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I know they shouldnt, but its not my fault!
mujaahid
05/15/02 at 15:25:34
[slm] I have a serious problem. I've heard that in places like Saudi and Morocco, women who are extremely beautiful wear the Nikab (veil) to hide thier beauty so not to draw attention and looks to themselves from men? Well, i have a similar problem. I'm rather handsome and good looking, well, actually i'm drop dead gorgeous  :o, but anyway, i get so many sisters looking at me whenever i'm walking to places that its starting to make me feel guilty being so handsome  ;) I feel like i'm doing something wrong by them looking at me :( So what am i supposed to do? Should i wear a hijab? I was thinking of carry a large banner says "Dont look at me, My place in heaven is at stake" :-X What are brothers supposed to do if they are blessed with stunningly good looks and beautiful eyes?  ;-) how do i avoid the attention? HELP!!!!!!!

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Maliha
05/15/02 at 15:27:52
[slm] hmmm...how do you notice women are staring if you are lowering your gaze to begin with? Maliha  :-) [wlm]

Re: I know they shouldnt, but its not my fault!
mujaahid
05/15/02 at 15:34:19
[slm] "hmmm...how do you notice women are staring if you are lowering your gaze to begin with?" Well i got this "sister looking device" which beeps if a muslim woman is looking at me!  :D Seriously though, you just know. You dont have to look at someone to know if they are looking at you, you just notice it out the corner of your eye. Are you looking at me?  ;)

Re: I know they shouldnt, but its not my fault!
humble_muslim
05/15/02 at 15:50:31
[slm] Well I'd start with a touch of humility.  It goes a long way.
NS

Re: I know they shouldnt, but its not my fault!
mujaahid
05/15/02 at 15:57:19
[slm] I agree Humble Muslim, but honesty is the best policy, so i will not lie! Now any contructive advice?

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SisterHania
05/15/02 at 16:32:05
Don't worry Mujaahid, I'm sure after you open your mouth they all run away! [wlm]

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Kathy
05/15/02 at 20:25:08
[slm] [i] Kathy falls out of here chair laughing- 'help me i can't get up! she calls to her hubby....'[/i] Grow your beard thicker and longer- this may help. My husband is pretty handsome too- it would bother me a little to watch women falling all over themselves to get a "look."- or worse try to engage in a conversation with him. (he worked in the meat market) I noticed that after he grew his beard thicker and longer- the looks seemed to subside.

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AbdulBasir
05/15/02 at 22:44:24
[slm] Br Mujaahid...it is said by some of the mufassireen that Yusuf AS, who was tremendously handsome, used to veil his face when around women...so there's an idea for you...:)

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BlessedToBeMuslim
05/16/02 at 05:51:42
Assalamu Alaikum, I recall that there used to be a Sahabi at the time of the Prophet (SAW) who used to use the cloth of his turban to hide part of his face because women would look at him for his good looks. Do you have a turban? [smile] Wassalamu Alaikum, Uzer

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wired-up
05/16/02 at 06:39:30
Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah Mujaahid said: I'm rather handsome and good looking, well, actually i'm drop dead gorgeous   Brother you forgot to say Mashallah !!!!!!! And  NO i don't have any constructive advice ;D.sowwy Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah

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M.F.
05/16/02 at 08:20:15
assalamu alaikum I agree with the beard idea.  Most western women aren't very attrached by a long bushy beard. Mods this should make it to the MadinaNews line :)  it's just sooo funny.  I've never heard a brother complain about anyone looking at them, but I've also never heard one say he was drop dead gorgeous ::) so....   Also maybe you can wear a baseball cap and lower it over your face if you're honestly worried that it's that big a problem. and sunglasses, or just wear thick glass-bottom glasses ;D

Re: I know they shouldnt, but its not my fault!
Kathy
05/16/02 at 08:49:19
[quote author=AbdulBasir link=board=bebzi;num=1021490734;start=0#7 date=05/15/02 at 22:44:24]Br Mujaahid...it is said by some of the mufassireen that Yusuf AS, who was tremendously handsome, used to veil his face when around women...so there's an idea for you...:) [/quote] If I recall- he posted awhile back- that he didn't think it was hard to be hijabbed! ;)

