have the option of saying yes (mission accomplished), or no (the brother got dissed).  And the sister maybe considering other possibilities and therefore delay giving a response.  Now if it was the sister and her family proposing then I could see it being stressful for the sister and not for the brother.  ;) [quote] uhm ok bhaloo, i cant tell if u were just joking on what u said or your for real.... [/quote] A little bit of both.  I was referring to the culture from the sub-continent and how that comes into play in many instances.

Re: Meeting the Parents
Barr
05/22/02 at 02:37:55
Assalamu'alaikum :-) Brothers, brothers, brothers... It'll always help if you listen to your older sisters :) First and foremost, any suit and thobe is just a bit OTT. Like what every sister has said here... wear something that's smart/ business casual. A nice crisp and freshly pressed shirt (nothing floral and sissified, please!) with a pair of pants like a pair of nice cotton Dockers or Chinos, would be cool. (no cargo pants, please!) But whatever that you wear, remember to always wear a smile. The one that comes with a pair of smiling eyes. :) But don't go all grinning all the time like a Cheshire cat! And some other added tips, saying the zikr while going to her house, may help calm those nerves, say bismillah before you leave your house and the salam, before you go in her place. And like what the sisters have said here, be yourself. Being natural is very attractive, coz one thing that can cause a big foul up are dishonest words and actions from you. Sincere compliments would help. Like, " Mmm This tea is lovely, mashaAllah" But if the tea tastes like smt from the sewerage, you can say... "Hmmm, what interesting taste, mashaALlah! I don't think anyone can do tea like this!" ;) Joke, joke! Only give compliments.. modest compliments and nothing OTT, please... if you really mean it. Insincere compliments can cut you all fake and phony. Talk to her parents, show them a bit of your wittiness and humour. Certainly, you don't want to sound like a Boring Bozo. But if you are saying all the wrong things and your jokes are just plain awful, then, it's better to remain silent and be thought of a Boring Bozo than confirming that you are a Boring Bozo... which I think, the brothers here aren't, of course ;) Just nice basic manners would go a long way... like if someone sneezes, remember to say "YarhamkAllah". I think that will score some points, inshaAllah. Bring something nice, like what has been suggested here. Though I'd think a Qur'an is a bit.. hmmm, heavy (not in numerical weight, but the message) coz... well.. this is just a proposal, and, I don't know.. too much baggage when you give a Qur'an? I mean, people give Qur'an as mahrs as well, and that comes with a lot fo responsibility, and .. hmm, the Qur'an is special, and giving the Qur'an for every occasion, would make it.. hmmm, overated.. though of course, nothing can make the Qur'an overated/ overused.. but.. hmmm.. well, I hope you know what I mean. This is just my thoughts. Others may differ. And last but not least even if you've done everything right, and captured her parents hearts, at the end of the day, a "yes" to the proposal, is something that Allah would decide. You may be a good brother and pass all tests and score all the points, but if the sister is not meant for you, then, that is when we have tawakkal in Allah. We plan, and Allah plans.. and ALlah is the best of planners. ALlahua'lam :-)

Re: Meeting the Parents
BrKhalid
05/22/02 at 06:26:14
Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) [quote]A nice crisp and freshly pressed shirt (nothing floral and sissified, please!) [/quote] I can hear the all the Brothers groan as they chuck out all their Hawaiian shirts from their wardrobes!! ;-) Anyways Anonymous how did it go? No need to go in to details but can you at least tell us what you wore?

Re: Meeting the Parents
Kathy
05/22/02 at 09:02:00
[slm] [quote]I mean, people give Qur'an as mahrs as well, and that comes with a lot fo responsibility, and .. hmm, the Qur'an is special, and giving the Qur'an for every occasion, would make it.. hmmm, overated.. though of course, nothing can make the Qur'an overated/ overused.. but.. hmmm.. well, I hope you know what I mean. This is just my thoughts. Others may differ. [/quote] When I got married a scholor gave me a Qu'ran. I am and was really greatful.

Re: Meeting the Parents
Barr
05/22/02 at 20:39:20
Wa'alaikumussalam warahmatullah :-) I don't know, Kathy.. I mean, I do think it is appropriate to give the Qur'an as gifts... like a wedding gift, a mahr, a birthday gift, a just-came-back-from-Mecca gift, or just a gift that you give coz, you know someone would appreciate a Qur'an from you. But I don't know abt a proposal gift. And I don't know how to explain it.  ??? Wassalam :)

Re: Meeting the Parents
Kathy
05/23/02 at 08:35:44
[slm] I sure hope we all don't start giving "proposal" gifts.  Like the domino effect/ or snowball effect- it will just get out of hand. Before you know it- parents will be looking to see what kind of gift he will be bringing. It would also unintentionally set the mood for expectations. I can hear the women now.... "My daughter got some sweets... Oh my daughter got flowers... well, my daughter got a piece of jewlerey.....I think he is a good match because he came with gifts for the whole family!"     before you know it the anty will be in gold!

