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| BrKhalid |
| 07/17/02 at 11:39:20 |
| Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) No not the TV show (for those Brits and Aussies amongst us ;-) ) but the family that have just moved in next door to me. What practical things can I do to act upon the following verse of the Qu'ran? [color=Blue]"Serve God, and join not any partners with Him; and do good- to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, those in need, neighbours who are near, neighbours who are strangers, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (ye meet), and what your right hands possess: For God loveth not the arrogant, the vainglorious"[4:36][/color] |
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| Aurora |
| 07/17/02 at 12:43:35 |
| Take some food over:) Ask them if they need help with anything, I mean if they're completely new to the area there might be quite a bit you could help them out with, i.e. giving them directions, telling them the best places to get groceries, etc,etc:--) Looking back, I remember my parents would invite our neighbours over for supper once in a while, sometimes send over a basket of fruit, and also sometimes when we'd go to the amusement park nearby they'd ask if the neighbours if their kids wanted to go and take them with also. These things weren't very frequent, maybe once a year or once every two years. But there was that sense of 'ease' and dependability between them and us. |
| 07/17/02 at 12:46:06 |
| Aurora |
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| Saffiyah |
| 07/17/02 at 14:01:15 |
| [slm] I was going to basically give the same advice...the thing we normally do is give each other food esp on days such as eid...we sometimes exchange gifts for the little kids. But taking some food over is a good idea...since they mite not have much time to unpack and its a nice way for u to get to know them and vice versa. Like Aurora said...help them out in ways such as telling them when their rubbish is collected...when themilkman comes...what's available in the local area...local schools...bus stops...shops...just general stuff like that. If I was to move to a new neighbourhood it would just be nice to know that the neighbours are friendly and helpful....Just little things like smiling and saying hello would be nice and appreciated. :) Its good to build a relationship with neighbours as it can be handy when no-one is at home during the day or if ur on holiday...and u can trust ppl living around u to keep an eye on the house in case anything looks suspicious. |
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| tq |
| 07/17/02 at 14:56:00 |
| Assalamo elikuim As everyone has suggested , i think food might be good idea and also just be friendly with them, asking them if they need any help etc etc. What I did/do is ussually bake some traditionally cookies(Nan khatai- sort of like sugar cookies) and give them. One of our neighbour told me that she like Indian/Pakistani food - so when ever I make something nice , I send her. Suprisingly she loved pookra and biryani :) gulab jamun werent so hit but she loved kheer and qawami sawiayan :) (this is so funny but when they moved, i made some sawaiyan(vermicilli) and decorated with almonds saying "Welcome" !!!!) Wasalam tq |
| 07/17/02 at 14:57:26 |
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| Kashif |
| 07/17/02 at 16:46:37 |
| BrKhalid, and my fellow mods, i've got one thing to say: i am in tune with the masses! ehhhhhhhhhhh [Fonz style] Kashif Wa Salaam |
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| bhaloo |
| 07/18/02 at 01:11:16 |
| [slm] [quote author=Kashif link=board=madrasa;num=1026920360;start=0#4 date=07/17/02 at 16:46:37]BrKhalid, and my fellow mods, i've got one thing to say: i am in tune with the masses! ehhhhhhhhhhh [Fonz style][/quote] Oh you Britishers with your accents, let's get it right shall we? ;) It's pronounced and said: Aaaayyyyyyyy. Make sure your knees are slightly bent and feet are at a 45 degree angle, fists clenched with thumbs sticking up, arms sticking forward, but with elbows bent, with hands at waste level. [] |
| 07/18/02 at 08:57:12 |
| bhaloo |
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| gift |
| 07/18/02 at 03:31:36 |
| [slm] [quote author=bhaloo link=board=madrasa;num=1026920360;start=0#5 date=07/18/02 at 01:11:16][slm] Oh you Britishers with your accents, let's get it right shall we? ;) It's pronounced and said: Aaaayyyyyyyy.[/quote] lol :-/ *excuse me while i pick myself up off the floor* - the idea of a bro striking *The Fonz* pose is toooooo hilarious ;D with regards to your neighbours bro khalid - how about offering to help them move boxes/unpack etc - or as others have suggested you could take them some food [wlm] |
| 07/18/02 at 08:57:47 |
| bhaloo |
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| BroHanif |
| 07/18/02 at 17:03:17 |
| [slm] Well apart from being good you could perhaps also keep the noise down. When I bought the house from the previous owners they said one of the reasons that they were leaving were for was that the next doors were making too much noise. I was quite upset to hear this as my neighbour is a muslim. The other thing to note is whatever action you do will be immediatly noticed by your neighbours, if you keep the lawn clean i.e. free of crips packets and litter then it will leave a good impression otherwise....may Allah forgive us let it not be that from our actions people are truned away from Islam. Other pointers may be for example, say your gonna have a BBQ as well as inviting them over inform them that they may need to bring their clothes in fromt he washing line as they may smell of smoke... Anyway treat your nreighbours as you'd like to be treated... Salaams Hanif |
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| jaihoon |
| 07/18/02 at 17:12:31 |
| pray for them :) |
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| theOriginal |
| 07/19/02 at 09:42:42 |