Re: I know they shouldnt, but its not my fault!
mujaahid
05/16/02 at 09:11:10
[slm] The beard thing is a bit of a problem because my beard doesnt grow much from the sides, and whats worse, is the beard actually adds to my looks even more and makes me look even better!! BrotherHania  ;) "Don't worry Mujaahid, I'm sure after you open your mouth they all run away!" Ouch! Mods, that was a low blow! Kathy "I noticed that after he grew his beard thicker and longer- the looks seemed to subside." But the opposite happens to me!! AND my beard dont grow much! And since you've seen me, you KNOW how beautiful i am. Maybe i should try Eleanors magic hijab  :-* MF "Also maybe you can wear a baseball cap and lower it over your face if you're honestly worried that it's that big a problem. and sunglasses, or just wear thick glass-bottom glasses" The problem is that all that stuff only adds to my looks!! You know, maybe it's time i buy myself a hijab  :-)

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Aneesa_A.
05/16/02 at 09:30:23
[slm] Gosh Mujaahid...! its not good to be this vain :P [wlm]

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muqaddar
05/16/02 at 09:55:53
[slm]   glad too see you've got your confidence back after that nasty tan caused by excessive heat..  hmm you could ask that you be moved to another cage if the the female gorilla's at the zoo keep giving you longing looks....   ;D  ;D  ;D .. somewhere close to the male frogs

Re: I know they shouldnt, but its not my fault!
mujaahid
05/16/02 at 11:12:12
Salaam Qurat you too know just how beautiful and handsome i am  ;) Muqaddar "hmm you could ask that you be moved to another cage if the the female gorilla's at the zoo keep giving you longing looks" Now now!!! theres no need to talk about the Muslimah's in that way!  :D THAT WAS A JOKE!!!

Re: I know they shouldnt, but its not my fault!
muqaddar
05/16/02 at 11:17:35
[slm]  man i wouldn't want to be in your shoes *says muqaddar looking up the street where a crowd of angry hijaabi sisters armed with rolling pins and shoes is in hot pursuit *

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pakiprncess
05/17/02 at 18:09:32
[quote author=SisterHania link=board=bebzi;num=1021490734;start=0#5 date=05/15/02 at 16:32:05]Don't worry Mujaahid, I'm sure after you open your mouth they all run away! [wlm][/quote] lolzzz...you guys are too tooo funny  :-/ thanks for putting a smile on my face despite this stressful week coming up (finals, eck!) anyways, my advice to bro mujaahid would be to act as humble before the females as possible. my father is also incredibly handsome, mashallah se, and part of it is the fact that he has such an open and gentle heart.  he is always willing to help/comfort anyone.  but of course, there should be a limit to the extent one is open, for both males and females. and he got a much better control over things when he stopped smiling at others in a crowd, or being nice and opening doors for others, saying "God bless you"...things like that.... and knowing you the way i do, im sure you behave in such a chivalrous manner, too :)  so try to lower your gaze more, be a little less open to others (in the sense that girls wont just stop you to ask you the time), and most importantly, dont respond! good luck, my bro with the beautiful eyes  ::) ( you can also try  8) hehe)

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Anonymous
05/18/02 at 02:26:41
[quote]I'm rather handsome and good looking, well, actually i'm drop dead gorgeous[/quote] You're joking right? :p

Re: I know they shouldnt, but its not my fault!
Aneesa_A.
05/18/02 at 05:52:10
[slm] hey hey now dont start putting words in my mouth  :P besides, i think you should come down to earth once in a while concerning your looks....humility & modesty is a symbol of a pious Muslim. And if you really think youre all that, its best that you only go out at night when there arent any women around  ;) [wlm]

Re: I know they shouldnt, but its not my fault!
Kathy
05/18/02 at 20:49:30
[slm] [quote]MadinaNews: Drop dead gorgeous or just drop dead!? ask Madinans in the Bebzi[/quote] [i] :DI just had to add this- so it won't be forgotten ;D[/i]

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mwishka
05/19/02 at 17:18:37
mujaahid, i'm going to assume that this is a serious request for advice, and i'll trust that your assessment of both your looks and their magnetism are accurate.   i'd ask you NOT to go with the advice to curtail your greetings or your kindness or your interactions, and to let those look at you who choose to do so (this is their choice, not yours) as long as you're not trying to draw their attention.  in terms of beauty, it's a gift to you, and the best thing that you can do with anything you're granted is to share it.  that doesn't mean anything improper - all it means is that as you go through the world, if you're displaying a beauty that you were given, whether or not that beauty is even physical, each person you greet kindly or assist will benefit from your gift.  just speaking kindly to someone or smiling at someone could completely change the way that person's day is going.  it could even benefit them more than that - you can never know what state someone is in, all you can know is that you should give as much as you have to give to everyone you meet.  but you have to remember that it was given to you - it is not WHO you are, it is how you are perceived.  who you are is what you make of yourself, including how you make use of your gifts. mwishka

