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| Uncomfortable doing presentations with guys? |
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| Anonymous |
| 06/03/02 at 01:33:15 |
| salam alikum ppl . i am really having a problem ..thought u ppl might be of help ...the thing is that i have taken up this communications course in university ...and well emm i am in a muslim country for now ...im just not comfortable in doing presentations with guys ...ive studied in a all girls school all my life ...and grew up in the middleeast ...only moved to my country recently ...so well i went to the teacher and requested her if i could be put in an all girls group and gave her the reason that im simply not comfortable ...at first she was all pissed off and was like no way .....but then kinda cooled down ,...and said that if u can come up with some valid argument to support ur point of view i might consider ..and the argument that u present now is simply not acceptable ...im soo stressed out ...how can i support my case?????????? she says interaction wid guys is must and u will have to sooner or later .... anyways ..do u ppl think im just wrong in thinking the way i do ...and maybe its about time that i start this interaction with guys ?????? wud appreciate everybodys input thanks |
| Re: Uncomfortable doing presentations with guys? |
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| Marcie |
| 06/03/02 at 08:11:26 |
| [color=Teal] [slm] Depending on your lifestyle and the people that you choose to associate with you can live your life without interacting with men or only on occassion. :-* Why not use the Koran for your argument? :-[ You should not do something that you don't feel comfortable doing, so don't give in to pressure from others. :P [wlm] Marcie :-) [/color] |
| Re: Uncomfortable doing presentations with guys? |
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| Kathy |
| 06/03/02 at 08:21:08 |
| [slm] This is one of those posts people will be uncomfortable answering. Because there are different factors and schools of thought that need to be addressed. For example. Some schools say a woman is allowed to lecture/teach in front of men, some do not. The things you need to consider is- what is your future goals? Will you need to speak to men? Or do you plan to be a stay at home mom and not be involved in areas where public speaking is necessary? You can drop the class and take an alternate class. Or perhaps you may, in the future, become involved in dawah. Sure the audiences could be just women, or a screen placed, but most probably you will be speaking in front of men. Hence the hijab. [i] I am purposely not going into detail here- perhaps se7en can post one of her 'here' when we discussed this previously- and then she can e-mail me and tell me how to do it[/i] You need to find your comfort level and decide if you need or want to learn public speaking. If you are in America- you do have the freedom not to take a course, do you have the same rights in the country you are in? What are the religious rights and freedoms in your country? Can you apply these to your arguement? |
| Re: Uncomfortable doing presentations with guys? |
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| Asim |
| 06/04/02 at 00:01:55 |
| Assalaamu alaikum, I don't understand why the teacher is objecting? It is a perfectly legitimate request. And since there are other girls in the class you can group with them instead of boys. Strange. Tell her that it won't make any difference to your learning. And I am pretty sure it won't. She is just being stubborn. Muslim countries sometimes have this rigid attitude to not accomodate a person (even more strange when it is related to Islamic customs) in a blind following of western practices. While in the West, now, a person can get accomodations for all kinds of weird things including many religious requests. Wasalaam. |
| Re: Uncomfortable doing presentations with guys? |
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| se7en |
| 06/04/02 at 04:38:25 |
| as salaamu alaykum, You should not be forced to do anything you are uncomfortable with. If you feel that religiously, it is not proper for you to be in that type of interaction with members of the opposite sex, your teacher should respect that. It's not so much a fiqhi issue, but one of your right as a student to have your religious views accomodated. Just be assertive, and inshaAllah she'll change her mind :) You might want to look into what laws your university has about religious accomodations. [quote]I am purposely not going into detail here- perhaps se7en can post one of her 'here' when we discussed this previously- and then she can e-mail me and tell me how to do it [/quote] And older thread on this issue can be found [url=http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/yabb/YaBB.pl/YaBB.pl?board=madrasa&action=display&num=1830]here[/url]. Kathy, check out my latest post in the media center ;) take care wasalaamu alaykum :-) |
| 06/04/02 at 04:39:40 |
| se7en |
| Re: Uncomfortable doing presentations with guys? |
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| mujaahid |
| 06/06/02 at 11:22:15 |
| [slm] Sister in situations like this, i think the best thing you can do is believe in yourself and overcome your fear. I know it sounds cheesy, but its true ;-) Mujaahid P.s. if your the imaginative type, you can imagine the bro's are sitting thier dressed as tomatoes or something ;) |
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