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Anonymous
07/05/02 at 03:07:15
well salam sisies and bro'z
well i had a question to ask those who WILL give their opinion or TRIED it...
is the first 6 months of marriage really like hell?
and if it is how?

ok thats the first question...
secondly, what are the most important thing(s) you will look for in a man/woman...well i
am a woman so,you probably know which to give...
i hope i made myself clear by this...
and my third question..what do you ask a man and what do you mostly have to point at
before marriage (*you know you gotta know the guy before marriage*)
and my fourth greatest question, is it halal to see the man before marriage?
thanQ alOt!

by the way my name is Hesaan, it means horse in arabic...well to those who didn't think
my name existed my mother loved horses. if she found she'd bow down to one,
astaghfirallah!
my sisters names are hira(cat), malak, and last of the youngsters Bashalee which means
blah in enlgish and urdu.
i live in norway for 2 years and got engaged a couple days ago...I AM FREAKED!!what
should i do if it really like hell??? oh my!!!
Re: marriage...
BrKhalid
07/05/02 at 06:24:10
Asalaamu Alaikum ;-)

First up congratulations on your engagement Sister ;-)

[quote]is the first 6 months of marriage really like hell? [/quote]

Huh???

I'm not sure where this comes from. Can you explain why you would think the first six months would be so depressing?
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Barraa
07/05/02 at 22:43:40
Brother khalid i think she is referring to like its hard to live with a man she never knew before and can't stay in one place comfortable. ":marriage is like hell" is just a saying thay means its hard to get married to a guy/girl that she never knew.
i really cannot help you sister becuz i have never tried it...
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mama2two
07/06/02 at 01:38:16
[slm]
1. People say the first year of marriage is the hardest...if you can make it through the first year, you can make it.  However, people also invented the concept of the seven-year-itch, the ten-year-itch, the constant itch, etc., etc.  So I guess I would say...I don't know. ;)
2. What would I look for in a man? Look for a man who fears Allah.  He who is afraid of Allah will sincerely try to follow Allah's guidelines.  If a man follows Allah's guidelines, he will not do you wrong.  
3. Sorry, didn't understand the question.
4. As far as I know (which is not very far 8) it is halal to see and even meet/get to know your spouse before marriage AS LONG AS YOU ARE CHAPERONED.  Marriage is a lifelong commitment with serious consequences (children), so it should not be entered into lightly or without full understanding and consent.
Good luck!
Re: marriage...
Kathy
07/06/02 at 09:50:06
[slm]

Not true in my case.
I have been married twice and the first years were both wonderful.
Re: marriage...
sam
07/06/02 at 16:13:40
[slm]
well i have been married for nearly two years and i want to say that i knew my husband before marraige yet still our first year of marraige was like a rollercoaster ride. sometimes you'll feel really happy and want to sqeeze each other to bits and other times you'd feel really down in the dumps.

the first year was like the warm up before an exercise..you know getting your body and mind prepared for the years to come. in that year you do alot of learning and changing...this can be hard, but of you want a happy marraige then just accept and put up with it,  i'm sure he will need to change too.
hopefully if you both fear allah then you will be ok inshallah....

reciting " ya maani" will help to get a good family life

take care
[wlm]


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