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mujaahid
05/20/02 at 06:30:41
[slm] Drop dead?  :'( OK which mod made that up? Now Qurat, you know i'm beautiful so  :P Pakiprincess, i dont give salaams to women unless thier old women, grannies etc. I dont feel comfortable giving salaams to young muslimahs. I'm not really that open, as in i'm kinda off shy, so i dont really do anything to attract attention, apart from being beautiful  ;D Now which mod told me to drop dead, come on, come clean ;-)

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BroHanif
05/20/02 at 19:22:45
[slm] well Bro mujay well what I suggest is you get a bit of kajal and put it just beside your left cheek or better still change your dress style to something different like wearing an anorak or something, instead of wearing that Armani shirt with your muscles bulging. And as for your hair you can have it parted in the middle with plenty of tail(oil). Wear baggy cloths not those tight cycling shorts. But then alas since we Bro's are blessed with beauty its wise that you have the rememberence of Allah in your heart and keep your gaze down. You can also get some spectacles, you know those jam jar bottle ones and that will make you look geeky. Oh and another think get MARRIED fast. Being a man has its benefits, membership allows four. Salaams from one handsome bro to the other, Hanif
NS
05/20/02 at 19:23:19
BroHanif

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UmmWafi
05/20/02 at 23:07:46
[slm] Ha ha ha ha ha When Barr told me abt this thread I was laffin hard. Seriously tho Bro Mujaahid, I would have thought its easier (and more important) to guard your reactions towards the attention you are getting compared to controlling the actions of others. Sure by all means, adopt the suggestion given here but remember to Istighfar all the time you are out of the house and guard your heart against pride.  Insya'Allah Alah will bless u with a special kind of veil :) Wassalam Olin The-plainlooking-but-prefers-a-face-with-character-than-just-ordinarily-good looking

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gift
05/21/02 at 06:50:16
[slm] ;D ahaahaha this thread is hilarious - my sister (whose started lurking on the board recently - sign up baji!!) alerted me to this thread.  how am i supposed to persuade her to sign up if she thinks the board is a place for those with ego problems ;) bro mujaahid i think a niqab is your best option (one of those scary metal types should put everyone off :D) [wlm]

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muqaddar
05/21/02 at 06:57:30
[quote author=BroHanif link=board=bebzi;num=1021490734;start=15#23 date=05/20/02 at 19:22:45] [slm] And as for your hair you can have it parted in the middle with plenty of tail(oil). Hanif[/quote]  Munshi Mainga Mul!   ;D  ;D  ;D  All he needs is a lungi and a squint   ;D
NS

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PeaceSeeker
05/21/02 at 08:59:37
here's an idea. Get this printed on your forehead "Storage temperature should not exceed 40 Celcius" or something to the same effect.

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BrKhalid
05/21/02 at 09:02:10
Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) I'd go along with the others and suggest taking it easy and keeping your head down (literally) ;-) On a serious note though, its all too easy for shaitan to whisper to us when we hear a good attribute about ourselves from others. Humility (and knowing who gave us such attributes in the first place) at such a time is particularly important.

Re: I know they shouldnt, but its not my fault!
pathan
05/21/02 at 23:49:55
[slm] mujahid i think everyone has failed. no offence everybody and I think it's time you take some real lessons from a pathan ;) the pathan has been there done that.  :D

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ltcorpest2
05/22/02 at 12:43:41
now , are they staring and snickering ? or did you leave your fly open?

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mujaahid
05/23/02 at 06:15:39
[slm] I think this shows that we muslims need to create a counselling group for those muslims who have been blessed with good looks, so that we have someone to turn to in times of need, who understands our problem. So all handsome brothers, lets hold hands, together we can walk the streets in safety knowing we are not alone. Lets share the pain.

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Kathy
05/23/02 at 08:43:33
[slm] I sure hope that you are writing these words in jest. If you are serious- you need some mental health treatments.

