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| dirt |
| 06/03/02 at 19:31:04 |
| [slm] You know, I've read about a million and one articles on the correct way of treating a wife, the best way to a happy marriage, etc etc. But I am struggling to remember seeing any articles on how to have a happy relationship with one's children. Don't get me wrong, if I am ever married I will put forth a tremendous amount of effort to pleasing my wife but....what about the kids? The reason I bring this up is I have seen brothers get so wrapped up in work, marriage, etc that they forget to spend time with their children. To me, this is such a travesty. Brothers, don't forget the little ones. [wlm] |
| 06/03/02 at 19:31:39 |
| dirt |
| Re: Don't forget about the children. |
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| bhaloo |
| 06/03/02 at 22:51:24 |
| [slm] There's an article I have up here on this issue in my Islamic Articles section: http://members.cox.net/arshad/children.html |
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| BroHanif |
| 06/04/02 at 19:22:48 |
| [slm], Aye lad, the little ones are very important. Hey just don't mention it to the bros, the sitaz need to be in as well. The correct tarbiyah(education) starts from the mothers lap no better school I say. And kids grow soooo fast maann its amazing (Fatimahs now walking,soo kewl). salaams Hanif |
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| mustafas_baba |
| 07/09/02 at 21:51:21 |
| [slm] All, Im a new member here. Was introduced to this website by my sister visiting us from Philly ! I was shown two sites: Chowk and this. I think most you who have visited chowk know that its a waste of time. So I decided to signup here. A guy needs something to do at work, Right? :) Anyways, when I saw this topic, I thought what an opportune time to write and introduce my self! As my name suggests, I am Mustafa's baba :) Mustafa, Mashallah, is almost 3 yrs(will be 3 on Aug 27, 02) and he is going to have sibling by October Inshallah. I am also very interested in finding out more specifically about how Prophet Muhammad PBUH was with his children. I really really enjoy playing and just spending time with my son. He is truly the joy of my life, and I dont think I can ever get enough of him. I think it would be good for me and other Dads like me to know some Islamic traditions between father and sons/daughters. |
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| jannah |
| 07/09/02 at 21:59:16 |
| [wlm] are you by any chance related to tq and faheem? dang you guys have a big family mashallah :) welcome to the board!!! ps give tq and the rest of the family some big salams from jannah! |
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| counterplex |
| 07/10/02 at 09:48:34 |
| [slm] I'm also a Mustapha's father. It's been just a few short years (to quote the man himself, "my entire life") and I'm amazed how much he's grown. Just yesterday I remember not being able to do much more than play with his blocks with him. Now I'm able to sit down and watch as he constructs elaborate Lego models from his own imagination and I try to contribute amidst cries of "... not on the wings, papa. That's where the engines will go ...". Our latest project is a lego mindstorms kit so we can create robots! It's almost like I'm reliving my life through him, subhanAllah. His and my situation hasn't been too stable until recently but subhanAllah I dont think it is possible to give your kids as much time as you want to. You give them 99% and a few years later you'll wish you could have given them that extra 1% too. I think in the end if we're there for them a decent amount of the time and ensure that we're there when they need us the most, we'll be doing good inshaAllah. Now all I have to do is make time to show this 7 yr old how to "make my own web page with games and activities!". :) Khayr, enough reminiscing. That's my $0.02 [wlm] C |
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| UmmWafi |
| 07/10/02 at 13:28:16 |
| [slm] Ok ok so I am not a Dada but a Mama stilllllll...juz wanna share sumfink here. Best moments of my life are when I am with my children. Sometimes things can be so so very difficult that u find it hard to even breathe but when my eyes rest on my son's and daughter's smile..Masya'Allah......the peace that settle within...there just ain't enuff words in the lexicography to describe it. Few months ago, both my kids wanna have another sibling. My son then got curious and asked me where they come from. (He is 5 thus he thinks that he has just been conferred the "I-am-gonna-ask-and-ask-till-the-adults-scream-certificate") I explained about how I gave birth to them via Caesarean section (its the cut on the tummy thingy for bros who dunno) and I even showed them the scar. My son got quiet for a bit then he kissed me and said that he weally wants a lil sis badly but he says that he doesn't want me to ever ever give birth again cos he says he loves me and he doesn't want me to die. Can u imagine how my heart did that triple twist with double somersault move only Russian gymnasts can do ? Another incident is when my son brought back his class photo (he is in kindergarten two with other 5 and 6 year old terrors) and was smiling while looking at the photo. I got suspicious and ask him what he likes about the photo to make him smile so. He says there is a gal named Alisya Fatin who "is sweet and cute Ummi. I think I like her". I just said Ahha. He looked up and held my hand and said " I think u are the prettiest girl in the whole world". See brothers (and sis lurkers heh heh), we can work so hard, earn so much but we can never be truly rich and blessed until we know the pleasure of a minute in your childrens' company. Travelling every weekend from Malaysia to Singapore has taken a severe toll on my health, but when I reach home and open the door and see their faces light up and hear their cries of "Ummi", I know that I have tasted but a glimpse of what Jannah is (sheeshhh I am alone at night here in Malaysia and writing abt this is making me teary) Best part of my day ? At night, after I have read a book (their fave is "Allah loves me") and both are asleep, my daughter with one thumb in her mouth and one hand draped across my tummy, my son with his head in the crook of my arm and the purest look on his face, I know that I have been so very truly blessed by Allah SWT and to neglect such a gift is nothing short of....sinful. Wallahualam. |
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| mustafas_baba |
| 07/12/02 at 01:12:40 |
| Jannah, [wlm], "are you by any chance related to tq and faheem? dang you guys have a big family mashallah welcome to the board!!! " Yes, I am "tq's" younger brother :-* although I think she would prefer I call her "qt" ;), hain Baji? Im the youngest sibling in the family. She's trying to recruit our eldest sister as well. Do you guys have her on some sort of commission? :-X"tq" told me that people might recognize me as her brother so I best be on my best behavior and appear in my "sunday bests". Arnyway, sorry for the late reply. Since they will be leaving this weekend to head back to the East side, we are really busy with all kinds of stuff. I am enjoying reading other brothers' and sisters' replies as well, since most parents can completely relate to the feelings being disucssed. |
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| jannah |
| 07/12/02 at 03:04:36 |
| [quote] Do you guys have her on some sort of commission?[/quote] yeah how about for every 5 people she gets on the board we come visit her :) |
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