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Ameeraana
09/22/02 at 14:30:03
I have been wearing hijab now outside of work. I am very happy to do so and by Ramadan I will be also wearing hijab at work. I've discussed this with my supervisors and management and they so far have not had a problem with it.  I just wanted to let them know ahead of time so its not a complete shock when I do.

Well, last night I went to the movies and I was stared at more than the two weeks I have been wearing hijab out in public!! It was uncomfortabel especially when I was waiting alone in there.  It won't stop me from doing so but it really is amazing how many people stare...

Ooh, I am simmering a pot of Vicks Vapor Rub to get the house permeated with it so I can breathe due to my cold.... I wonder what my cat is thinking about it?    --just a random thought!!

Ameera
Re: hijabi experience :)
Mohja
09/22/02 at 16:23:08
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mash'Allah sis ameera. It's so nice to hear you've been progressing in your quest to incorporate the hijab in your life :) May Allah[swt] continue to make things easy for you.Ameen!

so do you feel any change in yourself when you're wearing the hijab? one thing i noticed about myself is that i was getting less hot with the hijab (provided the fabric is good) than without . I think there's a scientific term for this ???

thanks for sharing and please keep us updated :)

wassalam
your sis
Re: hijabi experience :)
Ameeraana
09/22/02 at 19:12:47
[color=Red]Hmmm, It doesn't bother me in the sun yet...but then again here in Colorado its gotten much cooler than last month..but one silly thing...I can't take huge bites of food with the hijab on or it comes loose so it slows me down when I eat...which is a very good thing as I am trying to lose weight anyways....LOL        [/color]
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[color=Blue] I feel good when I wear hijab even if I get stared at because I am proud to be a Muslimah and I will not trade it for the world.  My friends are being very supportive with me and even one lady at work who asked why in the world I would ever become a Muslim and start even wearing hijab went out and bought a book and is learning about it herself!!  I am pretty much the feminist of all my friends so I think she was shocked I reverted since she probably only knows the stereotyped Islam.  But I think it is a very good thing she is trying to learn!![/color]


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Ameera




Re: hijabi experience  :)
Kathy
09/23/02 at 09:45:26
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Ways to make it easier to wear Hijab!

Hijabi tip #1: When going to the movies...wear a black scarf....no neon white ones... you will look like a light bulb!
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SisNur
09/23/02 at 11:13:35
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Congrats Sis Ameeraana for having started wearing the hijab so soon after your conversion. May Allah bless you always ...

Alhamdulillah, i was born a Muslim but only started observing the hijab when i was 20. It was after my first umrah that i decided to seriously wear the hijab.

Right after my return from the trip, i had an interview and when a friend saw that i was wearing a hijab, she actually asked me , "Do you think you will stand a chance to get the job going to the interview like this?" (being in this part of the world, some people can be quite skeptical and so on) ... I was shocked at her question but i replied politely that is Allah wills, anything can happen. And, Alhamdulillah i got the job without much difficulties! ... and there was no looking back from then on.  :-*

Wassalam ...
Your sis in Islam
Nora  :-)
Re: hijabi experience :)
Aabidah
09/23/02 at 23:32:15
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Mabrook sis Ameera, may Allahu SubhanaHu Wata'ala increase you and all of us in Iman, and keep that fire in our hearts burning, ameen....

Another sister i know also started wearing hijab.  She was afraid that friends at school would say s/thing to her, but Alhamdulillah they treat her no different.  It's been an experience for her as well, and she's still adjusting inshaAllah.....

just my two cents...

[wlm]
Betul
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Marcie
09/24/02 at 17:27:19
[slm] Sister Ameeraana

[quote]I can't take huge bites of food with the hijab on or it comes loose so it slows me down when I eat.[/quote]

Are you pinning the hijab under your neck?   ??? If you do this then it won't come off when you eat.   Just one of those tricks of the trade. :P

[wlm]

Marcie  :-)
Re: hijabi experience :)
an
10/01/02 at 12:55:30
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Sis Ameerana,
Alhamdullilah.. I'm so happy for you! I wish many muslims would feel the same as you...i.e. proud of being muslims instead of hiding their identities... wish they'd realise that Islam truly is beautiful, complete and perfect.....

