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| se7en |
| 07/02/02 at 10:43:44 |
| as salaamu alaykum, for those of you who were once lurkers[sup]*[/sup]... How long did you lurk? Did you feel like you were part of the community, even though you weren't a member? What did you find interesting? Was there any one discussion or member in particular that piqued your interest? What kept you from registering? And finally.. what inspired you to move over from the dark side (;)) and become a member? For those of you who are still lurkers, please feel free to use the anonymous posting feature :) wasalaamu alaykum :-) [sup] * -- if term found offensive, please replace with "individual who opts not to contribute to the board but still attains benefit from reading the discussions therein" [/sup] |
| 07/04/02 at 11:21:50 |
| se7en |
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| Kathy |
| 07/02/02 at 19:00:54 |
| [wlm] How long did you lurk? About a month. Did you feel like you were part of the community, even though you weren't a member? No. What did you find interesting? The intelligence level and there wasn't much "cultural Islam." Was there any one discussion or member in particular that peaked your interest? It was Arshad and the discussion about men wearing jewelry. What kept you from registering? I really wanted to "check out" the sight and make sure it wasn't filled with 'sect'arion Muslims. And finally.. what inspired you to move over from the dark side and become a member? I felt the board needed an older woman's point of view and i was interested in seeing your reactions from an "American Muslim." |
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| nur-ul-aain |
| 07/02/02 at 21:29:12 |
| [slm] great questions subhan'allah... I lurked for about an hour or so for a couple of days tryin to figure out what forum to be a part of :-[ I didnt really feel like I was part of the community..it seemed as though i needed to be more vocal in order to form some kind of solid communication that the others had and which i soooo coveted :( wut i found interesting was the whole bebzi stand forum...a mix of a lot of stuff and it kept things real subhan'allah ;D i've been obsessed with the mideast so when i read that our dear sis mwishka was goin to filisteen i had to be a part of it :P i hesistated in registering b/c i tend to be online a lot and this would be yet another reason to increase my hourly visits to daily ones ::) i decided to become a member b/c there was a lot i had to say and wanted to learn subhan'allah..it's always great to meet new Muslims :) peace out my peeps 8) nur :-) |
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| Red |
| 07/04/02 at 10:33:57 |
| [slm], Ok wow, um i'd say i lurked around these parts ohhh say just about a year! :) ..... yeah thats a long time.... but i still felt i was part of this community because of all you guys... your great!!!! ;) i found just about everything intersting , and i could'nt stop thinking how jannah put this all together its such a great place, masallah, for so many people to come together, it a real great feeling when you come here and read all these posts. There was a lot of funny posts, from Br. Kashif, Sis. Kathy, jannah, mwishka (sooo sweet and cute) , se7en, just about everyone, I am a bit of a shy person sooooo i took a long time to become a member. Anyway's i gotta go now that i fully confessed..... wasalam, red |
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| mwishka |
| 07/05/02 at 00:24:22 |
| wowowowow what is poor little mwishka supposed to do?? she's got "mean" sis 7 (se 7 en... how bout "S"?) aking her to answer a "mean" question in "mean" words....:P ......and then she's got sis red saying she's sweet.... eh oh....have to be careful here..... :D ..it's a good thing only four or less people here know me....:) well, i wasn't going to answer this, but not many other people are, either, so i thought maybe i could help set a good example......so that i myself would get to read people's stories, too. i started reading here in, um......october, i think it was. someone told me it was a very nice place, with very nice people who would let me ask all the questions i wanted to. but i didn't see any other non-muslims replying or participating, though there might have been, so i didn't come here very often, maybe once or so a month for quite a while, because i felt i just didn't belong. it felt like a pretty closed (i.e., muslim) place, mostly, so i kind of only came to read once in a while... then, each time i came here i'd read for a little longer - i definitely felt like i was almost intruding on private property, so i limited what i even read... i think it wasn't until i'd been coming here long enough that i felt i had gained a better working vocabulary of a lot of islamic terms and had been reading conversations long enough to have some sense of who individuals were that i even really considered registering. what did prompt me to register? was it some conversation or individual? no.....he hee heee it was poor little mwishka's inability to keep her squeaking to herself! she tried first just asking questions anonymously, but it took as much as four days for them to go up, so when she tried to reply to things (anonymously), it was, um, sort of difficult, so she was FORCED against her will, and accompanied by "mean" sis S's sticking out her tongue at poor tiny mwishka at least twice (if not 30 times!) because she wouldn't register that finally FORCED her to register..... (its probably a good thing that you finally put a cage with a wheel and a water-maze in al-manar for when the squeaking becomes unbearable...;)) mwishka p.s. through no fault of the madina, just my own perspective, and my own choices, maybe, i still feel like an outsider in many ways. i can kind of see, though, how that kind of makes sense... :) |
