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| dirt |
| 07/31/02 at 20:38:24 |
| [slm] If someone started making cat calls to your wife, would you ignore them and keep walking or would you confront the person? Would you get physical with them? Would you fight them? I am going to ask for the women's perspective in their cafe too. [wlm] |
| 07/31/02 at 20:43:28 |
| dirt |
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| Kathy |
| 07/31/02 at 22:11:03 |
| ...and would your answer be different if we asked about your mother and sister? ...and how many would look at their wives and wonder what they did to entice this reaction. |
| 08/01/02 at 09:05:16 |
| Kathy |
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| Caraj |
| 07/31/02 at 23:42:51 |
| Hi this Cara's hubby, I would confront him and tell him it's not respectful. You can get more done with talking than fighting. I'd ask him what how would they like it if someone did that to their sister, mother or aunt. |
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| rchater |
| 08/01/02 at 01:25:43 |
| To fight or not to fight, that is the question! I'm a female first of all. Secondly whether or not I'd put up my fists would depend on the fellow that made the rude remarks. If he seems somewhat stable with an ounce of a brain, I'd talk it out with him. I'd explain that he wouldn't be so happy if someone was saying stuff like that to his mama or sis. If the person seems a bit thick headed, only a fist can penetrate his brain. But warn him first! ;D |
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| DeRayeMustafaMille |
| 08/01/02 at 16:30:11 |
| [quote author=dirt link=board=bro;num=1028162304;start=0#0 date=07/31/02 at 20:38:24] [slm] If someone started making cat calls to your wife, would you ignore them and keep walking or would you confront the person? Would you get physical with them? Would you fight them? I am going to ask for the women's perspective in their cafe too. [wlm][/quote] [slm] ;-) First of all it would all depend on the situation. It would depend on if I were there, but from the sound of the story I would be, so then I would definetly confront them. I would let them be fully aware that this lady is my wife, we both don't appreciate your comments and I (but this is just me)would request an apology. Not to me, but to my wife. Secondly, if they continued to act in such an ignorant manner, I would then have to correct the problem with my hand. So, yes! I would be one to feel very offended and I would react in such a way. |
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| Abu_Hamza |
| 08/01/02 at 19:02:57 |
| [slm] Without getting into what would be the *right* thing to do, or whether or not reacting in this way is Islamically proper or not ... I don't think I would do much thinking at that point, and I would make sure that the creep feels *really sorry* for what he did/said! I remember when I was really young, at a time when kids first learn their curse words and use them thinking they're "cool" without realizing their meanings too much. I remember when I was first cursed at using the Urdu curse word which involves one's sister ... the outcome of that was *not* pretty for the guy who had said the curse word. And I still remember that the guy *never* again insulted me using that word!! |
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| Ameeraana |
| 08/01/02 at 19:26:50 |
| You could always ask, "Do you kiss your mother with a mouth like that?" |
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| EdisonShi |
| 08/06/02 at 00:07:38 |
| I'd probably confront him and dominate him verbally/psychologly because that is what he was attempting to do to the Woman in my life. If he chose to escalate the situation than I'm not unaccostomed to dominateing physically. I would stop after he is beaten though and not continue to inflict damage after he is out. First and formost I would make sure the Woman (Wife, Sister, Mother) was safe and that she was OK with my confronting the man. It is her honor I fight for, so she should play a part in the desicion of how and if I fight. Nothing worse than winning and losing at the same time. |
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| muqaddar |
| 08/06/02 at 16:19:16 |
| [slm] There's a simple rule to that sort of situation... My dad was in a meat shop and was getting something for home when our next door neighbour (me and his kids had been fighting) started cursing my mum my dad just grabbed the carving knife and went for the bloke..... in some situations an ounce of action is better than a pound of thought |
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| EdisonShi |
| 08/06/02 at 17:21:58 |
| Unfortunately in this society we pay for our actions and Jail, Prison, Detention centers and Mental Institutions aren't where you can do the most good for your family. Just make sure the oppenent is the aggressor. Verbally, Postureing and Physically and than only beat him until he can no longer cause you or your family harm. Having witnessess that like you but are not related to you is important too. Keep on good terms with the cats in your neighborhood and they may go to bat for you after you went to bat on someone. |
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| Ameeraana |
| 08/06/02 at 19:11:34 |
| change of subject but speaking of a cat defending his/her owner -- If, say, my sister, or my father and I would play fight and I would scream for my cat, he used to come over and bite the attackers foot!! Once in a while he would get confused and accidentally bite mine!! :-* |
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| EdisonShi |
| 08/07/02 at 00:29:31 |
| Sounds like an interesting "cat" ;) |
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| muqaddar |
| 08/07/02 at 15:01:13 |
| [slm] Hey i taught my cat to fetch stuff ! I used to throw a cat toy and she would fetch it... we used to play hide and seek , she would hide behind the door and jump at me till i chased her up the stairs ! |
| 08/07/02 at 15:02:23 |
| muqaddar |
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| UmmWafi |
| 08/08/02 at 01:09:28 |
| [slm] Just one thought for u to ponder abt. Before u decide to confront or fight, have u given considerable thought to what the lady would say abt all these ? U know, u might be all huffy and puffy abt defending her honour but how does SHE want u to react ? if I was in a public place and someone catcalled me and my husband confronts him or fights him I would feel that more attention would be drawn to me and that would increase my humiliation. In such a situation, I would have preferred it if both me and hubby just istighfar and move away from the scene of syaitaan. After all, battles are won in many ways no ? But then again, what would I know ? Wassalam. |
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| muqaddar |
| 08/08/02 at 17:47:15 |
| [slm] Good point Ummwafi...discretion is better part of valour escort the lady home ..take photo of him with my t68 then post his photo to all my mates and they kick his [edited by admin] next time they see him....in any part of the country Admin Note: Please refrain from swearing. Jazakallah Khair |
| 08/09/02 at 04:00:50 |
| jannah |
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