Wassalam
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Madinat
10/04/02 at 20:50:29
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i was posting on a board b/c a woman asked about what hijab meant.  another sister posted she never wears it, and her mother never did.  i responded by saying that many women who do this always cover themselves to pray.  her response was this:

well i say the namaz without wearing a hijab as do many others in my mosque. so it is done...  however, i do see women who do wear the hijab during prayers bc of how they were raised. i dont bc i wasnt raised to do so. so at that point its a personal preference.
before prayers, i just make sure i am physically clean (like washing my face and hands or showering b4 going to the mosque) and emotionally clean.

my question is, does what u wear really dictate how pure your faith is?


i don't know how to respond.  i did not realize this was done.  is this permissible?  or am i just judging her?

[wlm] :-)
Re: hijabi experience  :)
Kathy
10/04/02 at 21:59:18
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I found this hadith:

It was narrated ‘Aa’ishah (aas) that the Prophet  [saw] said: “Allaah does not accept the prayer of a woman of child-bearing age unless (she covers herself) with a khimaar.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood, al-Salaah, 546; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan Abi Dawood, 596).


The deeper question of yours is her "pureness of faith." I think it is not right for us to decide that of another person.

She may be of deep faith, but of little understanding in this area.
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bhaloo
10/05/02 at 10:10:43
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I agree with Kathy's response and the hadith she mentioned is the proof for this, its very surprising that these women are praying without hijab.  At the masjid I go to, there is a woman there that prevents woman from entering the mosque unless they are wearing proper hijab, and if they aren't she gives clothes they can wear over their clothes to cover themselves.  I know at one jumah, the imaam refused to start the prayers until the women had proper covering.  
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Ghetto_Hijabi
10/05/02 at 16:26:03
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Mashallah Ameeraana!!  *hugz* I'm very happy for you!!!  May Allah subhana wat'allah bless you always!!! : :-*
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Madinat
10/05/02 at 19:50:20
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you want to know the response i got to that? ;)

[i]well in response all i have to say is thats all theoretical. sure, its been researched and documented by scholars, but until one goes before god and is judged by their actions and then can come back and tell the rest of us what we are doing is either right or wrong, its still all theoretical. and i dont believe that ALL SCHOLARS UNANIMOUSLY agree that total covering (except face and arms/hands) is waranted for true prayer. if so, then there wouldnt be imams who preach/believe that wearing the veil or full dress is not necessary but optional. remember, there are almost 72 various branches in islam, not everyone is going to agree at all times.
honestly, i think faith, no matter what scripture u believe in or not, its a personal decision. so before we debate about 'islamic obligations' of wearing the veil, i think the assumption should be that no one is truly sure of what god wants, what is proper moral conduct and what makes one's prayers more sufficient. (i am really not trying to debate your point, bc i can see its justifications.)

i dont deny that most believe that wearing the veil, covering of the head and body is the proper way of praying and believing and establishing their faith, but its not the end all, be all. its a personal decision or an enforcement of law.

thats just my view on it.[/i]

and then another sister posted:

[i]  posted October 05, 2002 03:15 PM                    
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Actually it's funny because covering the body and hijab is supposed to be done so that men don't see your body. When you are praying you usually are not in public or around men anyways so it shouldn't matter what you wear. And I've heard(not positive) that it's not even mentioned to dress modestly when you pray. The whole point is to dress modestly around other people. And hijab does not just include dress. It means modesty in general and this includes not directly looking into a man's eyes when talking("lowering the gaze") and definitely no handshaking or touching other men.
What is in the Quran is more important for me rather than what is said in hadith or what scholars say. The Quran is the ultimate source and law. I believe anyone can interpret it if you are educated. The way you pray is also not specified in the Quran. It just says to pray 5 times a day. The specified way most people pray is in hadith[/i]

i found this interesting because i only wanted to clarify so as not to give misinformation to non-muslims.  now it's as if i'm being told i'm judging them.  i think i'll give that other board a rest for a little while i restore my faith in my ummah.
[wlm] :-)