Re: Meeting the Parents
The_Naeem
05/23/02 at 11:56:07
Ok I like Nazia and Kathy's suggestions sorta.  I didn't wear a suit when I went to meet the rents, but I think I wore like a casual blazer or something like that.  I dunno I got issues with the way people dress period.  Like at weddings, if your attending a wedding why do you look like you belong on wall street closing a deal?  White shirt, black suit.  I think that riddiciulous.  Dress nice, a suit if you must , but throw some color in there, take off the tie, look like you've come to enjoy yourself, to have a good time, and to CELEBRATE, YOUR AT A PARTY! But on the being yourself thing.  I would do that in doses.  Some people are good people but they have some weird character quirks that if you don't TRULY know them, you'd be turn off by them.  If you know that about yourself, win them over with your charm first, then as time goes on you can show them the wierd lil monkey you truly are.   ;D
05/23/02 at 12:02:46
The_Naeem

Re: Meeting the Parents
Mohja
05/23/02 at 17:55:08
[quote] I think wearing a suit on the 1st meeting is way OTT! [/quote] what does OTT stand for?

Re: Meeting the Parents
Barr
05/23/02 at 20:57:03
Wa'alaikumussalam warahamtullah :-) OTT = Over The Top Ermm... is that just a Brit thing? Wassalam

Re: Meeting the Parents
Shahida
05/24/02 at 06:17:46
[quote author=Kathy link=board=bro;num=1021437259;start=30#34 date=05/23/02 at 08:35:44] [slm] I sure hope we all don't start giving "proposal" gifts.  Like the domino effect/ or snowball effect- it will just get out of hand. Before you know it- parents will be looking to see what kind of gift he will be bringing. It would also unintentionally set the mood for expectations. I can hear the women now.... "My daughter got some sweets... Oh my daughter got flowers... well, my daughter got a piece of jewlerey.....I think he is a good match because he came with gifts for the whole family!"     before you know it the anty will be in gold![/quote] [slm] Kathy, where I come from, this is *already* unfortunately established....

Re: Meeting the Parents
Anonymous
05/25/02 at 11:00:25
[slm] Thanks for all the replies guys.  I went with the suit.  I took the jacket off when I got there, so I don't think it was OTT.  I brought mithae also, and they were well received. Thanks again for all the suggestions!!! [wlm]

Re: Meeting the Parents
muqaddar
05/25/02 at 11:02:02
[slm]  only sodomites wear  chino's in the uk   ;D ;D  ;D

Re: Meeting the Parents
bhaloo
05/25/02 at 12:28:01
[slm] [quote author=Anonymous link=board=bro;num=1021437259;start=30#39 date=05/25/02 at 11:00:25] Thanks for all the replies guys.  I went with the suit.  I took the jacket off when I got there, so I don't think it was OTT.  I brought mithae also, and they were well received. [/quote] Woohoo!!!    You followed my advice and it was well RECEIVED.   Are you guys taking notes Asim, Kathy, Barr, The_Naemm, Explorer, Nazia and Ayeshaz, just in case y'all need to advise someone in the future?  ;)
05/25/02 at 14:13:58
bhaloo

Re: Meeting the Parents
Abu_Hamza
05/25/02 at 12:46:47
[slm] Anonymous, keep us up to date about your marriage bro :)

Re: Meeting the Parents
mwishka
05/25/02 at 16:31:59
ok, now that all the stress is over, i'll throw in my dumb question:  am i misunderstanding here, as in taking the wording too literally, or is this really a very strange (to me) situation in which someone would actually propose to a woman about whose family he knew nothing, even to the extent of never having met them?  or is this just code talk, as in "meeting" meaning "a" meeting, to formally offer the proposal? would anyone really marry into a family they hadn't gotten to know before making the offer of marriage? just find it a little weird...... mwishka

Re: Meeting the Parents
jannah
05/26/02 at 04:47:45
Ever watch that movie "Meet the Parents"?  :)  same deal goes.... you may be interested in someone, you may be engaged, or you may be on your way to engagement so it's now necessary to meet the parents.  you can't just meet the parents for no reason.. it's obviously for the reason of marriage, whether it is a formal proposal or a request of interest.  In Islam if you are proposing to someone it should be through the parents or a guardian, that's why it's so important to impress the 'rents ;)
05/26/02 at 04:51:05
jannah