| 07/06/02 at 17:06:38 |
| mwishka |
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| BrKhalid |
| 07/05/02 at 06:15:41 |
| Asalaaum Alaikum ;-) [quote]How long did you lurk? [/quote] A week or so [quote]Did you feel like you were part of the community, even though you weren't a member?[/quote] Not really because I wasn't here long enough to be a serial lurker ;) [quote]What did you find interesting? [/quote] How the board can be informative, educational but at the same time retain a sense of humour. [quote]Was there any one discussion or member in particular that piqued your interest? [/quote] Not really but I remember after first registering I would read all the old threads. Its amazing how much beneficial stuff you can pick up there. [quote]What kept you from registering? [/quote] Errmm….nothing really [quote]And finally.. what inspired you to move over from the dark side () and become a member? [/quote] Can I Brit plead the fifth? ;-) |
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| Taalibatul_ilm |
| 07/07/02 at 14:58:08 |
| [slm] I'm so private that I didn't really want to answer this, but will just to give another way of viewing this. [color=Red]How long did you lurk?[/color] A long time, over a year, but I'm not sure how long exactly. [color=Red]Did you feel like you were part of the community, even though you weren't a member?[/color] I felt like I knew the community, but didn't feel like a member. [color=Red]What did you find interesting? [/color] The large amount of highly informed Muslims that were able to answer some very difficult questions. [color=Red]Was there any one discussion or member in particular that piqued your interest?[/color] Member, no. There were quite a few discussions that I liked to follow. The one I thought was most interesting was Jeremy's questions (atheist questions) and the answers that some posted. Those were really good answers to some hard questions. [color=Red]What kept you from registering? [/color] This is the part I want sister Jannah to read. I didn't register because on the old board, the IP numbers were posted on the board. I'm not a criminal, but I don't see why the world needs to know where the person is that is posting. We all know that there are many kinds that visit this board and keep track of what is said and by whom. I posted a few anonymous posts on the old board when I had something to say, one was about the hamzah wasl, the others just miscellaneous things. I am shy too. You can probably see I don't post often now that I am a member. I only post if there is something I feel I can add or to ask a question that I feel the brothers and sisters here can answer, usually about computers. The last question then, is already answered. I came over from the "dark" side, (that sounds like I was spying) because the IP's are no longer listed. There are probably many like me that enjoy reading, but are shy to register. If your goal is da'wah, then that shouldn't bother anyone. |
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| jannah |
| 07/07/02 at 15:38:21 |
| [wlm] Interesting bro... but about the IP's to be honest if someone wanted to know who is from where it is extremely easy to keep track of things from the server levels of ISPs not to mention web server logs and stuff like that. Personally I think everyone should realize that everything they type in or say can be traced back to them quite easily, because everything is computerized and centralized. This is the world we live in. That being said almost everything we do in our lives can be monitored.. from how much gas you paid last week to what you buy in the grocery store...enough to make anyone paranoid!! so therefore i just think people should just give it up.. do what you want, whenever you want.. and khalas... we know Allah is watching us and that's enough for me... |
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| jaihoon |
| 07/08/02 at 02:29:23 |
| Server logs! boy, they can give you some deadly information about what every lurker does on a site :) |
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| Aurora |
| 07/08/02 at 20:12:31 |
| [i]for those of you who were once lurkers[/i] ahaan [i]How long did you lurk?[/i] Erm...a little over two years [i] Did you feel like you were part of the community, even though you weren't a member? [/i] I didn't feel a part of the community as in feeling a part of the board, because there wasn't really anything there to 'hold' me, i'd come, read, leave, but there wasn't any giving/sharing of myself that makes you feel like you're doing something and that you belong. But then at the same time i'd feel like I was a part of the community, 'comfortable' with it all for the reason that it was a place of 'kindred spirits' to borrow the phrase from L.M. Montgomery. A place where there were people on the same wavelength, working towards a common goal, and that goal is what unites all of us afterall - even transcending over the barrier between 'the other side' ;) [i]What did you find interesting?[/i] To put it simply - I just liked it. I felt comfortable, I felt like it was a good place. [i]Was there any one discussion or member in particular that piqued your interest?[/i] Nope. [i]What kept you from registering?[/i] Mostly a lack of time and partly commitment to another board. [i]And finally.. what inspired you to move over from the dark side () and become a member? [/i] In general, an abundance of time *wry smile* and in particular a thread titled 'Guidance' in the Naseeha corner, I guess it touched something inside of me:--) |
