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| The Blues... |
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| theOriginal |
| 10/06/02 at 19:16:43 |
| [slm] Just out of curiosity...what do you guys do when you get the blues. You know? Just that regular, ol', down-in-the-dumps feeling, where you feel like nothing is going right. You try to fix things, and it just gets worse. Then you tell someone you trust about it, and either they look at you like this ----> ??? ??? ??? , or they "totally understand" what you are saying. (Why does it feel like they really don't?) And then you get all upset because you misrepresented how you feel, and you feel like either you seriously lack communication skills, or you have major issues with coming to terms with reality. Then, having done all that, you coax yourself, telling you that it's only matter of time, and things WILL get better. In the meantime, you must smile, get out of bed, go to school, go to work, and make sure only a limited (preferably not even one) number of people know how terrible you feel. Then, that failing, you find yourself crying uncontrollably (usually without due cause), and coming up with various theories about the human condition, or this tragedy that we can erroneously title "Relativism." Having exhausted all avenues of Ibadah....rather, allow me to rephrase myself -- having exhausted yourself after various forms of Ibadah, and after realizing that the only people you would really want to discuss this with are either a) dead, or b) really far away, you turn The Madina, and a bunch of strangers who couldn't care less. Anyway, I'm not saying I'm going thru this, just wanted some feedback. Wasalaam SF. |
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| Maliha |
| 10/07/02 at 07:41:45 |
| [slm] Awww...We all go thru' our ups and downs...and sometimes the downs seems really low, and the light sooo far away:( I don't know. I normally go through times like that when my ibaadah is not on par. When I am not reading Quran as much as I should, and not doing dhikr, etc. then it starts with just a little irritation, and things start going just not right, and it blows up to be this "I don't wanna do a thing" phase. But it's normally just that a phase! So, i just know its time to increase my daily dose of Quran, prayer, and dhikr. Go for long walks, especially now. The weather is very pretty (where i am at) and its perfect to clear up your head and put things in perspective. Make dhikr on the way, focus on the beauty of the flowers, the falling leaves, the golden/reddish hues of sunset, the butterflies, and flocks of evening birds returning to their nests. Say Subhana Allah at every miracle of creation you see around you... Alhamdullillah for all the blessings Allah has bestowed onto you...Sometimes we forget...that no matter what trial we may be going through it is *nothing* compared to the multitude of blessings Allah has showered us with. My sis, gave me a beautiful way of making duah to Allah and that is to specifically mention everything you are grateful for by name. "Alhamdullillah for my sight, Alhamdullillah for my ability to move, to talk, to pray, Alhamdullillah for life, ...etc. etc" And soon you realize you are exhausted and still you aren't done...and that's bound to cheer you up...realizing Allah's infinite Mercy enveloping us at all times. I love writing. So that helps me. Sometimes when I am feeling blue..I just write about how blue I am feeling and why...and it's cute when I look back at it later..and realize just how melodramatic I can actually be at times :-/ Don't dwell on the negative...and if you find yourself alone and dwelling call up your girlfriend, sis, whoever, go to your favorite dessert store and have some yummy dessert :-* And it's okay to cry :'( sometimes we just need to let it out...there is so much going on around us, that it does build up inside, and if you are sensitive its bound to get to ya. but jus' don't over do it...and remember to drink a [] when you are done. And thank Allah :) Okay, i am done...I know you aren't really going thru' this..but it was easier to write it like you are:) and also, we do care ;) Sis, Maliha :-) [wlm] |
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| theOriginal |
| 10/07/02 at 13:26:13 |
| [slm] Thank you. A friend of mine went on a two-week long vacation with all my notes for the lectures of two classes from the past month. When she called, I took a lot of built-up anger out on her. She FedEx-ed me the notes from Trinidad :( Now I feel even worse. I guess the cycle is going to last longer than I initially hoped. And. I miss my family. Wasalaam. SF. |
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| Kathy |
| 10/07/02 at 16:15:16 |
| [wlm] "What actions are most excellent? To gladden the heart of human beings, to feed the hungry, to help the afflicted, to lighten the sorrow of the sorrowful, and to remove the sufferings of the injured." (Bukhari) I find that when I am depressed I do some of the above things.... volunteering at the school always lifts my spirits. |
| 10/07/02 at 16:15:56 |
| Kathy |
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| eleanor |
| 10/08/02 at 01:08:18 |
| [slm] I often miss my family too :( I find the best thing to do is to listen to some music from home, eat some food from home, or just get on the phone and talk to them. Again when I have the blues I usually get in contact with my family somehow and after that I feel like they are near me and I can overcome anything when my family are near me :) |
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| an |
| 10/08/02 at 12:58:53 |
| [slm] A sister from another mailing list posted this. Thought you might like it. Just Remember When things are down And you are out of your mind Just Remember Allah is The Kind. When your life is in darkness And nothing is right Just Remember Through the darkness, Allah is The Light. When nothing makes sense And your heading for demise Just Remember It doesn't make sense, but Allah is The Wise. When times are troubled And no one seems to care Just Remember Allah won't hurt you, He is The Fair. When your heart is breaking And your pain makes you fall Just Remember Allah Sees it all. When you are weak And the road seems long Just Remember Seek strength from The Strong. When life is a burden And everything is unstable Just Remember Allah is The Able. When the way is cloudy And there is no one by your side Just Remember Allah is The Only Guide. When no one wants to listen Or is willing to lend an ear Just Remember Allah is always ready to hear. When you are poor and penniless And you are stuck in a niche Just Remember Allah is The Rich. When you are down in your misery And there is nowhere to run Just Remember You can always run to The One. When you're all alone And your pain has no end Just Remember Allah is the only one you can depend. And when your scars are hurting And your heart is in fear Just Remember Allah is really here. [i]"O you who believe! Remember Allah with much remembrance. And glorify Him early and late. He it is Who blesses you, and His angels (bless you), that He may bring you forth from darkness unto light; and He is ever Merciful to the believers."(33:41-43) [/i] [color=Blue][i]"Sub Haan Allah" "Al Hamdulillah" "La ila ha IlAllah" "Allahu Akbar" [/i] [/color] |
| 10/08/02 at 13:10:05 |
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| Zahra |
| 10/10/02 at 17:36:05 |
| [slm] When I was in primary school we learnt a song which I still remember today: When you are feeling bad,whenyou are feeling sad Say La ilaha illallah Then you wont feel sad ,then you wont feel sad Whenyou say La ilaha illallah Only Allah,only Allah can help you He is here,He is here He is near,He is near Only Allah can help you! Make lots of dua to Allah,read your salaat and dont ever,ever think you are alone.May Allah make it easy for you! [wlm] :-) |
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