Re: hijabi experience  :)
Kathy
10/05/02 at 21:54:44
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[quote]but until one goes before god and is judged by their actions... [/quote]

Yikes.. anyone who addresses Allah swt as "god" should have alot more to be concerned about than a scarf!

anyone else notice this red flag?

I mean who else should we be most modest and most respectful toword? With her arguement, it would be similar to saying she would probably wear her favorite worn hang out clothes when she goes to meet the president.

In prayer we are praying as if Allah swt sees us and we see Him.
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Barr
10/06/02 at 08:19:20
Assalamu'alaikum,

From the responses received by Sis Madinat, it seems that there's a deeper and heavier issue with one of the sisters ie. their rejection of hadith.

What I've noticed about the the rejectors of hadith is that they (or most of them) don't feel that the concept of hijab includes covering of everything except the face and hands, as mentioned in the post.

So... for them to have the right perspective of hijab, is when they have the right perspective of Islam... otherwise... any debate/ discussion would not be productive.

As for the other sister... well, there are so many flaws in her argument. I just wonder which scholars hold such a view. As far as I know, sisters who hold those views are mostly feminists, and those who actively propagate such views are activists of such movement.

You may want to post wot most scholar's of AsSunnah wal Jamaah hold onto this... and possiblly relate to her abt the 73sects. Sorry, gotta cut this short.

Gotta go!


Allahua'lam :-)
10/06/02 at 08:45:29
Barr
Re: hijabi experience :)
se7en
10/07/02 at 01:29:07
as salaamu alaykum wa rahmatAllah,

[quote]honestly, i think faith, no matter what scripture u believe in or not, its a personal decision. so before we debate about 'islamic obligations' of wearing the veil, i think the assumption should be that no one is truly sure of what god wants, what is proper moral conduct and what makes one's prayers more sufficient. (i am really not trying to debate your point, bc i can see its justifications.) [/quote]

Hmm. We know that Allah has created us with a purpose.. so doesn't it follow logically that He has also given us the *means* to accomplish and fulfill this purpose? Allah is merciful, and He did not leave us to our own devices to figure out how to worship Him, or how to live our lives in a way that is pleasing to Him. [i]Wahy[/i] was revealed, and prophets were divinely chosen among men, to guide and teach us *how* to do what God wants and to fulfill our purpose.

Yes, faith resides in the heart, and it is something that can only be judged and determined by God. But it is God who defines faith, defines what behavior a person of faith should have. Not us, and what we personally feel is good or bad.

Being Muslim means we acknowledge that the line of prophets concluding with Muhammad [saw], and the line of revelation concluding with the Qur'an, were a divine means of communication by which God defined what we are to believe and how we should live our lives. And being Muslim means that we strive to live our lives by the definitions set down by this divine communication, and use that as a criterion for what is right or wrong, moral or immoral, for determining 'what God wants'; *not* our own personal opinions or understanding.

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[This is] a Book which We have revealed unto you (Muhammad), in order that you might lead mankind out of the depths of darkness into light - by the leave of their Lord - to the Way of Him the Exalted in power, worthy of all praise.

We sent not a messenger except to teach in the language of his own people, in order to make (things) clear to them. Allah allows to stray those whom He pleases, and guides whom He pleases: and He is Exalted in power, full of Wisdom.

-- Surah Ibrahim

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Allahu a'lam.

wasalaamu alaykum wa rahmatAllah
10/07/02 at 01:32:22
se7en


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