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| Umm-Ahmad |
| 07/09/02 at 05:47:48 |
| [slm] Mmmm, letting all the secrets out the bag here...:) I have been an "official" lurker since the old board, which I frequented for more than a year. Then I came here and decided to register finally after some frustration at posting anonymously (it's harder to track, lol) and some prodding from a little member who keeps IMing me to say HEY THATS YOU! ISNT IT?? hehe, more often than not she is right too;) I remember always reading as much as I could about the discussions that went on here...and it felt to me that I knew at least some of the regulars (Se7en and family, bhaloo,the 2 hanif(f)s,and others)...even if they didnt know me! I learned a lot here, and got to share some of my problems and get excellent advice (as I continue to get, alhamdulillah)...actually, it's quite weird, cuz a few sisters have approached me to ask if a certain anon was me! hehe, some of them were right!! thats scary... ;) So I crossed over to the *light* side :D and got meself registered. I dont even feel that I need the anonymous posting feature anymore...:) Salam to all Umm Ahmad |
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| imaazh |
| 07/09/02 at 22:29:23 |
| [slm] [color=Green]How long did you lurk? [/color] About six months [color=Green]Did you feel like you were part of the community, even though you weren't a member?[/color] Not really. I felt that i could relate to the community, that many people here were 'kindred spirits'(thanks sis aurora ;) ), but i didn't feel like i was part of the board. I also sometimes get the impression, (correct me if i'm wrong), that there is a sort of "in-crowd". Where some of the more regular contributing members are kind of like the "popular" crowd at school, exclusive yet at the same time open. Maybe its because many of you know each other in person. [color=Green]What did you find interesting?[/color] There are so many, many things to learn from and so many different points of view. I also like to read up on the old discussions and mashalla really come away with a lot. [color=Green]Was there any one discussion or member in particular that piqued your interest?[/color] No not really [color=Green]What kept you from registering?[/color] I'm really, really shy :). I like to read and listen more than i like to talk and post. Also in real life, i really only open up to people that i know really well, and for some strange inexplicable reason, i'm like that online as well. So, although i don't post much, i do like to regularly visit :) [color=Green]And finally.. what inspired you to move over from the dark side () and become a member?[/color] The discussion on education - public vs private, really interested me and i figured i should register to post there. Its nice to have such great place to visit regularly to just kick back and have a [] even if sometimes you're sitting in the shade while doing so ;). salaams imaazh |
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| se7en |
| 07/23/02 at 01:59:37 |
| as salaamu alaykum, [quote]I also sometimes get the impression, (correct me if i'm wrong), that there is a sort of "in-crowd". Where some of the more regular contributing members are kind of like the "popular" crowd at school, exclusive yet at the same time open. Maybe its because many of you know each other in person. [/quote] Hmm... when I first read this I thought it was sort of funny because I think most of the regulars look like this: [img]http://www.plauder-smilies.de/yellows/nerd.gif[/img] ie most definitely *not* the popular crowd at school.. hahaha :P but aside from that, I think that some people have been on the board for a *long* time, and in that time have gotten to know each other very well, through their sharing of personal experiences and problems, jokes and fights, in the advice and knowledge imparted and received, etc.. I personally feel *very* close to many people on the board, some who I've never ever met before, simply because over time and through their posts I've gotten to know them very well. I hope that this feeling of closeness does not turn away new or less active members of the board.. I think it's something natural that develops with time, and I hope that every member who spends their time here feels like part of the Madina family. My advice: sit back, have a bebzi, and just be yourself :) I don't think there's anything like reading something that comes sincerely from the heart. ... and I think that with time and with more posts, you too can become part of the [img]http://www.plauder-smilies.de/yellows/nerd.gif[/img] crowd. wasalaamu alaykum ;D |
| 07/23/02 at 02:03:48 |
| se7en |
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| imaazh |
| 07/23/02 at 22:37:20 |
| [slm] Forgive me dear brothers and sisters if i sounded like one of my marginalised students when i posted earlier. I did not intend to create labels, but was simply putting forth a half-conceived perception. I realised later that it may have caused comment, but wanted to wait and see what happened. The feeling of closeness that this board extends, is subhanallah one that draws so many people to it, whether they contribute or not is not so important, so long as they gain something from their time here, and i know from experience that it is virtually impossible to leave this site without having learnt something new. So, thank you fellow Madinans for your kindness in helping me in my journey. [wlm] |
| 07/23/02 at 22:39:30 |
| imaazh |
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