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ltcorpest2
05/23/02 at 09:56:48
kathy, was that in regards to my post or muj

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UmmAbdulRahman
05/23/02 at 19:36:08
[slm] Brother Mujahhid-beauty is relative so don't assume that if people are supposedly "looking" at you, you're some kind of absolute hottie. Personally, the thicker the beard, the more manly (and therefore attractive) he looks to me so...you certainly don't sound like you're all that.

ooohhhh mmyyyyy ggooossshhhhh!!!!
princess
05/23/02 at 23:54:11
as'salaamualikum ;D hahahahah..:D man, this is classic ::) i wish we had a throw up smiley ;)

Re: I know they shouldnt, but its not my fault!
mujaahid
05/24/02 at 04:12:10
[slm] UmmAbdulRahman I dont base my "beauty" on the looks a get sometimes. I base my judgement on the beautiful face i see every morning in the mirror ;D You know, i often sit in front of the mirror, and ask myself "I'm so gorgeous, Allah, why did you make me so handsome?"  ;D

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M.F.
05/24/02 at 05:52:02
[quote] You know, i oftej sit in front of the mirror, and ask myself "I'm so gorgeous, Allah, why did you make me so handsome?"  [/quote] Oh Mujy you poor poor thing.   ::) The Prophet (S) used to look in the mirror and say: "Oh Allah, make my character (or manners)  beautiful as you have made my (physical) creation beautiful." Maybe you should do that as well, and maybe Allah will make your character match your looks insha Allah.

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sunset
05/24/02 at 06:33:09
[wlm] To be honest, at the beginning the post sounded serious and mujaahid really needed help but the more I read his posts the seriousness level had decrease until I thought this guy cant be that serious cause he seems too obsess with his look.  I apologise if I had misjudged him. Many things have been said about beauty. Beauty is skin deep, inner beauty is everything, beauty lies in the eyes of beholder etc etc.  Lets be honest ..beauty can be skin deep but whenever we meet someone for the fist time or by a glance.. the looks are more obvious than anything else unless you get to know that person personally. It is wise that mujaahid is aware that his looks may create some problem for him in the next world if he is not careful. But bragging about it more and more each day will not help him much/at all in his mission/intention. You have been flying too high mujaahid ... for your good sake come back to the ground please. I'm sure mujaahid is very greatful with Allah subhanahu wataala for blessing him with his look but has he forgotten that Allah subhanahu wataala may take back whatever He wishes.  I will give you a scenario which REALLY happened over here. A young girl was blessed with beautiful face and many guys were after her. I lastly saw her during my brother's wedding day last Dec 2001.  Five months later (last week) she was hospitalised for serious injury on her face and some part of body.  Someone (dunno who yet) had thrown acid on her face while she was walking alone. My brother and his wife visited her and told her face was badly damaged and one of her eyes was popping out . Obviously she doesnt look like the girl I met 5 months ago. I dont mean to scare muujahid but just think about it...once she was a beautiful girl and so many guys were after her and now her beauty is just a history.   Beauty of the face will definately fade in years but beauty of the heart may grow more beautiful in years if all of us make fully use of the years given by Allah subhanahu wataala. Again, I apologise if my post had somehow offended anyone on this board especially mujaahid. Please know that I have no such intention. [slm] :-) :)

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Kathy
05/24/02 at 09:10:08
Do not strut on the earth filled with pride, for you cannot rend the earth asunder, nor can you reach the mountains in height. -Qur'an, Al-Isra, Surah 17:37

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salik
05/24/02 at 14:22:11
[slm] [quote author=M.F. link=board=bebzi;num=1021490734;start=30#37 date=05/24/02 at 05:52:02] Oh Mujy you poor poor thing.   ::) The Prophet (S) used to look in the mirror and say: "Oh Allah, make my character (or manners)  beautiful as you have made my (physical) creation beautiful." Maybe you should do that as well, and maybe Allah will make your character match your looks insha Allah. [/quote] Sister M.F., Can you please provide the arabic transliteration of this dua, I used to say this dua before, but stopped when my only mirror was in the bathroom, and now I don't seem to remember it.

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SisterHania
05/24/02 at 15:00:53
[quote author=sunset link=board=bebzi;num=1021490734;start=30#38 date=05/24/02 at 06:33:09] [wlm] Beauty of the face will definately fade in years but beauty of the heart may grow more beautiful in years if all of us make fully use of the years given by Allah subhanahu wataala. :-) :) [/quote] Ya Allah that story was so sad  :( Its true though, if you marry some one for their looks alone what will happen when his/her looks change? Will you still want to be with him/her? I am quite sure that after the young girls accident none of the many guys that were chasing her continued in their chase  :(

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pathan
05/24/02 at 20:02:17
Assalamu 'alaykum all sisters sisters take a chill pill.... i'm pretty sure mujahid is trying to put a  :) on brothers and sisters faces. if not then mujahid you gota come down bro..ur flying 2 high dude. after all it's BEBZI STAND.