Re: Meeting the Parents
mwishka
05/26/02 at 08:26:51
thanks, jannah.   i did see the last 2/3rds of that movie on TV...so i know what it was about - but i thought that was just some weird upper-class ritual.     hmmm......i think both of these are just levels of formality with which i'm unfamiliar.   my own experience would be more along the lines of a lot of interaction and familiarity between families before two people would ever get to a point of considering  marriage.  i confess that i thought the only time something that formal would take place in islam would be for an arranged marriage.  so you're telling me this is not cultural, but islamic?  hmmmm.....yet  another re-orientation.   the things i'm learning.............. mwishka

Re: Meeting the Parents
Kathy
05/26/02 at 09:11:58
[quote author=bhaloo link=board=bro;num=1021437259;start=30#41 date=05/25/02 at 12:28:01] Woohoo!!!    You followed my advice and it was well RECEIVED.   Are you guys taking notes Asim, Kathy, Barr, The_Naemm, Explorer, Nazia and Ayeshaz, just in case y'all need to advise someone in the future?  ;)[/quote] Hey- leave me out of this! I see nothing wrong with a S&S (suit and sweet) I think it shows respect to wear a suit. When I said -be yourself- I meant personality.

Re: Meeting the Parents
The_Naeem
05/28/02 at 10:45:25
Well first let me say mission accomplised.  Well atleast the first step, getting in the door  ;) .  Umm but my man bahloo, all I can say is, if dude is not a suit man, and he show up to a family function later on without one, and the inlaws peep that, it's all you baby.  I'm just saying don't put on a front.  Don't go in there GQ smoove if your a member of the Audio Visual Club on campus, you will be exposed.  But definantly dress nice, cause if some guy come to my house in FUBU Jeans, a beater, and some Timbs, He's gonna get thrown out on his neck.

Re: Meeting the Parents
BrKhalid
05/28/02 at 11:31:45
Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) [quote]Don't go in there GQ smoove if your a member of the Audio Visual Club on campus, you will be exposed.  But definantly dress nice, cause if some guy come to my house in FUBU Jeans, a beater, and some Timbs, He's gonna get thrown out on his neck.[/quote] Oh man I'm getting old!! Naeem can you please translate the above. ;-)

Re: Meeting the Parents
jannah
05/28/02 at 14:45:29
Br Khalid my dear old english chap... let me translate the above into the Queens English for you: Right, please refrain from embellishing yourself in an undue fashion that is contrary to your socio-economic status. But  it is permissable to don the apparel of posh clothiers. However if one visits Naeems home dressed in such inappropriate bourgeouisness in seeking the hand of his ward, he shall perchance be inclined to forcibly remove such an individual from said premises.   [quote]Don't go in there GQ smoove if your a member of the Audio Visual Club on campus, you will be exposed.  But definantly dress nice, cause if some guy come to my house in FUBU Jeans, a beater, and some Timbs, He's gonna get thrown out on his neck.[/quote]

Re: Meeting the Parents
The_Naeem
05/28/02 at 16:27:36
salaams,     Lady J, that was just great. I am in tears over that response.  And you got what I said right on the nose.  Sorry for my hip hop slang everyone.  I forget most people aren't as hip to the lingo as Jannah is. 8)  Be cool. salaams and keep the faith
05/28/02 at 16:28:33
The_Naeem

Re: Meeting the Parents
BrKhalid
05/29/02 at 10:17:33
Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) Okay thanks for the info guys ;-) But just remember this one health warning. A Brother's faith is in no way correlated to how much of a fashion disaster he is!! Beauty is more than Hugo Boss deep ;)
05/29/02 at 10:18:02
BrKhalid

Re: Meeting the Parents
Barr
06/04/02 at 12:04:42
Assalamu'alaikum :-) [quote]Woohoo!!!    You followed my advice and it was well RECEIVED.   Are you guys taking notes Asim, Kathy, Barr, The_Naemm, Explorer, Nazia and Ayeshaz, just in case y'all need to advise someone in the future?   [/quote] My dear brother Bear, errr... he may come with a suit... but the glaring clue is.... [size=3]He took the jacket...[/size] [size=5]OFF![/size] No jacket = no suit= OTT Not! = well received  8) Hah! ;D Maybe, U should do the same, suitman ;) :P Wassalam :-) P.S. Congrats, Anon... do keep us updated on the coming marriage, inshaAllah :)
06/04/02 at 12:06:53
Barr
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