| [slm] I have a question...somewhat related, but different, nonetheless: How do you guys deal with non-muslim neighbors? The true tragedy of living in a non-muslim country is that general Islamic etiquettes are misjudged. The community is diswraught, because most people prefer to be left alone. Alhumdulillah, I live in a nice community (almost completely non-muslim...the "muslims" around us are Ismaili.), but generally, the people are very nice. We send food to our neighbors on 'Eid (this is apart from the food we are supposed to distribute in the Muslim Community), but we also used to send them presents on Christmas. Recently, however, my parents became concerned about the virtue of this act, and have hesitated quite a bit to continue. I have read (I believe it is a Hadith) that neighbors include 40 houses in all directions. Well! In terms of practicality in the 'West', and with reference to the emphasis placed on neighbors in Islam, that seems to be a little difficult (not impossible, but difficult) to accomplish. Recently, a girl I went to high school with, her mother passed away. Apparently she had been severely ill for a very long time with Cancer, and then her family decided to pull out the life support (Oh ye Canucks! The hospital beds were limited :( ) Anyway, the point is, these people live across the street from me, and I didn't know, until her death, that she was ill. We saw the cars outside of their house, and then visited, our consolation too inadequate for a grief so great. The few weeks after that were very hard on me personally. I was lamenting the demise of community, but obviously I couldn't fix anything; I couldn't turn back time, to be able to meet our neighbor before her death. However, we digress. Your comments will be appreciated. [wlm] SF. |
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| Kathy |
| 07/19/02 at 10:51:11 |
| [slm] Yesterday I came home to a diaorama of NY City wth the World Trade Centers on my doorstep..... Later I found out it was my neighbor who left it for my son because she thought he would enjoy playing with it. She had no clue on how this anonymous gift would affect her Muslim neighbors.... |
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| ijtihad |
| 07/19/02 at 20:37:12 |
| Asalaamlaikum wr wb, [quote]I have read (I believe it is a Hadith) that neighbors include 40 houses in all directions.[/quote] I think the number is Seven. As for people who live in apartments, it will probably add another dimension. Wasalaam, Abid. |
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| Kashif |
| 07/21/02 at 08:52:23 |
| Fantastic article: --------------------- > From Abu Muntasir Assalaam 'alaikum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuhu. Innal hamdalillaah was-salaat was-salaam 'alaa rasoolillaah. +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ + The tragedy of our time is that we are thriving + + upon prejudices. Whatever comes from those whom + + we like, whether a party, sect or individual, we + + relish. If it comes from those whom do not favour + + then we dislike, repudiate or condemn it. + + Sometimes revelation itself is sifted through the + + sieve of prejudices! + +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ Muslims in Britain are there by the decree of Allaah. If we truly tried to build the qualities the last Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) possessed, da'wah would be a spontaneous and easy affair. Media resources, events and money are all useful but nothing beats the fruits of being the best neighbours. If we are shy then it is about time we came out of shells and reached out for the sake of Allaah as believers. The less we depend on books to do the work for us the better for everyone! The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) gave his people who included non-Muslims his best advice and tried his utmost to save them from the darkness of polytheism and idol-worship. Only Allah knows the great extent of hardship and pain the Messenger endured in pursuit of this path. An-Nawawi said, "The Muslim loves for a non-Muslim what he loves for himself, that is, to accept Islam. That is why there is permission to pray to Allah to guide the disbelievers to accept Islam. Also, the Muslim loves for his Muslim brother to stay firm on the path of Islam." Serve Allah, and do not join any partners with Him; and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, those in need, neighbours who are near, neighbours who are strangers, the companion by your side, the wayfarer and what your right hands possess: for Allah does not love the arrogant, boastful. [Soorah an-Nisa Aayah 36] On this basis, concern for neighbours is a religious duty, regardless of whether they are Muslim or unbeliever, and this is the sound opinion. [al-Qurtubi] Al-Jar al-Qarib means those who are related by blood and-al-Jar al-Junub means those who are not so related. This is the opinion of the majority. Others have said that al-Jar al-Qarib refers to Muslims and al-Jar al-Junub refers to non-Muslims, or that al-Jar al-Qarib refers to one's wife and al-Jar al-Junub refers to one's travelling companions. [Ibn Hajr in Fath-ul-Bari] The word Jar covers both Muslims and non-Muslims, religious and irreligious, friends and enemies, foreigners and fellow countrymen, those who treat you well and those who would do you harm, relatives and strangers, those whose house is nearer to yours and those who are further away. [Ibn Hajr in Fath-ul-Bari] Mujahid reported that 'Abdullaah ibn 'Amr had one of his goats slaughtered for him and then said to his servant boy, "Did you give a share of the goat meat to our neighbour, the Jew? I once heard the Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) say, "Jibreel (a'laihis-salaam) continued advising me about neighbours until I thought he was going to tell me that they have a share in one's inheritance as well."" [Bukhaari in "al-Adab-ul-Mufrad", Abu Dawud...] Abu Hurairah reported that a man asked, "O Messenger of Allah! There is a woman who prays, gives charity and fasts a great deal, but she harms her neighbours with her speech." He said, "She will go to Hell." The man said, "O Messenger of Allah! There is (another) woman who is well-known for how little she fasts and prays, but she gives charity from the dried yoghurt she makes, and she does not harm her neighbour." He said, "She will go to Paradise." [Ahmad] Abu Hurairah reported that the Messenger of Allah said, "He will not enter Paradise whose neighbour is not safe from his bad behaviour." [Bukhaari & Muslim] Abu Hurairah reported that the Messenger of Allah said, "...Like for people what you would like for yourself and you will be a believer. Treat your neighbours well and you will be a Muslim." [Ibn Majah] Anas reported that the Messenger of Allah said, "By Him in Whose hand is my life. No man truly believes until he loves for his neighbour - or his brother - what he loves for himself." [Muslim] Wassalaam 'alaikum wa rahmatullaah. -- "Take benefit of five before five: your youth before your old age, your health before your sickness, your wealth before your poverty, your free-time before your preoccupation, and your life before your death." [Muhammad sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam - al-Haakim, al-Baihaqee: Saheeh] |
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