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Noor
05/25/02 at 02:57:01
[slm] [quote]Can you please provide the arabic transliteration of this dua[/quote] It's: Allahumma anta kama ah-santa khalqy, fa ahsin khuluqy wassalam :-*

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Sibghatullah
05/25/02 at 06:37:04
u verses is good ,I affected orm u

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Road2Jannah
05/25/02 at 12:43:46
[slm]mashallah, just wat i wanted to say sister sunset, mashallah well done job. p.s tho i would like to know if bro mujaahid is really serious or just really trying to see wat we gonna say???

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wired-up
05/26/02 at 02:37:28
Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah JazakhAllah Khair Sis Noor for the Duaa in arabic  ;D.I was looking for it  for a looong time with no luck .I am  sooo glad to have finally found it. Now while we are @it do you know how to say this duaa in arabic? "O Allah !(swt) Place not on us a burden greater than we can bear"?or smthg similar. JazakhAllah Khair. Assalamualaimkum Warahmatullah

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Abu_Hamza
05/26/02 at 02:40:17
[i]Rabbanaa laa tuhammilnaa maa laa taaqata lanaa bih[/i] Our Lord, lay not upon us a burden that we cannot bear. This du'aa is part of the last ayah of Surah al-Baqarah (Chapter 2, verse 286). Wassalamu alaikum

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Zara
05/26/02 at 08:23:24
[quote author=mujaahid link=board=bebzi;num=1021490734;start=30#36 date=05/24/02 at 04:12:10] [slm] UmmAbdulRahman I dont base my "beauty" on the looks a get sometimes. I base my judgement on the beautiful face i see every morning in the mirror ;D You know, i often sit in front of the mirror, and ask myself "I'm so gorgeous, Allah, why did you make me so handsome?"  ;D[/quote] *zara takes a pin and bursts mujy's bubble saving him from flying to outer space*    :-/ just kidding   :-) no really, too much vanity leads to pride and can eventually ruin the iman. you may be familiar with an incident that occured i forget if this was a hadith or not therefore i will not attribute it as a hadith and proceed to tell you the moral.... a man entered the masjid and people were asked what they think of him.  they replied that he was very pious.  however they were told that this man wasn't good because when he walked into the masjid he had a thought in his heart that he was better than everyone there.  when asked about this the man said that he did indeed have this thought and he repented for doing so.         if anyone can recall the hadith that narrates this please post. ma'salaama

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Al-Basha
05/26/02 at 13:01:30
[slm] Well we all know what Pharoah said to Prophet Musa  [saw] "Ana rabokom al a3laa" And we all know what happened to Pharoah too. My recommendation to the bro, Chill and have an  [] And btw vanity sucks

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ltcorpest2
05/28/02 at 16:24:09
Would it be vain to say that I have the 2 most handsome kids in the world? ages 1 and 3.  I have no idea where they got their looks from though.

Re: I know they shouldnt, but its not my fault!
Kathy
05/28/02 at 16:57:45
[slm] it would be better to say "masha Allah...."

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BroHanif
05/28/02 at 18:57:15
[quote]Would it be vain to say that I have the 2 most handsome kids in the world? ages 1 and 3.  I have no idea where they got their looks from though. [/quote] ltcorpest2, Hmm the mom perhaps  ?  ;) I have that same problem with Fatimah bint Hanif, the only thing is she looks exactly like me, minus the beard of course.... ah bless the little ones. Take it easy ma man. Hanif

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Dawn
05/29/02 at 05:47:59
[quote author=ltcorpest2 link=board=bebzi;num=1021490734;start=45#50 date=05/28/02 at 16:24:09]Would it be vain to say that I have the 2 most handsome kids in the world? ages 1 and 3.  I have no idea where they got their looks from though.[/quote] I don't know, my 15 month old could give them some competition!   ;)  We haven't seen anything finer, but then we are quite biased!  :D

Re: I know they shouldnt, but its not my fault!
WhatDFish
05/29/02 at 10:19:20
great, not only have the lil ones from Madina stolen the limelight from Mujy, theyre are givin him a run for his money now  :D . . . . . ..

Re: I know they shouldnt, but its not my fault!
ltcorpest2
05/29/02 at 14:22:06
I don't know, my 15 month old could give them some competition!     We haven't seen anything finer, but then we are quite biased!   i didn't think i was being biased. ltcorpest2, Hmm the mom perhaps  ?   yeah,  you could see the combination, but the little one is all me at least so far.  except he is a terror,  I have no idea where that came from though!!! great, not only have the lil ones from Madina stolen the limelight from Mujy, theyre are givin him a run for his money now   . . . . . ..   he had better start runnin fast.
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